Bristol & Jamie Lynn Deserve to Be Cheated On

 

Why are the titles of these “articles” almost always misleading? If I was an author of one of these I’d be pissed. Anyway, my parents were 18 when they had a shotgun wedding due to the fact that my mother was pregnant with me. They’ve just celebrated their 32nd wedding anniversary and are happily married. Yes, life has been difficult for both of them. My father never got to go to college, my mother never had a chance to be on her own, they had it rough financially, but they were able to raise their two daughters in a healthy and loving family atmosphere. (And by the way, I think we turned out pretty darned good.) Things weren’t perfect and they definitely could have used better emotional and mental support from their own parents and society in general. While my personal childhood experience has worked out for the better and I’ve chosen a different path for my own life (waiting to have my son when I was 30 years old and having been married for 6 years), I do know and understand that the majority of these teenage marriages don’t work out. How could they? However, I don’t think we should be so quick to judge on the outcome of these peoples’ relationships. It’s really none of our business. The cards are stacked against these kids enough, maybe some support and a little respect could go a long way in these cases. (By the way, I am not a fan of the Spears’ girls and most certainly not a supportor of Gov. Palin.)

- Tanya

Posted 09/24/08 07:45 AM

 

 

I don’t think it’s right to say their moms should encourage them to cheat. That’s kind of a weird thing to say. Anyhow, I also don’t think the boys should be forced into marriage. Yeah, they both screwed up but it is totally up to the mother to keep the baby or not. I was 20 when I had my first child and my husband was 24. His mom tried to force us to get married when I was pregnant. I said NO!! When we were ready we got married. Now it’s been 6 sometimes rocky years.

- ashley

Posted 09/24/08 08:04 AM

 

 

If these boys didn’t want to deal with being fathers at such a young age, they shouldn’t have been having sex. Getting pregnant is always a risk that you take when you have sex (regardless of protection), and they should have been ready to accept the responsibility of their actions - regardless of whether or not they had a say in if the child stays with the mother or not. And if they want to explore other relationships and not “settle down” right away, I personally think that they forfeited that right when they knocked up their girlfriends. Of course, that opinion is competely socially unacceptable nowadays. So in light of that fact, they should break it off with their baby mommas before moving on. And if they don’t want to have a relationship with the kid, that’s their choice, but they better cough up the child support. Props to the moms who have to deal with irresponsible teenage fathers who aren’t ready for the commitment of being a parent. It’s a shame that the girls are forced to grow up so quickly but that the fathers are not expected to make the same life changes.

- Kate

Posted 09/24/08 08:45 AM

 

 

“it IS the girl who got pregnant”????? HELLO, she needed him to do that, that’s not just something she does on her own!!! i would not encourage him to cheat on her either, they don’t have to get married (i believe that is the wrong reason to get married). but if you encourage him to cheat on her, what are you teaching him for his future relationships??? either he can be with her AND BE FAITHFUL even though they are not married, or not be married, take care of his child, and sleep with whoever he wants (and probably get another girl pregnant!). either be with someone or don’t! i have 2 sons and i would NEVER encourage them to cheat on someone and thank god my husband has the same thoughts and values because he would never encourage that either. if you don’t want to be with someone, just don’e be!!! how hard is that?

- Linney5680

Posted 09/24/08 08:57 AM

 

 

Interesting. I got pregnant at 19, married at 20, and here I am at almost 24 happily still married to the man of my dreams. It hasn’t always been easy, but I know that I’m going to spend the rest of my life married to him. But I also know that I’m prepared to do whatever work it takes to make my marriage as happy as possible. The kids that get pregnant these days don’t understand commitment, nor do they take their vows seriously. Maybe if their parents taught them how serious having a baby is, and how serious marriage is, then they’d rethink a lot of things. Personally, I will never encourage nor discourage my children from getting married at a young age. If that’s what they want, I will happily support them whether I think it’s right or not. And if they come crying home after two years saying it can’t work out, I’ll help them pick up the pieces and get their lives back together. If, however, my son gets a girl pregnant and doesn’t want to marry her, I’m going to make damn sure he has a full time job, is paying child support, and is having a relationship with his child. My son is not going to be an irresponsible human being. If he chooses to have sex, and that results in a baby, he’s going to take FULL responsibility for the child.

