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Sexless marriage: Millions of moms are in one, yet it's taboo to talk about it. Momlogic asked 2,500 married women to reveal the dirty details about their sex lives after marriage and we were shocked by what we found--half found sex to be a depressing, embarrassing or a hassle! PLUS: Three moms and a deprived husband share their stories of sexless marriage. AND: Expert advice for spicing up your relationship.


The most eye-opening findings:

50% of women find sex either depressing, embarrassing or a hassle: We also found out that although 77% of the women claim their sex life is somewhat to very important to them, 54% of married women admit they're the ones who don't want to have sex.

According to 29% of married women, they're just too tired:Not too surprising--at least to those of us with young kids-- that this was the main reason women say they don't want to have sex.

What would women rather do than have sex?
• 24% would rather take a bubble bath.
• 26% would rather read a book.

Also, according to our survey:
• 23% of the women who have sex do it because they love their husbands and want to make him happy.
• 49% of the women have sex because they want it.
• 26% of the women surveyed say their sex lives took a turn for the worst after they had children.

Even momogic contributor, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Shannon Fox was surprised by the results of our survey. "It is sad to see that half of the women polled described their sex lives as depressing, embarrassing or a hassle. That is a lot of unhappy women! That means that even the women who are having sex more often aren't happy with the quality of the sex they are having."

But on the flip side, although things look bleak when it comes to married sex, Shannon Fox says, "77% say of the women say that their sex life is important. I've found that the husbands in sexless marriages are often shocked to discover that their wives think sex is important. Spouses in sexless marriages often feel neglected and that their desires are unimportant to their mates."

Shannon Fox adds, "It is not surprising to see that the frequency of sex decreased for many couples after the birth of their first child. Many women report less opportunity for sex, dislike for their post-baby bodies and sheer exhaustion as the main killers of their sex lives after children."

According to statistics, living in a sexless marriage is VERY common; however, for some reason, it is still one of the most taboo subjects around. But we found three moms who invited us into their homes (and marriages) and shared their own experiences of being in a sexless marriage. And it's not all what you'd think...

A deprived husband turns to momlogic to help save his sexless marriage. Keep reading for the complete interview.

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Jen August 12, 2008, 9:29 PM

I have the total opposite thing going on… I’m a 45 year old woman (also mother of 2) and my husband is the one who is way tired! How can you be too tired for sex??? It doesn’t have to take long. I feel like I am ALWAYS the initiator!!! I’m in the best shape of my life right now and I want (need) to feel desired, sexy and alive! I really do NOT want to stray but I’m starting to notice being noticed by others…. help!!!

Ash August 12, 2008, 9:32 PM

After being treated like personal slave and combining more finances while he gets to spend our money…… I am just waiting until my degree is done and I will reastblish and run. So if you truely love your life do not leave spit in sink, crap all over floor (clothes,food imporant papers crumpled up), do not tell her you butter the bread and that is what pays the bills when she has earned twice your sallery, do not ask her why she doese not work out like she use to while you hand her your uniforms to press as she cooks dinner and helps the kids with homework(and she still has her college work to do). I give in to shut him up, I let live a lie just to know when I am back in the states I will be able to leave with no problems.

annonymous August 12, 2008, 9:34 PM

i am not interested in sex because .my husband ignores me except when we are having sex. he doesnt share his life with me and he is very wrapped up in his job.i dont feel close enough to him to have sex with him.

Gen August 12, 2008, 9:34 PM

I’ll tel you why women don’t want to have sex often after children. You spend all day caring for, feeding, talking to little ones and your husband comes home and thinks (whether you work outside the home or not) that you’ve done nothing but watch Soaps all day. He comes home and it’s nothing more than another child begging for your attention. And if he doesn’t get it temper tantrum time. You know what? You’re big boys, deal with it. Here’s a little surprise for you men….IT’S NOT ALWAYS ALL ABOUT YOU!

jrpanther August 12, 2008, 9:42 PM

being married for 13 yrs., i agree to a certain extent on solving problems within the marriage. the problem exists when there is no compromise. as a husband who has tried extensively, i finally just gave up!!! everytime, it’s something different. everytime i try to find what’s “bugging” her, it’s a new excuse!! screw it!! find it somewhere else, and the one day a month she “wants” it, just let her have it…

mags August 12, 2008, 9:47 PM

what is wrong with these women???

