Filthy Rich: Permission to Cheat?

Filthy Rich: Permission to Cheat?

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

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Momlogic's Jenny: The idea of infidelity has always seemed inexcusable to me, until I saw "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" ...

rich wife covering eyes from cheating husband

I'll admit, I'm the jealous type. I have very little tolerance for tales of relationships gone awry due to infidelity, and have always said that I would leave my husband in a heartbeat if I found out he was having an affair. But as I sat glued to the television, watching the uber-glamorous cast of "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" show off their palatial estates and over-the-top lifestyles, I had a change of heart: If we were that rich, I might be able to turn a blind eye.

We've all heard the rumors and stereotypes about how athletes cheat on their wives and how the wives stay with them anyway because they are all so filthy rich. When Kobe Bryant had that scandalous and supposed "one-time" extramarital affair, many people, including me, could not believe that his wife Vanessa chose to stay with him. But as I watched "TRH of Atlanta," with every new scene and shining example of financial freedom, I kind of understood it. Everything in their life seems easy and effortless and it's all due to MONEY. I mean, if I could just buy a $3000 purse whenever I felt like it, or get my hair done by my personal hair stylist in my personal, custom-built beauty parlor in my new custom-built 15,000 sq. foot house, or host a game night in a two-lane bowling alley IN MY BASEMENT, I might not care if my husband (assuming he was an NFL or NBA player) indulges some lucky fan when he's on the road.

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Obviously, not every athlete cheats when he's on the road, but "women are vultures," according to one of the stars of the show Lisa Wu Hartwell, who is married to NFL player Ed Hartwell. Lisa said that "even though they know he's married, these crazed fans will go after him even more. They're at the hotels waiting for them." But Lisa thinks that it comes down to trusting that your mate will do the right thing. "There are lot of women that I know that don't trust their mates and have caught them cheating," she says, "and it comes down to deciding whether you will tolerate that behavior or not." Lisa feels blessed for being married to someone who is so family-oriented and says she wouldn't stay married just because of their lifestyle. "You have to have your own identity," she says. "And I believe that women that are too dependent on their spouse will tolerate a lot of things."

Angela Wilder, ex-wife to famous Laker basketball star James Worthy, knows all too well what it's like to "tolerate" a cheating husband. After her husband was arrested for soliciting a prostitute, Angela tried to stay and save her marriage, which ultimately ended in divorce. In her book, "Powerful Mate Syndrome," she writes, "I enthroned [my husband] as the king of my world and, rather than doing what it took to be a powerful queen, I assumed the role as the king's subject." Well, in my mind, this makes total sense. Just look at Queen Katherine who was married to Henry the VIII. She knew damn well that he was having an affair, and madly in love with Anne Boleyn, but she fought until the day she died to stay married to Henry anyway. Um, can you say crown jewels??? Hello! (BTW, "The Tudors" on Showtime ... love! Cannot wait for season 3!)

The point is, while I don't condone cheating, I can totally understand why these crazy rich women are staying in marriages knowing that their husbands have been unfaithful. And honey, if you read this, while I know you'd love to be a professional baseball player, can I just say: I'm sooo happy you're not.

Watch the second episode of "The Real Housewives of Atlanta," tonight at 9PM ET/PT on Bravo.


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I am sorry but last I checked marriage was about keeping the vows you took, and those include a line that goes something like this “Let no other man or woman come between us”….which means NO ADULTERY. If you don’t uphold (or believe) in those Christian values, then you shouls still respect your family more than to cheat-or tolerate cheating. My husband could be a billionaire and I if I knew he was cheating, I wouldn’t even think twice about leaving. To me, morals and values are worth WAY more than money. I’d rather be happy and poor than miserable and rich.

- Rikki

Posted 10/15/08 09:47 AM

This new show makes me sick it actually gives women a bad name especially african american it makes them look so catty and ghetto. They could have all the money in the world but it does not give them any class.And plus to accept a cheating husband just for the money is even worst, it makes them look week, not been able to defend them-self without the financial stability of their husbands. Pathetic.

- janeth

Posted 10/15/08 12:08 PM

All the money in the world couldn’t make me turn a blind eye to my husband cheating. Granted I am not married but no one should have to put up with a cheating partner just because he showers you with money and ridiculously expensive purses and so forth. How is that supposed to make you happy? “Oh my hubby cheats on me but he buys me Gucci! “. No thank you. Besides if he happens to find a newer, better model of you… guess what you’re out the door minus the rich surroundings. I would never want to entrust my financial stability on a man that I know strays. It’s just irrational in my opinion.

- Jac

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- moralaurf

Posted 12/29/08 05:13 PM

i was so in love before that i would walk with one pair of shoes or panties for the whole year if i had too. guess what ladies and gents he cheating on me so much that i loss all my hair with stress and depression and loss over 50 pounds. i looked like a skeletal. he took all i had. my money, my house, my clothes, my furniture everything i had even my soul. so if i would find a rich man who can support me and make me happy, i don’t think it’s any of your business to judge me because i want to be happy and feel free. so what is the difference between a man taking your money and cheating and a woman who just want money and not cheat. u tell me stupid

- carline

Posted 01/09/09 09:08 PM

it matters when your’re an infidel. these situations are never taken lightly under the lightest circumstances. women and men need to gain more self respect and control. its totally dependent on whether that nba,nfl, or nbl player has great spiritual guidance and a good upbringing. i dont think these women marry these men because they are looking for a cash flow or stability. come on, who doesnt want a successful husband. women want trophy husbands just like men want trophy wives.

- ler

Posted 03/16/09 04:15 PM

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