When moms dismiss their son's bad behavior as "boys being boys," does this harm our children? Our expert explains.
There's no doubt about it -- little boys and girls are very different.
From the way they are socialized on the playground, to how they problem-solve, even how they interact with their parents, it seems as though boys and girls are light years apart. And thanks to all that testosterone, boys tend to be rowdier than girls. As a result, parents often brush off this behavior, by saying "Boys will be boys."
But is this smart?
"The phrase 'Boys will be boys' can be dangerous if parents are overlooking dangerous, rough, or bullying behavior," says licensed marriage and family therapist Shannon Fox. "Just because your child is a boy, doesn't mean he can get away with punching kids in the nose."
•"It's true there are fundamental differences between boys and girls," she adds. "High testosterone levels in boys can trigger aggression, low concentration, and less focus. Whereas little girls are more interested in learning, nurturing relationships and bonding."
"Parents should deal with these gender differences by teaching their sons the same principals as their daughters," Fox says. "And while you shouldn't expect boys and girls to act the same, taking into account your son's temperament and personality will help determine the best course of action when he's rowdy."
•"The bottom line: Whatever the gender, if the school is saying your child is causing problems, you should listen."
Jeanine Pirro explores this topic on today's episode of "Judge Jeanine Pirro." In the clip, a young boy has stolen a cell phone, and Judge Pirro asks the mother what her son's problem is. The mother says he's been in therapy, but the problem spiraled because she figured boys grow out of bad behavior.
Watch the clip here:
Tell us -- does bad behavior in boys go untreated for longer because parents think they're just "being boys?"
Check local listings to catch "Judge Jeanine Pirro" on the CW.