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Sexless marriage: Millions of moms are in one, yet it's taboo to talk about it. Momlogic asked 2,500 married women to reveal the dirty details about their sex lives after marriage and we were shocked by what we found--half found sex to be a depressing, embarrassing or a hassle! PLUS: Three moms and a deprived husband share their stories of sexless marriage. AND: Expert advice for spicing up your relationship.

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The most eye-opening findings:

50% of women find sex either depressing, embarrassing or a hassle: We also found out that although 77% of the women claim their sex life is somewhat to very important to them, 54% of married women admit they're the ones who don't want to have sex.

According to 29% of married women, they're just too tired:Not too surprising--at least to those of us with young kids-- that this was the main reason women say they don't want to have sex.

What would women rather do than have sex?
• 24% would rather take a bubble bath.
• 26% would rather read a book.

Also, according to our survey:
• 23% of the women who have sex do it because they love their husbands and want to make him happy.
• 49% of the women have sex because they want it.
• 26% of the women surveyed say their sex lives took a turn for the worst after they had children.

Even momogic contributor, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Shannon Fox was surprised by the results of our survey. "It is sad to see that half of the women polled described their sex lives as depressing, embarrassing or a hassle. That is a lot of unhappy women! That means that even the women who are having sex more often aren't happy with the quality of the sex they are having."

But on the flip side, although things look bleak when it comes to married sex, Shannon Fox says, "77% say of the women say that their sex life is important. I've found that the husbands in sexless marriages are often shocked to discover that their wives think sex is important. Spouses in sexless marriages often feel neglected and that their desires are unimportant to their mates."

Shannon Fox adds, "It is not surprising to see that the frequency of sex decreased for many couples after the birth of their first child. Many women report less opportunity for sex, dislike for their post-baby bodies and sheer exhaustion as the main killers of their sex lives after children."

According to statistics, living in a sexless marriage is VERY common; however, for some reason, it is still one of the most taboo subjects around. But we found three moms who invited us into their homes (and marriages) and shared their own experiences of being in a sexless marriage. And it's not all what you'd think...

A deprived husband turns to momlogic to help save his sexless marriage. Keep reading for the complete interview.

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191 comments so far | Post a comment now
Dani August 12, 2008, 8:37 PM

It sounds like you need to sit him down and tell him that you are not happy with your sex life and why. Talk to him about spicing it up a little and let him know that you appreciate his willingness to change it up but you need him to stick with it, not go back to the same old dull routine. I can’t imagine NOT having sex with my boyfriend..and we’ve known each other 23 years! As for the previous posting by Just Do It..guys, if it’s not any good, we don’t want it and if we don’t want it, we can also find someone else who can perform up to our standards.

Anonymous August 12, 2008, 8:38 PM

Hey, they can have him!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous August 12, 2008, 8:42 PM

you know, sometimes people are just tired. I have 2 little kids and I work as a teacher and at night I am just exhausted. And then when he just starts groping…it is a turnoff. A little romantic gesture goes a long way into being a turn on, grabbing a butt or boob not so much. I am not saying that is how all men are but maybe more women would be in the mood and wake up a bit if there was something to look forward to rather than just “doing it!”

Noname August 12, 2008, 8:43 PM

What about the women who are in sexless marriages and it is the HUSBAND who doesn’t want sex? Has anyone ever looked at that? I have never seen anything about the reverse, is that because everyone thinks that is is always the woman who doesn’t want it??

