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Should Jennifer Hudson Have Moved Her Family?

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This question has been creating major controversy.

home of 57-year-old Darnell Hudson Donerson

The Hudson family murders have been all over the news since Friday, and much of the web chatter has centered around one question: Should Jennifer Hudson have moved her mom out of such a bad neighborhood?

To date, there have been close to 430 killings in Chicago in 2008 and the city may well exceed 500 murders by year's end, according to Essence. In 1998, Chicago was dubbed the "murder capital of the country" and made international headlines after surpassing New York for the first time ever.

Should Jennifer have moved her family out? There seems to be two schools of thought here:

Yes, Jennifer should have moved her mom to a nicer neighborhood. Once you win an Oscar and hit the bigtime, it's your responsibility as a daughter to move your family to somewhere safe and out of the ghetto.

No, Jennifer should not have moved her mom out, especially since it's been reported that her mother didn't want to move away from her church and her friends. You can't force an adult to move anywhere they don't want to go! (Plus, this was a domestic violence case, anyway, and therefore could have happened anywhere.)

What do you think? Comment in the momlogic community.

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Jackie October 29, 2008, 6:35 AM

Yes, I think she should have moved them away. When you get a ticket out of the ghetto you pack your belongings and get out. Your immediate family are your belongings. Look what happens when you leave them behind. And if her mother wanted to remain close to her friends and family then her son could drive her back and forth or they could visit in her new location away from gun shots and thugs. This is a domestic case, however, the husband was in the neighborhood. Had they moved out of the hood it is unlikely he would have been in that family. Although, when you live that ghetto life being married to a ex-con is not a big deal.

Laine October 29, 2008, 7:10 AM

You can’t force an adult to go against their wishes. You can make the offer…that is it. No blame should point towards Jennifer.

ashley October 29, 2008, 7:14 AM

I heard yesterday on inside edition that she tried to move her mother out but she didn’t want to go. I mean yeah maybe she should have pushed for her to move, but you can’t make someone, a grown person, move out of their house.

Michael October 29, 2008, 8:12 AM

First of all, this is an unfair question to be asking - none of us know the specifics about the Hudson situation. If the family wanted to stay where they were, it is no one’s business but their own to do so. As well, with Jennifer Hudson travelling all the time for her career, imagine how lonely it would be for her mother in a new set of surroundings around strangers in unfamiliar territory.

Jackie states “your immediate family are your belongings…”. That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard of. People do not BELONG to other people. You cannot force adults to do what they don’t want. You can ask, beg, plead, but ultimately each person makes their own decision about where they live that is right for them.

If this terrible tragedy did not happen and Ms. Hudson forced her mother to relocate to another neighbourhood/city against her will - this website would probably be having a discussion about whether Ms. Hudson should have forced her family to adopt a lifestyle they did not want to.

maty October 29, 2008, 8:13 AM

emm no,

Jennifer had asked her mom to move away with her and her mom refused, i asked my mom the questionn if i hit the big time would she move and the answer was no, ppl are very different Darnell’s heart was in yale and thats where she wanted to remain. there is only one or two people to blame for this tragedy and thats not jennifer,see people are a;ways the same first they love the celebrity and then they want to tear them to pieces,its sick and outrages to start the blame game,

Maureen October 29, 2008, 8:23 AM

It really doesn’t matter what anyone thinks, her family is gone..leave this poor girl alone..don’t you think she is suffering enough?

angela October 29, 2008, 8:23 AM

sooo, this tragedy is Jennifer’s fault because she didn’t force her mom to leave?

Quitta October 29, 2008, 8:53 AM

Does anyone believe in God?Well if you do then this question would not make a differece if she lived in Chicago or Hollywood.If its your time to go then its your time to go.God does not make mistakes.This is not our home we all will be leaving out of here.The question rather or not Jennifer should have done this,that and the other is not going to bring neither relative back.As a matter of fact have you ever had anyone pass in your family?Im sure the answer is yes.Did it matter where they lived.Now after all this pain and grief in her life right now (jennifer) what if she came in this area and looked at some of your comments.Lets stop being so heartless and pray for Jennifer instead of worrying about something so stupid as “should Jennifer have moved her people out the ghetto”.The answer is “It makes no differce” God had another plan and we dont overide his decision.It makes no differce if your 2 years old or 70 years old.

mom October 29, 2008, 8:56 AM

how can you even ask this question? The only fault belongs to the man that killed them. what a horrible thing to ask.

Lee October 29, 2008, 9:21 AM

First of all…it wouldn’t have mattered if she moved her mother or not. This was a domestic case, and he would have found the family wherever they went and did what he set out to do. I’ve worked at Women’s Shelters, and have seen women move across the country to flee their abusers and the abusers still track them down because they are determined to control and that is what happened here. He lost control and in the end, he took everything away from Julia that she cared about, and that was his goal. Unfortunately, there probably wasn’t anything anyone could have done to stop this, it happens every day and once people realize it isn’t a “ghetto” thing, then maybe something can be done to help other abused women.

