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Here Comes the Pregnant Bride

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Does anyone's idea of a dream wedding include swollen feet and morning sickness?

Going to a wedding or seeing a wedding dress in a shop window can make you think back to your wedding day. For me it was reading a story about a woman whose water broke during her ceremony.

When I tied the knot I was well into my second trimester. I was big. I was tired. My boobs were HUGE and already a tiny bit -- how shall I say? -- leaky.  

Was mine a shotgun wedding? Nope. My husband and I had already planned to get married and had reserved the venue. Then I found out I was pregnant (BTW, before you judge me, I got knocked up by having premarital sex!!) and the wedding was not for 5 1/2 months. 

Think shopping for a wedding dress is stressful?  Try doing it when you don't even know how big you'll be. Getting fitted for a wedding dress makes about as much sense as decorating a house you haven't bought yet. The sad part was that I already had picked out my dream dress.  A satiny form-fitting sheath dress. It fit me perfectly -- I was in the best shape of my life. I soon realized by the time I was ready to say "I do," I'd be lucky to wear it as a glove.

Ironically, finding a maternity wedding dress isn't easy. The choices are um, slim.  And frankly, most are pretty darn hideous. I tried the lone offering at Pea in a Pod (a maternity store), but it was too big -- apparently designed for women on the verge of crowning. To try it on, they give you a specially designed pillow to simulate your projected girth on your special day. In a pinch, I suppose you could use the pillow for the ring bearer. 

Then I toyed with the going the Emma route -- searching for an empire-waisted number but most didn't allow for a bulging belly. Finally, after months of searching, even at one point having my measurements taken for a custom-made dress (the seamstress had no idea how to calculate how big I might be when the dress was completed) I found a dress that I bought several sizes too big and had it taken in three days before the ceremony.
In order to make the whole thing work, I wore more foundation garments than a woman twice my age: a girdle, Spanx and a push-up bra to give the illusion I had a waist. I did feel bad for my little unborn girl trying to make her appear "smaller." I only hope I didn't give her any negative body issues before she was even born.    

I have to admit I was a little disappointed not to be that picture-perfect vision in white I had always imagined on my wedding day, but now as my daughter is nearing three years old, it thrills me to know she was at our wedding. I hope she enjoyed the chicken.

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Anonymous October 4, 2008, 10:39 AM

That is just AWESOME — your honesty and sense of humor are refreshing. And I bet your daughter just adores you.

AuntBaaa October 4, 2008, 9:38 PM

My husband and I got married in Las Vegas when I was about 8 weeks pregnant (no shotgun involved at all). I had bronchitis, a urinary tract infection and and boobs and gotten so huge that I could barely get my dressed zipped up before the ceremony. The “ceremony” was held at a drive thru window, with the pastor hanging out the window into our limo, having us recite our vows. It was funny, intimate (just the three of us in the back of that limo…including our unborn son) and absolutely perfect. The thought of a big wedding that I would have to spend over a year planning and thousands of dollars on, makes me shudder. I love that we did something unconventional…it makes a great story. And I also love it that our son was there and that he will always know that. We have been married over three years now and it is was the best decision we ever made.

Anonymous October 5, 2008, 9:40 PM

The same thing happened to me. My husband (then fiance) and I had planned our wedding a year out and then — oops! — I got pregnant along the way. We had already paid a hefty deposit for the venue and decided to go through with it. I had to buy a maternity gown and it was hard to find one that looked moderately nice. Couldn’t do the spanx thing because my belly was already quite big! I was just in my third trimester and had terrible morning sickness, and couldn’t really dance at the wedding. But the day itself turned out beautifully, lovely weather, everyone had fun, and I can tell my daughter that it was still one of the best days of my life and she was there to share it with me!!

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