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Jennifer Hudson: How to Cope

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Tips on dealing with the death of her loved ones.

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Jennifer Hudson's
mom and brother's death yesterday is still so shocking. Momlogic spoke with clinical social worker Devra Renner, MSW, for tips on coping with the sudden death of a loved one.

1. Remember: There's no right or wrong way to grieve. Grief is unique to every person, and that means every person grieves differently. Some people cry, some people get angry, some people shut down. Just let yourself have your feelings without trying to stifle them.

2. Tune out the stupid things people say. When someone dies suddenly, people often say things that unintentionally hurt instead of help. Prepare yourself for hearing things like, "They're in a better place," or "Everything happens for a reason." (That may be true--but it doesn't take away the pain that they're gone.) Try your hardest to focus on the sentiments that comfort rather than irritate you.

3. Take care of yourself. After losing a loved one, it's very easy to neglect yourself. You need to make sure you're eating, drinking and resting enough during the grieving process. (And, if you're crying a lot, it's very easy to get dehydrated.) If you are too distraught to even think about things like that right now, ask someone close to you to bring you food or periodically check in.

The death of a family member is devastating -- especially when it's so violent. Our thoughts go out to Jennifer and her family during this difficult time.


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Anonymous October 25, 2008, 11:41 AM

Keep your hand in God hand and he will bring you though this time…. Put him first and and eveything ele will fall in place.. Love You

Kay October 25, 2008, 11:43 AM

stay strong Jen, I’ll be prayig for you! God Bless.

Kathy Kirkman October 25, 2008, 11:59 AM

I sorry that jennifer Hudson had this bad news. I offer my condolences to the family. May God Bless and keep you in this hard time.

Bre October 25, 2008, 12:18 PM

Jennifer, baby stay strong and keep a strong mind.God will see you through and continue to pray even though it might seem hard. We are praying for you and your family. May God bless you!!!!

PBradley October 25, 2008, 2:34 PM

Jennifer we are praying for you that God will keep you in the mist of such a tradgety Hold your head up look to God he will give you the strength you need. Always remember that evil doers will never prosper ant the person who brought such pain in your life will be brought to justice

Stacey October 25, 2008, 2:50 PM

Jennifer hold your head up & stay strong. We love you and praying for you!!! May God bless you and your family.

cheryl swanson October 25, 2008, 3:52 PM

JENNIFER, MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. I’LL BE PRAYING FOR YOU, TRY TO STAY STRONG AND KEEP BELIEVING GOD AND TRUST HIM AND YOU’LL GET THROUGH THIS. REMEMBER TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS….LUV YA…CHERYL

PHYLLIS MACKEY October 25, 2008, 4:01 PM

may god walk with you and kept you in your time of sorrow

Maria October 25, 2008, 4:01 PM

Jennifer, know that you are not alone. May God bless and protect you and your family. I’ll keep you in my prayers, stay strong and believe in the Lord Almighty for he will not abandon you at a time like this.

Tina Anderson October 25, 2008, 4:12 PM

I cant imagine what your going through right now,but i do know that GOD is with you and he will never leave you.let JESUS carry you and i promise you it will get better in time.GOD will make sure justice will be served.sa

Tina Anderson October 25, 2008, 4:16 PM

I can’t imagine what your going through right now,but i do know that GOD is with you.let JESUS carry you and continue to pray and he will dry your eyes in time.luv you and GOD bless you.

Lindo Mnisi October 25, 2008, 4:59 PM

Jennifer

We are with you in South Africa at this hurtful time in your life, nothing will take the pain away except for the Christ. Stay in the shadow of His wings. Right there you are safe, the devil cant touch you or do anything! Be strong dear and know you are dearly loved!! With time, it will get better but for now, go through the pain right in His arms, His love, comfort and grace is all that can get you through each day. Let him carry your pain. He’ll give you strenght like that of the Wings of Eagles….. Pray sweetheart and Jesus alone will make it better….

barbara October 25, 2008, 5:24 PM

im praying for the hudson family, especially jennifer, i lost my mom, and i only got thru it wth the help of GOD!!!!

Joyce October 25, 2008, 7:10 PM

Jennifer:

Please accept my deepest sympathy on the
loss of your mother and brother. Allow
God to wrap you in His arms and carry you through this period. I pray your
newphew will be found safe and well.
God bless and keep you and your family.

Avis Smith October 25, 2008, 7:25 PM

God is going to be with you through it all. No weapons form against you will prosper. I will keep you in my prayers, God will see you through. I love you, don’t give up or give out, & don’t give in. You will be stronger then before.

Elakhaz and Zohariah October 25, 2008, 7:26 PM

Jennifer our hearts go out to you and your family. We live in Israel and Elakhaz is a priest within the African Hebrew Israelite Community of Jerusalem. We just want you to know that you are in our prayers and we understand that this a very difficult time for you. My husband Elakhaz is originally from the southside of Chicago. In fact Kim is my husband’s neice. Please keep the faith and stay strong. Yahwah is with you. God Bless.

trish (bk, ny) October 25, 2008, 9:17 PM

God bless you and your family. Always remember to stay true to your faith, and believe and know that by the grace of God you will make it through these difficult times, even if you do not see a way at this particular moment. God is love.

Vanita October 25, 2008, 11:12 PM

Jennifer,

May God Bless you and your family. Keep trusting in God and never let go of your faith.

“”Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step”

God Bless

lynn October 26, 2008, 10:51 AM

i offer my sincere condolences to the hudson family, i don know how it feels like to lose a mom and a bro and i wud lyk it to stay that way,but i imagine it is very painfull….stay strong sister, i will remember u in my prayers…r.i.p mama n bro hudson

GWEN October 26, 2008, 11:01 AM

MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS AND EMPATHY GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY JENNIFER.GOD IS WITH YOU AND HE WILL HELP YOU ALL GET THROUGH MAY GOD CONTINUE TO WATCH OVER AND BLESS YOU.HERE WE ARE ALSO PRAYING FOR A SAFE RETURN FOR LITTLE JULIAN.MAY GOD BLESS YOU.


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