- Natalie

Posted 09/24/08 09:24 AM

 

 

This seems to take out the issue of personal responsibility to the CHILD involved. I’m not sure what the message is in this post, but I do know what I believe it should be: 1) wait to have sex until you are an adult and prepared for real life; 2) babies come from sex; 3) children deserve stability, and 4) take responsibility for your actions. Your post seems to say the exact opposite. It’s frustrating.

- Suzanne Eller

Posted 09/24/08 09:48 AM

 

 

Maybe the boy should of put a hat on his jimmy… Just like ‘she’ has to deal with the baby coming out of her body, maybe he should of dealt with ‘his’ body at the time of the act.

- Jill

Posted 09/24/08 09:55 AM

 

 

Wow, I don’t think they should need to marry their girlfriends either, but I definitely think if they are going to be irresponsible that they need to take full responsibility for their acions. They are choosing to be with the girl (and even choosing to marry) if they don’t want to be commited to them they should just say so. These girls are under just as much stress if not more, why cheat on them and break their hearts. Just be open and honest and end the relationship instead of going behind their backs and disgustingly cheating. Cheating is wrong no matter what age or circumstance. Maybe the reason is because, like in Jamie Lynn’s case, he just wants some spotlight and her money….

- Lindsay

Posted 09/24/08 10:54 AM

 

 

We just don’t make young people (and I’m saying this as a 28 year old) take responsibility for their actions! Teenage girls are perfectly capable of taking care of their children as are the fathers. Conditions may not be ideal, but it is possible. Teenagers all over the world have children everyday and there’s no out for them. My mother was 15 and my father was 20 (they married at 14 and 19 before I was conceived) and they were wonderful parents and are successful in life as well. For once can we say, “You did it now deal with it.” to BOTH parents. If you’re old enough to conceive, old enough to make the decision to do what it takes to conceive, then you should be ready to deal with the child!

- Renee

Posted 09/24/08 11:11 AM

 

 

Just seeing the title on this article really started to upset me. Then when I read the first paragraph I could hardly continue to read because it enraged me. I can’t believe that somebody would actually say what was said about it being the woman’s fault she got pregnant. I’m sorry but a woman can’t climb on top of herself and get herself pregnant. It takes a man to do with her. And I don’t care how old she is if the teenager and her teenage boyfriend are having sex and THEY get pregnant then I don’t see how anybody can tell the boy that he should go out and cheat if he wants to. It’s not just her fault she got pregnant. There are things that a man can do to prevent pregnancy along with the woman, but if you don’t do those things then you are both playing with fire. I know plenty of people who have gotten married at a young age because of pregnancy and some have worked but some have not. But you are never going to know unless you try. But along the same lines I know plenty of people who have decided to not get married at that moment and then a few years later they decide that the person they have spent their life with is the one they wanted to be with to start with and with that sometimes they decide that they don’t want to be together but they still raise their son or daughter together.

- Rachel

Posted 09/24/08 11:27 AM

 

 

I think that articles like these are posted on momlogic simply to spark interest and to enrage the readers. I find that to be pretty annoying that momlogic likes to abuse their readers by posting nonsense like this and then sitting back and watching them comment. Give us some real articles, please! And stop it with the annoying titles that don’t actually capture the essence of the articles. It’s annoying and deceiving, and I don’t think that it’s fair to your readers.

- Kate

Posted 09/24/08 12:35 PM

 

 

I completely agree with the writer. And I’m going to go one step further and say that if a boy does not want to have a child, and the girl does, then he should NOT be held responsible. It took two people to create the baby but why is it only one person’s (the girl) decision to have it? Although I’m not saying that abortion should be used as birth control, if an “accident” happens (and they do) and abortion is not an option for the mother but is for the father - then why should he be forced to suffer? I know this won’t be a popular opinion but it’s just how I fee.

