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Will Being "Pretty" Screw Up Your Kid?

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Not-So-Perfect Mom writes: Growing up with a beautiful mom had its ups and downs. On one hand, I learned how to apply makeup like a pro. On the other hand, I stressed over every blemish, every pound -- anything that would make me less pretty.

Pamela Anerson

According to research, attractive parents are 26% more likely to have a daughter than a son as their first child. This is certainly true in the case of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, and it is certainly true in the case of my parents. Back in their "heyday" my parents were "lookers." My mother took a lot of pride (and time) in her appearance and I would watch her and study her every move as she put on makeup and did her hair. It was always important for us to "look good." When she was on a diet, I was on a diet. Consequently, I grew up feeling very insecure about my weight and always worried that I was "fat." I don't blame my mom for all my issues with my body, but studies have shown that a relationship between a mother and daughter can have an impact and even contribute to a daughter's eating disorder.

In my opinion, girls aren't the only ones who bare the brunt of the "perfect mommy syndrome." Recently, I was at an L.A.Dodgers game and sitting a few rows in front of me, with her two sons, was one of the world's hottest moms -- Pamela Anderson. No one seemed to care that the Dodgers were losing by a landslide. Instead, I noticed the majority of men in my section (including the ones I was with) staring, fantasizing and marveling at her tiny frame and huge chest. I watched, uncomfortably, as random men approached her and she graciously shook their hands. Meanwhile, her poor kids seemed totally annoyed with the whole thing. I wondered, as men literally sat there drooling, if her sons had any clue that their mother was so coveted and considered one of the sexiest women alive. Do they know just how gorgeous she is? Will they grow up to expect that their own girlfriends and wives look that perfect? Will they have a hard time finding partners because so much of their world is based on beauty? Will her being so gorgeous screw them up for life???

So the next time you look in the mirror and feel bad about yourself, just remember, your imperfections are much better for your children in the long run...

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ame i. October 15, 2008, 6:27 PM

I wonder if her sons are old enough to know how much plastic surgery she’s had to look the way she does. Girl or boy, I’m sure it is embarrassing to have mommy’s nipples poking at the public through her shirt.
In my opinion, she was beautiful in older photographs before she started rebuilding herself as though she were the bionic woman. Her face is a little spooky looking these days.
I suspect that instead of growing older gracefully, she is going to be one of those women who look like their ears are trying to meet each other at the back of their heads.
Don’t get me wrong, when my “ladies” get to where they are trying to sit on my knees, I wouldn’t be against having them lifted back to where they once belonged, but there is a point where enough is enough is too much is oh my lawd, look at her!

Anonymous October 15, 2008, 10:49 PM

Um yeah..that’s stupid..teach your children well. By the way you can thank your lucky stars if you were pretty and not one of those kids who got made fun of for being ugly and then killed themselves and blamed their parents for making them ugly..Good really can’t please everyone. Let’s mask our insecurities by judging others, because that’s much healthier for our children. “Don’t worry daughter, if you don’t like yourself just pass the buck on some other woman and then say you like yourself more because of it.” Honestly, you are only happy if you are bringing others down and predicting how it causes their families turmoil. Just because your stomach turned everytime you gained an ounce doesn’t mean your mother caused you to puke. EVERY kid has to learn to deal with issues, some just aren’t able to cope without hurting others. You obviously didn’t grow out of the high school phase. “Youre too ugly, youre too old, your too pretty, youre too young. OMG look at your big’s perfect, how can I compete…I mean youre ruining your kid’s life..haha now I like my big toe.”

ashley October 16, 2008, 7:21 AM

My parents have always been very good looking. Naturally. Not the types to really try to look good, they just are. When I was younger (and still to this day) if we were going to see my grandma my mom always tried to lose 10 pounds so her mother wouldn’t say anything. Now I do the same thing. And I am sure my daughter will do the same thing. My 6 year old son always likes to look nice and smell good to go to school because his daddy does. ANd that’s ok. But we aren’t going to go overboard and make them think looks are everything. But they do matter.

Jenny October 16, 2008, 9:09 AM

My mom is quite attractive and yes I am her first child. I too always feel fat and not pretty enough even though I know I am attractive. I dont think its so much that my mom was attractive as it is that she would always make negative comments about herself out loud. I try quite hard not to do that in front of my daughter or at all for that matter.

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