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I Drove Tipsy With My Toddler

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Guest Blogger Mom De Plume: I got a shot of reality when I picked my daughter up from pre-school slightly buzzed.

As a working mom with a toddler, I don't get that much time to kick up my heels and throw a few back. So, when my boss took our staff out to drinks I was delighted to relive my childfree days. After my second drink I was feeling a little buzzed.

The only problem was I somehow forgot I had to pick up my toddler from pre-school directly after work.

Never have a felt like such a bad mom -- reeking of cigarettes, alcohol on my breath -- getting into my car to make the short drive to her school. As I drove I had a flashback to before motherhood. I had made the poor choice to drive countless times after having a few drinks (and other illegal substances) and had, thank God, made it home OK. But now I was a "mom" and it was a totally different ballgame. Now, it was the height of irresponsibility. Unfortunately, I didn't have a choice -- I still had to go get her -- making arrangements that late in the day for someone else to pick her up instead would've been impossible.

I inched along in that overly slow speed reserved for the tipsy as I desperately tried to get the stench of smoke off of me. At a red light I gave myself a sponge bath with my some baby wipes and chewed an entire pack of gum trying to get the smell of whiskey (well, actually Vanilla Stoli and Coke) off of my breath.

When I finally made it to my daughter's class, I swear her teachers were looking at me suspiciously. I was sweating with paranoia -- or sweating out the alcohol. It was hard to tell. I grabbed my daughter hastily waved goodbye put her in the car and drove off. There I was barreling down the freeway with my precious cargo for the first time ever, putting my daughter at risk. I felt terrible.

My actions don't make me the worst mother in the world, but they certainly make me a strong contender for the award.

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No More Excuses! October 14, 2008, 1:01 PM

I drove buzzed a few times when I was younger (pre-kids) I really mean just a few times. The last time was when I “parked” my car in the middle of the road lengthwise, I was blocking the entire road in front of my home. Since that much needed lesson I have never driven intoxicated, not even slightly, again. Thank God I never hurt anybody else or myself. Now, if I go out for drinks I take a cab.
If no one else could pick up your child then you had 2 choices (1) Don’t go out for drinks or (2) Take a cab from the bar to the preschool and from the preschool to your home.
It sounds like you’ve learned your lesson too so hopefully you too will never drive intoxicated again either.
I’m glad you made it home safe.
Remember, buzzed driving IS drunk driving. No More Excuses!

Wendi October 14, 2008, 1:04 PM

I think if you are going to be irresponsible like that, then it is NEVER to late or impossible to arrange for someone to get your child so you do not put her or anyone else in danger.

I totally get that moms need to relax and have a drink now and then. I am a mom, I get it. However, you must always rememeber you have a child and put them first each and every time. There is a time and place for having a drink and if you can’t resist then you MUST first make arrangements to have your child cared for.

Now I know this will make me sound all prudish, which I am far from, but I just don’t drink. I have a 2yr old and to think that I would ever endanger him just kills me. So I do not put myself nor him in that situation.

I am glad that everyone got home safe, but next time have fun but skip the drinks!! You don’t need to have a drink to have fun :)

No biggie October 14, 2008, 1:06 PM

How can you have kids and not drive them buzzed now and then? As long as you’re not over the limit it is not against the law. People need to chill. My mom drove us around when we were kids with a beer — nothing ever happened to us.

Wendi October 14, 2008, 1:23 PM

No Biggie—-
I can not believe that you even said that!!! It is a very big deal and when you think it isn’t is when people get hurt and killed. Just because your mom did it, does not make it right. It jsut means that she didn’t put you first. You should be thankful that you are here to make that crazy comment that you just made.

And YES you can have kids and NOT drived buzzed EVER!!! It’s called being a responsible person and parent!!!! It is against the law, it is called child endangerment. The way to avoid it is DON’T DRINK!!!

Charles October 14, 2008, 1:30 PM

Driving under the legal limit (.08 in most states) can STILL be DUI because even after 1 drink you are under the influence.

Also remember you are setting an example to your children who will follow directly in your footsteps.

Are the lives of your children less important to you than your glass of alcohol? Because that is the choice you are making, and I pray someday you don’t learn that the hard way as many parents have.