Anonymous August 12, 2008, 9:49 PM

Sex was never a problem until I realized I didn’t know my husband and I got tired of moving on after his breaches in trust. I don’t like him. So I do not want sex with him. It is very sad because I stay fit and love sex but now I do not have anyone to do it with. I will not allow a man who has betrayed me and our children to enter my body. For the record. The real reason women don’t want sex is that they are angry with their spouse. Sometimes it goes away, sometimes it escalates. And men? Maybe the same thing, and/or stress, and/or they are getting it elsewhere.

yeah right August 12, 2008, 9:50 PM

CHRIS…. you are prehistoric and disgusting

Anonymous August 12, 2008, 9:54 PM

My husband has ED but wants sex often. He is into oral only. And after several yrs. of this I finally advised him that I don’t want to do oral all the time. I tried to talk to him about what I want for a change and he went to a doctor for some help. We have not tried that yet. Viagra does not really help him but he takes it. Why??? We are an elderly couple, not married long and should enjoy having intimacy but it is very difficult to communicate to an older person who has had his own way for awhile. Also, he is into porn on the computer over and over again.

are you kidding August 12, 2008, 9:55 PM


lydia August 12, 2008, 9:56 PM

If the hubby’s would help more around the house, and do more with the kids then the moms wouldn’t be so freaking tired. And how about a back rub or a foot message to help the mom relax and get in the mood. Wham bam thank you mama is NOT the way to get it!

karen August 12, 2008, 9:59 PM

what about women who want sex and their man doesnt seem interested anymore

Doria August 12, 2008, 10:01 PM

The sexiest thing a man can be is a good father!

johnf August 12, 2008, 10:07 PM

I never get it. Ibeg from my wife. I could cheat very easily but cant bring myself to do it. However I cant stand not having sex and I dont like to masturbate because I have a perfectly good woman in bed with me. I am not out of shape or ugly. Thats what i am told.
I am buisy with school,work,and 2 girls younger then 2yrs. I still want it every couple days not every couple months. I tell my wife I love her and she is gorgeous. I know she is buisy too so she shouldnt be cheating. What the hell right?

Noelle August 12, 2008, 10:07 PM

24 hours, remember. Try greeting your man with an almost innocent sweep of your lips on his neck…hot wet kisses on his mouth. Your day was tense…but his was, too. Don’t let him ‘start’ in the bedroom. Men like to be touched, rub his back…massage his arms. Touch him all over…really caress him. Seduce him until he aches for you. Now let him lead…men love being out of control, and also in control. Passion is love and sex. Tell him verbally, what he is to you.

panking peter August 12, 2008, 10:11 PM

I am in sexless marriage and if it were not for masturabtion I would have cheated. We just has not wanted sex and I love it. I love my wife. I just hope that I never get arthritis or my sex life will be over

Randi August 12, 2008, 10:11 PM

I love my husband dearly,I don’t want to have sex because it’s a waste of my time! After 1 MINUTE he’s done and I’m not. I’m supposed to be sexy dress seductive hose and heels,smell nice etc, I spend an hour or more to look nice and sexy and it’s over in less than a minute what’s the point! I’m just left with a mess to clean up and he grabs the remote, I have plenty of opportunities to step outside the marriage it’s not always the womans fault but we are quick to be blamed!

Janice August 12, 2008, 10:16 PM

I have the opposit problem I am a sex starved wife. My husband will not have sex no kiss no hug nothing. Believe me it is worse than a man not getting it. Makes you feel so unattractive. Kills your self esteem. I am not ugly or fat. I to have thought about an affair. We have a business and property togther and we are approaching retirment age. Will not give up what I have worked for all my life. It has been 5 years since we have had any intimacy. Toys just don’t replace human touch. Wake up women it could be worse. Your lucky they want you. I am jealous.

patty55 August 12, 2008, 10:39 PM

Well..I sure do not fit the mold. My first marriage was for 24 years and I was the more sexual one in the marriage. My husband still had affairs and was terrible to me. In my second marriage, my husband divorced me after 5 years together because I had trouble with trust. He said our sex life was great. Something does not add up here and as for open marriage, that is creepy. That means the woman who is married and allows her husband to sleep with other women doesn’t really care about him as much as her financial status. I don’t get any of it anymore and I am not even considering marriage again.

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