Not-So-Perfect Mom writes: Growing up with a beautiful mom had its ups and downs. On one hand, I learned how to apply makeup like a pro. On the other hand, I stressed over every blemish, every pound -- anything that would make me less pretty.
According to research, attractive parents are 26% more likely to have a daughter than a son as their first child. This is certainly true in the case of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, and it is certainly true in the case of my parents. Back in their "heyday" my parents were "lookers." My mother took a lot of pride (and time) in her appearance and I would watch her and study her every move as she put on makeup and did her hair. It was always important for us to "look good." When she was on a diet, I was on a diet. Consequently, I grew up feeling very insecure about my weight and always worried that I was "fat." I don't blame my mom for all my issues with my body, but studies have shown that a relationship between a mother and daughter can have an impact and even contribute to a daughter's eating disorder.
In my opinion, girls aren't the only ones who bare the brunt of the "perfect mommy syndrome." Recently, I was at an L.A.Dodgers game and sitting a few rows in front of me, with her two sons, was one of the world's hottest moms -- Pamela Anderson. No one seemed to care that the Dodgers were losing by a landslide. Instead, I noticed the majority of men in my section (including the ones I was with) staring, fantasizing and marveling at her tiny frame and huge chest. I watched, uncomfortably, as random men approached her and she graciously shook their hands. Meanwhile, her poor kids seemed totally annoyed with the whole thing. I wondered, as men literally sat there drooling, if her sons had any clue that their mother was so coveted and considered one of the sexiest women alive. Do they know just how gorgeous she is? Will they grow up to expect that their own girlfriends and wives look that perfect? Will they have a hard time finding partners because so much of their world is based on beauty? Will her being so gorgeous screw them up for life???
So the next time you look in the mirror and feel bad about yourself, just remember, your imperfections are much better for your children in the long run...