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This Is Not OK -- Halloween's Gone Trampy

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Forget pirates and pumpkins ... this year, the kids are going slutty.

We brought you this story weeks ago, but so many have been complaining about this very topic, that we had to bring it back. Can you believe the costumes out there? It's easier than ever to dress your six-year-old in a skanky costume: almost all of them are revealing and sexy. Newsweek reports halter tops, bare midriffs, miniskirts and knee socks are what moms are finding when shopping for a costume for their girls, and we agree: "It seems almost on the verge of child pornography, they ooze with so much attitude."

A girl isn't an Army cadet, she's a 'Major Flirt,' and who knew that female firefighters wore fishnet stockings?! One mom we know mentioned that her tall tween can't even fit into these teensy numbers and ended up having to shop in the adult aisle. There she couldn't find a single "covered-up" costume. What is going on here? Are retailers just following pop culture, or are our girls growing up way too fast? Whatever your answer -- don't be surprised if an six-year-old dominatrix shows up at your door!

Does your kid insist upon wearing something trampy on Halloween? Here are six tips from psychologist and momlogic friend Dr. Lisa Boesky on how to deal with those fashion fights.

1. If your daughter is under 16, do not purchase a costume you do not approve of. She won't be happy, but she'll get over it.

2. If she is over 16, negotiate on how sexy to dress. She may want a micro mini skirt and you want ankle length--compromise with right above the knee. Allow her one sexy item versus an entire costume.

3. Be aware of your own clothing choices -- your daughter is paying close attention. If you dress much younger than your age, don't be surprised if your teen dresses more provocatively than hers.

4. Ask your daughter how she feels when she dresses in a sexy costume. Why does she display so much skin? Really listen ... even if you don't like what you hear.

5. Ask your daugher to explain how her sexy costume corresponds to her actual behavior. Does it send the message that she is available sexually? Is she even aware this is what boys might assume?

6. Have her father -- or another man she trusts/respects -- talk with her about how boys view girls who dress overtly sexy (slutty, bimbo, airhead, material, etc) He should emphasize the 'sexiness' of subtlety and leaving something to the imagination.


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45 comments so far | Post a comment now
JLCoburn October 15, 2008, 1:51 PM

I’ll be 6 feet under and rolling over in my grave before either of my daughters get costumes like that. :|

crista October 15, 2008, 3:11 PM

May seem far fetched, but believe me, it’s not. I’m sure we’ll see this crap on the street.

jackie October 15, 2008, 4:22 PM


Allena October 15, 2008, 4:30 PM

Ok, that girl in the photo is NOT 8. I’m thinking 17? Not that that’s ok, either, but, come on, shock value much?

ame i. October 15, 2008, 6:30 PM

My husband loves seeing such on me at home ;) but my father would not let me out of the house in such a costume, and I’m 40.

Uly October 15, 2008, 11:29 PM

When I was a kid, we made our own costumes. Sure a lot more fun (and cheaper) than buying - and it’s easier to vet them, too!

Anonymous October 16, 2008, 4:50 AM

My 6 yr old daughter picked her own costume this year, and she is going to be a genie. (Yes, her belly will be exposed …gasp!) What’s the difference in this and a swimsuit? The only reason these costumes are considered “sexy” is that adults label them as such. Little kids aren’t picking out a costume because they think it’s “sexy”. And stop blaming Britney, Disney’s Alladin could be the reason for my daughters choice of costume.

And as for the old timers who say we’re all going to hell in a handbasket, I’m in my thirties and probably spent 90 percent of my summer days as a child in short shorts and halter tops with my belly out. No one ever accused my parents of dressing me too “sexy”.

Stop being so quick to label every little thing you don’t like and show your disagreement with your wallet. Just don’t buy it!

Alizabeth October 16, 2008, 6:51 AM

There is no way in H??? that I would allow my child who’s a minor wear something that TRAMPY.