Trina October 14, 2008, 1:32 PM

the law is the law. “RULES ARE MADE FOR A REASON” that’s what i tell my kids when they ask why they aren’t allowed to run in the house or play with scissors…..”RULES ARE MADE FOR A REASON”….safety of yourself and others, including a poor toddler who didn’t choose to get in the car with their “buzzed” mom

birdsfly October 14, 2008, 1:56 PM

If I have more than half a beer I don’t drive. If I’m going out with some friends after theater or something I either don’t drink or have my hubby drop me off and pick me up. Even just a beer makes me feel tired enough that I’m just not comfortable driving.

foxymama October 14, 2008, 2:00 PM

Yes, you are horrible. Never put your kids in harms way. Buzzed - equals impaired - equals NOT GOOD.

Anonymous October 14, 2008, 2:01 PM

My friend’s child died when hit by a driver that swore she only had one drink.

Enough said.

mom October 14, 2008, 2:16 PM

do everyone a favor and stay off the road. Imagine if it was your kid killed by a drunk driver? would that stop you then?

kara October 14, 2008, 2:56 PM

What shameful behavior. You know what, it’s not all about you. Remember the family struck by a drunk driver while coming home from a wedding and the little girl was decapitated??? Drunk drivers tend to get out of their own messes just fine, it’s the people that they hit that suffer. Drinking and driving even slightly impaired is a terrible thing to do, putting your own child in the car is an even worse thing to do. Every single person you passed was in danger. What gives you or anyone else the right to do that?? Surely you have ONE SINGLE FRIEND you could have called to pick up your child? And then you should have called a cab. Thank goodness you didn’t hurt anyone but next time you may not be so lucky.

Marinka October 14, 2008, 3:13 PM

Yeah, I think it’s terrible whether you have kids in the car or not. Screw the embarrassment, have a cab pick you up next time.

renee October 15, 2008, 6:23 AM

learned a lesson,did ya?

Vicki October 15, 2008, 9:51 AM

Believe it or not there are some people who do not drink alcohol at all. I don’t. I don’t condem people who drink, but I have NO patience for anyone who drinks and drives. Sorry. It is a choice you make. If you are going to have to drive, then choose NOT to drink. It won’t kill you.

hotchickymamma October 15, 2008, 11:45 AM

Every drunk driver is a potential murderer. Think about it that way. Your car is a lethal weapon. When you are impaired by drink or other substances you turn into a potential killer, of yourself and others, whether they are in your car or in another on the road. And everyone knows it. I drink. I don’t drink and drive, and I sure would never drink and drive with my kids in the car. Actually, that can be a cps issue. My husband was a cop. You can be reported for it and have to deal with parenting classes and all kinds of unpleasant experiences, including ultimately losing custody of your kids for this kind of behavior.

Anonymous October 15, 2008, 11:55 AM

I have done it too. People don’t want to admit they have made mistakes…..but I will right along with you. Sometime you just want to “forget” about your mom role and do something different that you used to.

anonymous October 15, 2008, 4:16 PM

“Vicki on October 15, 2008 9:51 AM wrote:
Believe it or not there are some people who do not drink alcohol at all. I don’t. I don’t condem people who drink, but I have NO patience for anyone who drinks and drives. Sorry. It is a choice you make. If you are going to have to drive, then choose NOT to drink. It won’t kill you.”


Hallie November 13, 2008, 1:59 PM

I absolutely cannot believe that there are multiple people who claim to have done this. Really?!? That’s terrible! The only thing more shocking to me is that some of the comments by people who said they have actually done this are phrased in a way that almost suggests they think it’s common. All I can say to that is WOW. I have never done this, I would never do this, no one I know would ever do this. I would have had a cab pick me up from the restaurant and then take me to school and take us both home, or made other arrangements (no matter how late in the day) or taken a city bus or SOMEthing, anything, besides drive impaired. More likely I wouldn’t have had any alcohol because I wouldn’t have been so excited by the prospect of a drink that I forgot whose job it was to pick my kid up. You may be willing to endanger your life, your child’s life, and the lives or everyone else on the roads with you but please don’t think that your willingness is common. It is not.

Laura December 26, 2008, 12:00 AM

You only had 2 drinks and were tipsy and reeking of alcohol? I sometimes stop on the way home from work with friends and have one or two drinks (usually a glass of wine and a beer), I have picked up my kids afterwards, but I never felt tipsy or drunk after 2 drinks. I carry a portable breathalizer with me and the most I ever blew is .05 before I picked up the kids.

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