Honey, When It Comes to What I Eat ... Shut Up!

Honey, When It Comes to What I Eat ... Shut Up!

Saturday, October 4, 2008

filed under: love & sex

The other day when I asked my husband to get me an ice cream sandwich, he made a big faux pas ...

Momlogic's Annie:

The other night -- after I worked all day, took the baby for a three-mile walk, fed her, bathed her and put her to bed, I sat down to watch TV. I had already eaten my semi-healthy dinner but I popped a bag of low-fat microwave popcorn and happily watched the latest episode of "Making The Band 4." A similar ritual happens nightly.

When I finished my popcorn, I asked my husband to get me a low-fat ice cream sandwich. In what seemed like slow motion followed by a needle on the record, he said, "Didn't you JUST have a bag of popcorn?" Although he did have a point, it really pissed me off. It has taken me a lifetime to figure out what and how much I can eat in order to maintain my not-so-great but not-so-bad figure. Plus, doesn't he know you have to have sweet after salty?

Husbands commenting on what their wives eat should be illegal. There really is nothing good that can come out of it. For example, in this instance, I argued with him from the other room for saying such an insulting thing (even though it was true). I then told him NOT to get the sandwich -- that he ruined my treat. I, of course, was happy when he told me he was already getting it ... but felt completely stupid that I wanted it. Then I ate it anyway while huffing and puffing furiously. Basically, his comment had driven me to act like a lunatic.

I do think I scared him into shutting up for a while. And, I do think he was sorry. I believe he was genuinely surprised that I was still hungry -- which, let's be honest -- I wasn't. I'm confident that he won't say anything like that again. It's been a whole year since he said "Whoa!" in a bad way when I asked him how my butt looked in my skinny jeans that -- by the way -- are still on the shelf.

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omg, can you hear me gasp from here? Yeah, my husband has had some not-so-thought out comments before… YIKES!

- Anonymous

Posted 10/04/08 10:44 AM

Women are hilarious. How many ask men for help on one day and then get offended when it is offered on a later date - with no discussion in between that he’s supposed to stop helping. Isn’t it better that he speaks up and keeps you in check rather than sitting back and watching you blow up and then cry about it? Presumably you have some respect for this man you married. Shouldn’t you consider that he might have a point? Did you really need the ice cream sandwich? AFTER dinner AND popcorn? I mean, really. Here’s a free tip: If you want him to keep his mouth shut, get off your “not so great” ass and get your own snack.

- Honey Don't

Posted 10/04/08 12:42 PM

You are too hard on him and yourself.

- Patsy

Posted 10/04/08 12:49 PM

yeah sometimes men don’t relize what they say is so hurtfull ,as well who wants to be heavy nobody that i know of,,,, but the thing with men is they thinbecause there men that they should eat alot more then us and thats not true either, i’ve been w/ my husband 25 yrs and unfortunetly after my last child i havn’t ben able to keep my weight down and on a day 2day bases im depressed about it and i tole himwas the ladt thing i need os for him to hurt my feelings if i feel like having a ice cream. or chips,,,,men need to think before they talk sometimes,.,,, good for you ,keep up he gd work!!!enjoy the sandwiches .lol

- mary

Posted 10/04/08 01:52 PM

Honey Don’t, I think she realized that he had a point. I also think she realized this is her issue, but he didn’t help in this situation and neither do your insults. Grow up.

- Disappointed

Posted 10/04/08 05:07 PM

I do not understand the meanness shown here sometimes. Honey Don’t’s comments were really unkind. All of the food choices were diet-conscious choices and even if they weren’t, so what? The point to me, was her husband’s judging her choices and making her feel bad. None of us make perfect choices every time but we can still try to be kind to each other.

- Judy

Posted 10/06/08 07:44 AM

Wouldn’t we all like to keep that size 26 waist forever? It is the subject of the decade, how to lose weight and keep it off. Hence the commercials that entice us, ask us to eat all we want, remind us we deserve a break today, obviously don’t want us to check our scales. The average American citizen is holding at least 20 lbs. of fat that doctors harass and criticize and threaten people to get into shape or else. The question as I see it, is she viewing her husbands input as control? or is thinking that the low calorie ice-cream isn’t such a big deal after however many calories it may have? If this is a normal pattern of working, taking care of the baby, and then winding down, and having that little yen for something just a little bit more, I would say let it be. But, if she is counting calories, and watchful and exercising,then he has the point.

- Gloria

Posted 10/06/08 12:49 PM

Is “honey dont” a man?

- shawnarae

Posted 10/08/08 01:59 AM