Have you hit yours?
The trophy wife, the convertible, the lap dances ... yes, that's right -- we're talking about the classic midlife crisis. No one thinks twice when it happens to men. But when it happens to mothers, it's an entirely different story.
But when it happens to mothers, it's an entirely different story -- and so we thought it deserved an entirely different name. That's right, ladies ... welcome to your Momlife Crisis.
Jodi*, a soon to be 40-year-old working mom from suburban New York might have put it best: "I feel that in my 30s it was about responsibilities. You're married now, you're paying bills and having children. I lost a decade where I gave to everyone but to me. I lost my individuality."
For so many moms, trying to find that individuality again is what sparks the crisis. It's waking up as Jodi did and finding that the past several years of your life went by in a blur. Sure, she has two wonderful kids to show for it, but sometimes, that's simply not enough. "Life went in the wrong direction -- I'd love to go out and do something I love but because I'm a mom, instead I have to go to back-to-school nights. What I wouldn't give to not have to go home and pack lunches and answer to anyone."
Now don't get the wrong idea here -- it's not that these moms want to totally ditch the family (although they might fantasize about it sometimes). But for many moms, it's about finally putting their foot down and making their needs as much of a priority as everyone else in your family. This isn't being selfish, it's survival.
Jodi is working on her solution. She runs regularly: "It's therapy cause I'm by myself -- alone and I let my mind go." She also enrolled in an art class as well and mastered some insane moves in her pole-dancing class. (See, husbands can actually benefit from a Momlife crisis.)
And then (of course) there are the countless moms who deal with their Momlife crisis in their own way: a boob job, Botox, a tummy tuck or even an affair. Whatever your solution, just make it a point to find that thing that makes you feel better about yourself. Because remember, you're a mother -- not a martyr.*Jodi's name has been changed