Momlogic's Annie: Why does expecting the best for yourself have such a bad connotation? Shouldn't women aspire to be high maintenance? Since when did it become a bad thing to demand the best?
Where is does the line between high standards and high maintenance lie? At first "high maintenance" was a term used to describe women who liked nice purses and always wore lipstick -- which shouldn't be seen as negative anyway. But lately, it's morphed into any women who sets the smallest standard for how she should be treated.
It's similar to the word "nag" -- another term that quiets women down and makes us feel stupid, embarrassed and ashamed for speaking up. Why do I feel like a nag when I ask my husband to take out the garbage for the third time when he should have just done it in the first place? Why am I considered high maintenance because would like him to get me a drink when we walk into a party?
It seems to me that terms like this are invented by some sexist man somewhere who wants women to shut up. Then, it gets thrown into the mainstream and the next thing we know, innocent people with no agenda use it lightly -- resulting in the success of the original a-hole who started this whole thing. I for one have to admit that I have held back for the exact reason that I don't want to come off as high maintenance or a nag and I can really only blame myself for the self-inflicted label.
So, I decided that from now on, I'm going to see being called "high maintenance" as a compliment. I'm going to remind myself that it is the exact same thing as having high standards. I want my daughter to grow up demanding the best for herself -- so why shouldn't I want the same for me?