Guest blogger Size 6 says: My mom examines my butt every time she sees me.
"You're losing your butt, and since that's the only drop of meat on you anyway, when that's gone, you won't have anything left," said my mother for my weekly body examination.
Lovely. Most moms hop on their grown daughter's case for gaining weight through the years, for tucking in too much mashed potatoes over Thanksgiving dinner and for reaching for the salt. My southern African American family however, gives me grief whenever I so much as drop a pound of water or gain a little muscle tone.
In a family of women who would prefer to eat biscuits than work out and whose D-size boobs I have always envied, my A cup, love for tofu and a good sweat and make me a bit of an outcast. Couple that with the fact that I am the only one in my family who actually works out and is trying to prevent kimono arms, under-chin fat and an expanding waistline -- and I am a criminal at family gatherings.
"Oh my gosh, you have lost so much weight since the last time I saw you!!" I just saw you last weekend.
"Geez, what are you eating these days? You're looking kind of skinny." Sorry for avoiding the waffles.
Via Facebook: "You look so tiny in that photo!" What the heck am I supposed to look like?!
Seems like in today's world (or at least in mine), a pear-shaped gal like me can't win. You either are condemned for your butt being too big (the media really can't decide whether they like or hate JLo and Beyonce's butts; I actually heard someone say "JLo is not thin"), or for being too small. Five pounds of premenstrual water weight gain/loss are enough to set off the paparazzi -- and my mother. When I fast for religious reasons, I am accused of anorexia.
Therefore, my dear mother, I am sorry for caring more about my shape than how good that creme brulee and cheesecake would taste right now. I am sorry that I am committed to working out versus spreading out. And, for the record, I am nowhere near anorexic.
I am trying to be at my absolute best, which requires (let's be honest) a heck of a lot of work. Just don't be mad me if you don't feel like doing the same.
My friends say my family is just jealous. But what do you think? Tell us about your own weight loss stories in the momlogic community.