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Bristol & Jamie Lynn Deserve to Be Cheated On

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If I were Levi Johnston or Casey Aldridge's mother, I'd encourage them to cheat on their teenage baby mama.

Casey Aldridge and Jamie Lynn Spears and Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston

Guest blogger Losing Patience says it's unrealistic to think teenage love can survive a baby:

When I read about teenage mothers like Jamie Lynn Spears and Bristol Palin, I cannot help feeling sorry for the babies' fathers. It is ultimately solely the girl's choice to keep the baby -- the father, in most cases, has no voice in the matter. Of course they both had sex and they both failed to use birth control adequately, but, it IS the girl who got pregnant and therefore SHE is the one who ultimately will have to deal with it. Realistically, it is going to be her responsibility -- like it or not.

If I were Casey Aldridge or Levi Johnston's mother, I would absolutely discourage my son from getting married. It is hard enough to survive a marriage in your thirties, let alone as a teenager. Adding a child into the mix only increases the odds of failure. I would not want my son to have to have to choose his lifelong partner at an age when he's not even fully formed yet. How is someone he has sex with at 17 supposed to be the right person for him when he's 60?

That's why when I hear rumors that these young men have cheated on their baby's mom, I am not shocked, nor do I blame them. What young, good-looking man wants to settle down and have a baby? You never hear about boys in high school who long to be a dad, right? Or men who "trap" women into being a parent. Remember how Bristol Palin happily dragged baby daddy Levi onto the stage at the Republican National Convention as if she had won a prize? He looked as if he was contemplating how his new found celebrity could get him laid.

I'm not saying these boys shouldn't have to provide for their child, I just don't think they should have to commit to the girl. And, for the record, if my daughter got pregnant and wanted to keep the baby, I would discourage her from getting married too. The expectation that they would live happily ever after is both unrealistic and outdated.

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Happily Married and Happily ChildFree September 26, 2008, 6:21 PM

So “teen mothers deserve to be cheated on”, huh? In this dangerously overpopulated world, careless reproduction is surely a great misfortune and a reprehensible lapse of responsibility. BUT it seems clear that what confused, sloppy teenage mothers “DESERVE” is a set of parents who have the intelligence to impart knowledge of CONTRACEPTION. There is no excuse for an unwanted pregnancy, and parents are still the ones responsible for their teens’ awareness or lack of it. I believe this blogger was being deliberately provocative for the sake of attention, but I must add that most people consider infidelity a deeply painful prospect — so perhaps it is judgmental folk who deserve to be cheated on. See the issues clearly. Why excuse males from all blame with a “boys will be boys” attitude? How does that help anybody? CONTRACEPTION and EDUCATION.

Anonymous September 27, 2008, 1:59 AM

This is anything but logical.

Ms S October 1, 2008, 10:10 PM

Why should the boy pay for a child if he decides not to have it and she does? Because it is her body that will experience the pregnancy and abortion you idiot! how many “boys” would just say no thanks to supporting a child that he helps create and leave it all up to the women who for whatever reason cannot go through an abortion? Are you kidding?? A “boy” should be ‘man” enough to face the consequences just like a “girl” will fully realize what it means to be a “woman” if they play the game of repoductive rhoulette.

Anonymous October 2, 2008, 1:56 AM

Oh geez…teach your sons that unprotected sex leads to babies. It’s not that hard of a concept. And if they want to do something stupid, then teach them to stand up and take responsibility. Because ultimately it is the responsibility of BOTH to care for that innocent little baby they created. There are consequences for everything. Perhaps if a young, good-looking 17-year-old isn’t ready to settle down and have a family, then perhaps he should buy a condom or two.

lynne October 8, 2008, 9:02 PM

I myself was a teen mother who got married at 16 because I thought I was doing the right thing but the marriage only lasted 8 months. We just weren’t meant for each other or were we ready to be married. But to encourage someone to cheat is outrageous what does that teach your child about relationships? They do not have to be together to raise the baby but if they do decide to be together they should be expected to be faithful to one another.

Jenn April 27, 2009, 5:57 PM

Seriously? What in the world is mom logic about this?? Holy moly.

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