Guest blogger Losing Patience says it's unrealistic to think teenage love can survive a baby:
When I read about teenage mothers like Jamie Lynn Spears and Bristol Palin, I cannot help feeling sorry for the babies' fathers. It is ultimately solely the girl's choice to keep the baby -- the father, in most cases, has no voice in the matter. Of course they both had sex and they both failed to use birth control adequately, but, it IS the girl who got pregnant and therefore SHE is the one who ultimately will have to deal with it. Realistically, it is going to be her responsibility -- like it or not.
If I were Casey Aldridge or Levi Johnston's mother, I would absolutely discourage my son from getting married. It is hard enough to survive a marriage in your thirties, let alone as a teenager. Adding a child into the mix only increases the odds of failure. I would not want my son to have to have to choose his lifelong partner at an age when he's not even fully formed yet. How is someone he has sex with at 17 supposed to be the right person for him when he's 60?
That's why when I hear rumors that these young men have cheated on their baby's mom, I am not shocked, nor do I blame them. What young, good-looking man wants to settle down and have a baby? You never hear about boys in high school who long to be a dad, right? Or men who "trap" women into being a parent. Remember how Bristol Palin happily dragged baby daddy Levi onto the stage at the Republican National Convention as if she had won a prize? He looked as if he was contemplating how his new found celebrity could get him laid.
I'm not saying these boys shouldn't have to provide for their child, I just don't think they should have to commit to the girl. And, for the record, if my daughter got pregnant and wanted to keep the baby, I would discourage her from getting married too. The expectation that they would live happily ever after is both unrealistic and outdated.