Jason Goldtrap October 16, 2008, 8:19 AM

Forget the professional costumes! Some of my best Halloween memories are making costumes with my mom. One time we made a plaster mask to look like Frankenstein’s monster. The mask took two weeks to make. I got to paint and used Lincoln Logs to make the bolts. Now that was fun and it costs, in today’s dollars, maybe $5 to make.

tkristo October 16, 2008, 10:37 AM

halloween is suppose to be with skeletons,devils,withches and ghosts,a night that the living and the spirits of the dead walk together on earth. people are suppose to dress up to “blend” in with the spirits.not suppose to be hooker night.the people in the united states have really changed Halloween-all the marketing to be whatever you want to be-super hero,horror movie killer, a princess,cartoon character,etc. Americans bought into it and now Halloween is not what Halloween is suppose to be anymore.

Kelli October 16, 2008, 10:48 AM

There are enough pervs in the world who are looking on the internet for kiddie pics without parading kids up and down the street wearing trash like that. I don’t know why everywhere you go, everything you see larger that a 4T looks like a hooker should be wearing it. I hope someday soon clothing makers will stop pushing the limits and come back with some nice outfits we are happy to purchase our daughters. I don’t think it has to look Amish or anything like that, just a little less trashy.

Sandra Deffner October 16, 2008, 1:28 PM

old men are the heads of these companys and old men like little girls in skippy clothing .. nuff said

Michelle October 16, 2008, 7:37 PM

I was just talking to my girlfriends about this while we were out looking at costumes for our kids. They are awful….And a genie is supposed to have a bare belly (although I’m sure you could find a way around it if you wanted to!) Little red riding hood should NOT have a skirt cut up to here and a Blouse cut down to there. How are kids going to know that it’s NOT okay to dress like this if we don’t teach them?? As for being this bare in a swimsuit…..My daughters are NOT allowed to wear bikinis, are you aware that there was an entire family kidnapped, tortured and then killed because he like the 10 year olds bare tummy (he killed her when he was done with her too by the way). Little kids should not be this exposed when they are seen by the public, it may seem harmless to you (it’s just one night…) but what about the pervert who takes a picture of your half naked baby and posts it on the web for other pervs to “you know what” to. Be a mom (or dad) don’t let your kids dress like tramps, they’ll thank you later.

renee October 16, 2008, 10:24 PM

every costume was sooo short at the store that my daughter is wearing panty hose and shorts under her bottoms and a shirt under the top.

Denise October 17, 2008, 10:39 AM

It’s up to the parent to put a stop to this! Your the parent speak up and lay down some rules they are your children you brought them into this world now take on the responsibility of parenting.

Gdubs October 29, 2008, 8:25 PM

this is disgusting. there was a child molester in the town i grew up in; i used to trick-or-treat around the place he lived; i didn’t even know he’d been there until i was older. this is really dangerous, and i hope parents can see that. my mother would have never let me wear that out, and i would never let my children wear that.

Anonymous October 30, 2008, 4:58 PM


Lay off the patriarchal conspiracy angle. Girls learn to manipulate men early on using their sexuality. These costumes are the results of “choices” that women and girls are now “empowered” to make.

Jessica @ Bug and Bee October 30, 2008, 6:44 PM

I have the hardest time picking outfits, even non-Halloween, for my 5 year old. This year we finally both agreed on her being a pink and black kitty. It was one of the few costumes I found that at least hit her knees and I’m still having her wear capri pants underneath it for school.

I don’t get the new trends in little girls fashion. Like the Mary-Kate and Ashley clothes, or the Hannah Montana stuff? It’s all crap! I also intensely dislike all the bikini’s for little girls and it’s hard to find anything that’s decent in a one-piece.

vanesa October 31, 2008, 7:48 AM

Omg thank GOD I have a boy! I was pregnant and my husband wanted a girl until he saw 12 year old girls walking around with the chest hanging out and tight pants! I so did not dress like this when I was 12. I do like the idea of making the costumes though :) makes Halloween more special :P

carol October 31, 2008, 8:37 AM

You complain about these costumes that are not acceptable attire yet we allow our girls to be cheerleaders wearing less clothing and performing in front of large crowds. We still do not treat ourselves as equal to the males and it shows in how we dress our girls and how the females are still being exploited because of our bodies.

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