Maureen August 12, 2008, 8:45 PM

My husband has no interest.. he makes the choice to ignore me, to stay in his basement with his tech stuff, to walk away when I bring up the subject.. or ANY subject he is not confortable with. He is either gay, low testosterone, or having affair with a woman. I am not fat and ugly! LOL

Jane August 12, 2008, 8:49 PM

This website never seems to have anything good to say to women or about women. This “survey” is so unscientific and inaccurate its not even funny. Statistics are so easily misunderstood and misrepresented. DO NOT immediately believe when you read something so shocking. A truly scientific survey would poll women from all over the country, all backgrounds, all races, all ages, etc. Not just whoever happens to visit this website and answer some questions. This website is all about telling women they aren’t good enough for their husbands, as if the husbands are flawless. Maybe there is nothing wrong with the woman, maybe there is something wrong with BOTH spouses, in terms of communication and connection. Maybe she feels no love from her husband, only when he’s horny. And what about millions of women who’s husbands don’t want sex? I have seen VALID studies done on that. Funny how there’s no survey on that. It’s always there’s something wrong with the wife, she isn’t doing enough to make her man happy. Never mind what he’s not doing for her or what they BOTH aren’t doing for each other.

Don Hill August 12, 2008, 8:50 PM

Very simple mathmatics….if he doesn’t get sex at home, there’s a chance he will roam.

Dee August 12, 2008, 8:52 PM

Well Don maybe he should talk to his wife about what’s going on instead of being a low life and betraying her.

anonymous August 12, 2008, 9:01 PM

why is it thewomen’s fault?
plrnty of mrn hsve sex at home(good sex) and still cheat

MJ August 12, 2008, 9:04 PM

Well maybe 54% dont want to have sex bc it SUCKS? Kids do put a damper on sex! but theres 24hrs in the day. if you really wanted it you would do it. Maybe those people interviewed just dont like there spouse and dont want to have sex with that person! I cant get enough sex so i have to go outside the house to get more! But what he doesnt know wont hurt him right ladies! I find it made my sex life better bc i can get what i need 7days a week ! :PPPPPPPPPPPP

Anonymous August 12, 2008, 9:06 PM

Maybe the men should be getting their wives in the mood - instead of - come on baby let’s do it

Chris August 12, 2008, 9:06 PM

MY WIFE IS EXCITED BY ME AND OTHER MEN SHARING HER

Chris August 12, 2008, 9:10 PM

I would help if some of you women took care of yourselves instead of letting yourselves look like a ol’ bag.

Birmingham August 12, 2008, 9:12 PM

I agree, if married men aren’t getting it at home..they are getting it anywhere they can.

BoredHousewife August 12, 2008, 9:13 PM

I agree. I am so totally annoyed at my husband’s constant whining for sex. I need variety as do most married women.

Chris August 12, 2008, 9:15 PM

How about public sex?….

NANCY August 12, 2008, 9:15 PM

TO RESPOND TO JESUS……AS A MARRIED WOMEN WITH 3 CHILDREN IT IS NOT UNCOMMON SOMETIMES TO FEEL INSECURE ABOUT HOW YOUR BODY HAS CHANGED. I THINK IF MY HUSBAND WOULD GIVE COMPLIMENTS WITHOUT BEING ASKED (& I VERY RARELY ASK) I THINK I WOULD BE A LOT MORE INTERESTED IN HIM. MEN DON’T REALIZE HOW LITTLE IT WOULD TAKE TO HAVE THEIR WIVES WANT TO BE WITH THEM.

patty August 12, 2008, 9:18 PM

I have sort of the similiar problem. My husband and I have two sets of twins and I very rarely have sex. Unless I initiate it. Our kids are 13 and 11. He works nights and goes to school 3 x a week so he is tired plus mowing the lawn and taking care of the house. But I work also at the school my kids attend. I make dinner and pay all the bills but I am just not satisfied with this. I am also overweight and I think this has alot to do with it also. I also have caught him on his laptop looking at porn. I dont have anything against it but hey if you are looking at that then find some time for me.

Chris August 12, 2008, 9:20 PM

WOMAN WAS MADE FROM RIB OF MAN….DUE YOUR WOMAN TASK’S, AND SERVICE YOUR MAN.

Lisa August 12, 2008, 9:22 PM

Romance is lacking in my marriage. I don’t just want to have “sex”, I want to “make love” with my husband. I keep telling him to be more romantic and be passionate, and take his time. I don’t want a quick roll in the hay. To me it’s not worth the effort. But passionate love making can go on for some time.


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