- Anonymous

Posted 09/24/08 03:37 PM

 

 

Maybe I’m a little old fashioned, but I still believe in the “it takes two to tango” rule. I tell my 17 yr. old boy that if he plans on being sexually active he’d sure better use a condom, or keep his pants zipped!! My 20 yr old daughter has been told the same thing, she needs to make sure she’s got a fresh, sturdy condom with her if she plans on being sexually active, or the word “NO” NEEDS to be voiced, and if that doesn’t stop the action, an almost gentle knee to the groin will. As for cheating, that’s just an ignorant, lazy way to approach life. Everything in life can be difficult sometimes, marriage included, you have to work at it, or it won’t work at all. Marriage counselors say communication is key to a good marriage, and after 20yrs so far, my marriage is proof that compromise, honesty, communication and sometimes hard-work is worth it. Oh yes, and as for the too young thing, I married my high-school boyfriend, I was 16, he was 17 when we started going out, and married four years later when I unintentionally became pregnant. I’ve never regretting the path my life has taken!

- Suzanne

Posted 09/24/08 07:00 PM

 

 

Young adults/almost grown kids want it both ways, the ability to make adult decisions but certainly without adult consequences in everything, and we as a sociaty have indulged them. Sounds about right though considering most actual adults fly by the same policy and shurk responsiblity of their own whenever possible. And yes, if a 17 year old can decide to have sex with someone, then for all intents and purposes they DID choose their life partner. God’s plan is still best and more importantly right. And why condone the cheating? Along with lack of responsiblity, we are raising a dishonest generation. No we’re not perfect but lets a least attempt to be good and true.

- Jane

Posted 09/24/08 07:29 PM

 

 

I didn’t know the girl could get pregnant all by herself. Silly me, I thought men had to contribute the sperm. Bottom line is that it is both the girl’s and the boy’s responsiblity to care for the child. It takes two. Don’t blame it all on the girls, crappy mom.

- Anonymous

Posted 09/25/08 12:28 PM

 

 

I have been with my husband for 21 years! We started dating in high school when I was 15. We no whave 4 children 18, 17, 14, and 1. While it was a hard at times every marriage is. What if that were your daughter who had gotten pregnant….would you still want the father of your grandchild, the man your child loves to cheat? Truly you must be joking! While the wom,an does carry the burden of pregnancy it seems only fair thatshe would have the choice as to whether or not to keep that child. I pray that my daughter is never involved with your son!

- Christy

Posted 09/25/08 07:01 PM

 

 

YOu make me sick yes it is the girls decision to keep the baby and her boyfriend should be right behind her for he is the one who got her pregnant in the first place its not like the girl wanted to get pregnant in the first place! and the fact that you encourage people to cheat on their girlfriends they need to take some responsibility becuase if they didnt want the child they shouldnt have had sex in the first place and most of the time it is the man who mentions the idea of sex to begin with i wish your son could get pregnant. And for the whole bristol palin thing yes she was flaunting her boyfriend but have you ever considered maybe she was flaunting the fact that even though they are going through a rough time they are working through it

- SICkof u people

Posted 09/26/08 03:20 PM

 

 

It’s just this kind of thing that makes me question people’s common sense. First thing, If you have sex, you pay the consequences regardless of whether you are male or female. This sounds like a bitter diatribe of a parent whose child made a bad decision and they are in utter denial. Consistently making excuses so your child can sow his wild oats without having to be responsible, is utterly disturbing. Here’s an idea, don’t do it if you are not responsible enough to handle to consequences. This author should be ashamed of themselves!

- Megan

Posted 09/26/08 03:30 PM

 

 

It is not old fashioned to think that teenagers should not be having sex. It is not outdated to think that anyone should wait to have sex until they are married. It is simply a matter of having morals and self control. Now, whether or not a teenager made the decision to have sex with his girlfriend, or her boyfriend, each made a decision. When the decision was made not to use protection, a decision was also made to deal with the consequences of what may come of it. Keep your pants on or take responsibility for the baby you made, and that includes trying your hardest with the baby mama or baby papa. I would not want either one of my children in this position at any point in their lives and I will do my best to teach them abstinence, however, if my son were to have a moment of weakness, he will have a responsibility to the girl he got pregnant and his child. And let me add just how horrible the title to this article is.

- Lisa

Posted 09/26/08 04:43 PM

 

 

obvioulsy you are stuck in a marriage with a man who must not love you and that is why you are trying to rain on their parade i mean give me a freaking break mind your own buisness again just because you are probably a miserable divorced person dont try to speak for their marriage your shrud.

- Anonymous

Posted 09/26/08 04:56 PM

 

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