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When we saw this picture on Fail Blog, we couldn't believe it.

Wow, Daddy really didn't want to miss this bachelor party. What do you think--harmless infraction or child abuse?

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Anonymous September 6, 2008, 10:59 AM

oh come on.

momof9 September 6, 2008, 11:04 AM

If it were my baby I would have been angry with him for having her in an environment like that, but it is not child abuse in my book. The little one looks too young to really understand on any level what is going on and so even if daddy is what I consider to be pretty warped to bring her to a bachelor party I don’t see her having any lasting scars.

Anonymous September 6, 2008, 11:22 AM

Whether or not the child understands what’s going on is not the point, the problem lies in the fact that the dad doesn’t think anything is wrong bringing a child into that environment. When you become a parent, you are sacrificing some of the things you used to do for the sake of your child. His selfishness (and really, that’s what it is) may have been “harmless” this time, but if he continues with his belief that he can do the same things he used to do, it may become progressively worse and that child may be put in harm’s way.

Dr. Charles J. Sophy September 6, 2008, 1:11 PM

This is absolutely child abuse!
Dad is using poor judgement and not making appropriate decisions to keep his child SAFE. Remember, just because a child is not being physically or sexually harmed or starved, child abuse includes emotional, physical, sexual and intellectual abuse.
Unless you feel a child out of the womb is not a learning, growing, evolving human being, this IS child abuse.
I hope that if anyone knows who these people are, they will take the appropriate steps.
Dr. Charles J. Sophy
Medical Director of Los Angeles County Children & Family Services



Natalie September 6, 2008, 1:35 PM

Good freaking lord. What is wrong with people?!? Who, on earth, would take their child to a bachelor party that includes a STRIPPER?!?!? Really, that’s just asinine.

Nicole September 6, 2008, 2:40 PM

I don’t know if this particular situation would accurately be called abuse, but I do think that the judgment of the father should definitely be called into question. If he would bring a young child to a bachelor party, then well, what else would he consider appropriate? Some one should definitely be looking into the family situation here.

daywin September 6, 2008, 3:23 PM

are we sure that is not a women holing the kid? look at the shoes and the person in the background on the left looks like a women.

Dr. Marcus Canbury September 6, 2008, 4:01 PM

The person holding the child is not the target… it’s the man getting the lap dance.

I disagree with the above poster mentioning that it is not child abuse, or that the child won’t be affected. There are hundreds of kids who witness murders who are terribly scarred. No, I am not equating the child’s presence at a bachelor party to that of a murder; it’s that they do not understand the finality or concept of murder or death, but it still affects them.

Research in brain development clearly indicates that the emotional, physical and intellectual environment that a child is exposed to in the early years of life has a profound impact on how the brain is organized. The experiences a child has with respect to parents and caregivers significantly influences how a child will function in school and later in life.

This most definitely has the potential to completely alter the child’s perception, and adversely impact the child’s social well-being. Of course, it’s not certain that it will, but the potential is there.

I'm Opinionated September 6, 2008, 4:39 PM

I don’t consider it child abuse but I do think it’s wrong on many different levels. The parents don’t need CPS called on them but they do need to be told that it is very wrong. Let me actually look at the picture and see how bad it looks.

praying4baby#2 September 6, 2008, 5:58 PM


Not appropriate by ANY means,

but not classified as child abuse.

Morning September 6, 2008, 6:28 PM

The picture is just silly. Clearly, they couldn’t get a babysitter and definately weren’t going to miss out on the party. I don’t think it’s any different then watching stuff like this on television…what really matters is the parent’s message and conversation about sexuality and self-esteem. We don’t have a clear image of those conversations do we?

sheila September 6, 2008, 9:30 PM

You people who do not believe that this is abuse are idiots to say the least.

Rebecca Mincher September 6, 2008, 11:31 PM

That is wrong on every level - children are innocent and can make the decision to watch this stuff when they are older but as children we the adults make that decision for them and as far as I’m concerned they are innocent and we should try and keep them that way! Disgusting! This isn’t about being nude its about the context it has been put in.

Suzanne Eller September 7, 2008, 9:33 AM

It is incredible how much development is going on in the brain of a child under the age of two, and this is not a safe environment for a baby. Dad has put his choices or his needs WAY over that of his child.

Katie September 7, 2008, 1:17 PM

Wow, pretty inappropriate.

Granny September 8, 2008, 11:41 AM

After reading some of the comments, I would have to agree with most of you. This is indeed child abuse. What worries me is the teenage (pre-teen) girl in the background. This is not a woman, from the looks of her outfit and physical attributes, I would guess 14 years old at the most. As a grandmother I can tell you that if my children ever exposed my grandchildren to a scene such as this, DCF would be the last of their worries !!!!!! What is wrong with people today ????

omgimacheermom September 8, 2008, 5:14 PM

This is why there should be life guards in the gene pool…to keep idiots like this from having kids!

Renee September 8, 2008, 5:33 PM

Can you say white trash? We worry about our childrens educational programs being cut, too much TV, violent computer games, etc… It is SAD that we have to worry about ones own parent. What a sick person to let a child be in that environment. What is for xmas? Here honey, daddy bought you a playboy magazine. what a salf-absorbed inadequate moron.

charlottetucker September 9, 2008, 10:31 AM

i would kill my husband if he did this. good lord, what’s wrong with an adult who thinks exposing a child to sexual activities is in any way, on any level acceptable?

Jenna May 5, 2009, 6:47 AM

I would have to say that this situation qualifies as an indirect form of child abuse. As some of the previous posters have pointed out, abuse is sometimes more complicated than whether someone has been beaten, raped, or starved. There’s clearly an attitude of selfishness in the air, and that can be seen merely from a snapshot. What happened two hours after the picture, when everyone’s even drunker? Nobody knows, but speculation can only be sad. I don’t think the child should be arbitrarily snatched from these people, but an investigation should be launched to see whether this is the only such “party” this kid has been forced to attend. I can’t help but wonder - if this is what they’re proud enough of to photograph, what are they doing when the camera’s not looking?


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