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This Is Not OK -- Halloween's Gone Trampy

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Forget pirates and pumpkins ... this year, the kids are going slutty.

We brought you this story weeks ago, but so many have been complaining about this very topic, that we had to bring it back. Can you believe the costumes out there? It's easier than ever to dress your six-year-old in a skanky costume: almost all of them are revealing and sexy. Newsweek reports halter tops, bare midriffs, miniskirts and knee socks are what moms are finding when shopping for a costume for their girls, and we agree: "It seems almost on the verge of child pornography, they ooze with so much attitude."

A girl isn't an Army cadet, she's a 'Major Flirt,' and who knew that female firefighters wore fishnet stockings?! One mom we know mentioned that her tall tween can't even fit into these teensy numbers and ended up having to shop in the adult aisle. There she couldn't find a single "covered-up" costume. What is going on here? Are retailers just following pop culture, or are our girls growing up way too fast? Whatever your answer -- don't be surprised if an six-year-old dominatrix shows up at your door!

Does your kid insist upon wearing something trampy on Halloween? Here are six tips from psychologist and momlogic friend Dr. Lisa Boesky on how to deal with those fashion fights.

1. If your daughter is under 16, do not purchase a costume you do not approve of. She won't be happy, but she'll get over it.

2. If she is over 16, negotiate on how sexy to dress. She may want a micro mini skirt and you want ankle length--compromise with right above the knee. Allow her one sexy item versus an entire costume.

3. Be aware of your own clothing choices -- your daughter is paying close attention. If you dress much younger than your age, don't be surprised if your teen dresses more provocatively than hers.

4. Ask your daughter how she feels when she dresses in a sexy costume. Why does she display so much skin? Really listen ... even if you don't like what you hear.

5. Ask your daugher to explain how her sexy costume corresponds to her actual behavior. Does it send the message that she is available sexually? Is she even aware this is what boys might assume?

6. Have her father -- or another man she trusts/respects -- talk with her about how boys view girls who dress overtly sexy (slutty, bimbo, airhead, material, etc) He should emphasize the 'sexiness' of subtlety and leaving something to the imagination.


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45 comments so far | Post a comment now
Understanding October 31, 2008, 8:42 AM

I wouldn’t let my six year old wear something like that. It is very inappropriate!!!! I do agree with the anonymous comment: If you don’t like it, just don’t buy it. This world is all about fashion now and days, and I don’t see the clothes getting any better. Just don’t buy it!!!!

Ms. E October 31, 2008, 8:43 AM

I did a blog on this subject myself (see url) and was SHOCKED to find a FRENCH MAID’S costume for little girls! Grown men fantasize about these sorts of costumes for grown women…why let a child wear one? This isn’t a matter of choice or taste, it’s simply a matter of common sense. There ARE child predators out there, maybe even in your neighborhood. If your child wears a costume like this, they may as well wear a sign that says, “Follow me home.”

Judy Bradley October 31, 2008, 8:54 AM

When my kids were young - we always made their costumes - nothing they picked was revealing. I am not a seamstress so things were very homemade, but we all had fun! My daughter never wore short or low-cut things in everyday life - so why do it on Halloween? Still to this day as a mom herself, she dresses modestly. They learn when they are young.

Sara October 31, 2008, 9:28 AM

This is so true I could not find eny thing for my 12 and 9 year old girls that did not look sluty unless that wanted to go in boy coustmes.The devil and the other Dorathy from Wizered of OZ and all looked like thay should be sold in sex shops. So finaly i was forced to buy this trash and added matereal to it. There should be more options these people macking these and selling them should be ashamed !

Anonymous October 31, 2008, 10:54 AM

You know whar? They need to make more conservative costumes that actually fit. We were at Party City and the more revealing costumes were the only costumes available for her size. As long as they wear appropriate clothing along with the costumes it should be ok. Has anyone been paying attention to the cheerleading uniforms at schools?

Becca October 31, 2008, 10:56 AM

I’d have to agree that the costumes in the store have become a lot more trampy! Its not just this year but I have noticed it going on four years now. Its ironic that people are just now starting to notice! Its not just these outfits too! I have noticed a trend of short and skimpy outfits for young girls! This problem makes it real hard to find costumes in the stores that my daughter likes and I approve of! With all the dangers of molesters and rapers you think companies would be marketing costumes that are appropriate for the age group! This is why next year I plane on making costumes for my little ones! This way I won’t need to be fed up with the way costumes are designed! My daughter can pick something that she likes that I approve of and can make myself! I don’t think this will change ether till parents stop buying the costumes! Facts are that someone is buying them or they wouldn’t make them! I am appalled that anyone would let their child where a costume like that at a young age! Nothing I can do about them but I can control what my child wears! My children will be safe and have fun!

ReneeJ October 31, 2008, 12:33 PM

Michelle, you live in fear of murder over a costume? Come on! Lets be real here, you don’t like the crap you see don’t buy it. How about this … take time out of your busy life and make a costume you do like, but let your kid have a good time dreaming it up. As far as letting a “Perv take a picture of my kids trick or treating it has never happened . Where are You going? You cannot live your life in fear of the Boogie Man and I sure wouldn’t teach that to my children . It sounds like you have serious issues to get thru. I wish you the best.

Nic October 31, 2008, 12:50 PM

See, I’m the one who buys the sexy 50 dollar costumes at rickys and wears them out at night, but when I take my daughter trick or treating I WILL NOT be wearing it, and she will NOT be wearing anything close to what im wearing! I noticed this year that the costumes were starting to look more and more like the ones for adults. Our society is excepting more and more things, making the formerly taboo, the norm.

Jade Martinez October 31, 2008, 1:09 PM

The costumes are very racy these days. That is why my kids gets costumes made for halloween. Usually a big hit in the block. They get pick out what they want to be and help make it.

Katie October 31, 2008, 5:31 PM

ok…this is just wrong on so many levels…if you let your kid out of the house in that…you are a bad parent!

vix November 4, 2008, 5:29 PM

Honestly, these aren’t for little kids as you guys are trying to say they are. I don’t see how people would allow their children to dress like this, but that’s them….and when their daughter comes home pregnant and they are wondering why…this is their answer. That being said, I do have a HUGE problem with these costumes being the only type available to thin people. When I went costume shopping for myself all I could find was trampy options in my size (2-4) I was HUGELY disappointed, just because I am thin doesn’t mean I want to flaunt myself to everyone! I even wrote letters to each of the places I went to because of this.

Doc Benton September 15, 2009, 6:27 AM

“6. Have her father — or another man she trusts/respects — talk with her about how boys view girls who dress overtly sexy (slutty, bimbo, airhead, material, etc)”

I wouldn’t trust any psychologist who gave advice like that. It’s a little like the old woman who swallowed the spider to catch the fly, isn’t it?

We still live, sadly, in a society where rapists get cleared not because they didn’t commit the crime but because the woman was ‘asking for it’ by dressing or behaving a certain way.

Now I know you want your daughters to look respectable, but that doesn’t justify teaching them that people who dress differently shouldn’t be treated with respect.

Because that’s what this ‘little talk’ is. You can’t talk about prejudice in this way without either rejecting it or validating it. If you tell your child she should be worried about how people will see her based on her style of dress, you’re giving the message that she should accept the judgement of those people - which I think is the wrong message to be giving.

After all, if she does get into trouble, it’s much more likely to be because of peer pressure and worrying what other kids will think of her than because she wore a short skirt for halloween, isn’t it?

ben October 10, 2009, 1:37 PM

I loled when I read some of these comments. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions of course. One person had it right. You’re doing more “damage” by not talking with your child and compromising. My parents always let their 4 kids make their own decisions and *then* laid their judgment down in a fair way with compromise. The problem for pedophiles does not come from “skanky” Halloween costumes it comes from some very very difficult times in their past (i.e. most likely being preyed upon when they were children). Don’t blame college culture on the ruining of your children’s poor little souls. Go shop at Meijer or Walmart, I am 100% positive I saw costumes perfectly decent for little girls at both of those places, or honestly do make a costume at home. It’s not that hard to sew.

Rita  October 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

Geez. If u don’t like it, don’t buy it. Besides, pedophiles and rapists have always been out there, even when our parents were little, its just with the internet we are able to know where they’re living, which makes it seem like there’s more today. If you keep your child so tethered to you, it’s going to be really hard for them to leave the nest when it’s time.

Jason October 12, 2009, 11:01 AM

I have seen a trampy Britney Spears Costume about five years ago, and it was aimed toward 6-8 year old. Tight pants and a top that barley covered the chest. Perverts will be getting a good treat wile he/she tricks the little girl.

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I love it when I see people in these slutty getups going around complaining about how cold they are on Halloween night.

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