Everyone should get off Julia’s back and stop judging…until you’ve walked a mile in her shoes, you have no idea why she made the choices she did and what she is going through now. I’m sure she is reliving all of her choices and regretting a lot of things she’s done, but that is up to her to make peace with it, and for the everyone to keep the negative thoughts to themselves. How would you feel if you made a poor choice and it ended in tragedy, would you like it if everyone was dissecting your life and shoving their opinions of what you should have done,when it wouldn’t make a difference in the end? I doubt it. We all make choices and we live and learn…that’s what life is about.
Why not take the time you would be writing negative comments on here, and go volunteer at a women’s shelter, or donate your old clothing, furniture, toys etc…that would be more productive and make a positive change in someone’s life instead of everyone always focusing on the negative.

CreoleInDC October 29, 2008, 9:22 AM

If this ends up being a domestic violence case it wouldn’t have mattered WHERE they lived as the murderer would have always had access to them wherever they were.

Kimberly/Mom in the City October 29, 2008, 9:38 AM

What’s wrong with you momlogic?! Sometimes (like this time) you go too far in order to provoke comments…

Mz Cool October 29, 2008, 10:00 AM

I feel this situation could have taken place anywere! I live in the South suburbs outside of Chicago and it’s crime there. You can go to an area where you may pay 10,000 dollars a year in property taxes and there will be or has been crime committed in those areas where you have a higher percentage of Caucasions. Sometimes, you will hear about it on the news and sometimes it will be kept hush, hush to keep the neighborhood’s maintenance from being labeled! So, I feel if her mother didn’t want to leave, that was her choice. She may felt that that was home to her!

Bridget October 29, 2008, 10:18 AM

We always think of the could’ve, would’ve, and should’ves, but the gist of the matter is that Jennifer’s mom did NOT want to move from her home. He mom was grown and I know that she couldn’t have ever predicted that this horrible tragedy would have happened to her family. You can’t make grown people do what you want them to do. Being as how this was a domestic case anyway, who’s to say that it would not have happened if her family had been moved to the most expensive part of Chicago? It is unfair to Jennifer Hudson in this time of sorrow to even question what she has or has not tried to do for her family.

Dorothy October 29, 2008, 10:30 AM

Jennifer asked her mother to move. It is not her responsibility to MAKE her mother and family move. Winning an Oscar has nothing to do with this situation. The murders had nothing to do with Jennifer. Only that she is related to the victims.
This is a sad sad story. Everyone should just back off and stop trying to put blame on Jennifer…Her Mother was happy where is was living and there should be no finger pointing in Jennifer’s direction… Leave Jennifer alone! She doesn’t need or deserve this crap!

Miz Lo October 29, 2008, 10:32 AM

This is a yes and no answer, if her mother wanted to remain where she was then the answer is no, you should not force a person to live their lives beyond the life that has meaning to them.
I am sure that her mother is very proud of her and wanted her to live the life she has earned.
What I would have done was make sure she had the best alarm and survellience system that money could buy.

L S October 29, 2008, 10:41 AM


“Your immediate family are your belongings.”

This is a disturbing thing to say. Abusers think this way. People are not property. She did not own her mother, brother, nephew or anyone else in her family. She offered, but mom refused. Personally, even if I had the power to force my family to move, I wouldn’t because I respect their feelings and their rights to make decisions for themselves. I have children and they can’t and will never be able to TELL me what to do. This is a tragic situation for Jennifer and Julia and the rest of their family and I can’t believe momlogic is asking a question like this. Ultimately, the killer is responsible and should be punished for it.

Tricia October 29, 2008, 11:26 AM

It’s been widely reported that Jennifer’s mom did not want to move from her home. That is her right. Her daughters fame and blessings should not dictate where she lives. In my opinion, it wouldn’t matter where the family lived. If Julia’s husband did this unthinkable crime, it wouldn’t have matter if the family’s address was on the southside of Chicago or 90210. He was going to do what he wanted regardless of an address. The would ofs, could ofs and should ofs are of no importance at this point. May God continue to bless this family as they struggle with their grief!

K/R October 29, 2008, 11:30 AM

She was wrong for leaving her family in that same old house in that same old neighborhood, dealing with the same old people. you can not do that, you have to leave it and move on, it will not work because people start haten on you when your doing good. and you never know what a person will do. to leave her family in the same state they where when she has no money is just wrong, get out of the hood when you make and take your family with you.

Lelee October 29, 2008, 11:34 AM

I just want to say my heart goes out to the Hudson family, I agree with the young lady that posted previously.
WE ALL HAVE MADE MISTAKES AND WILL MAKE IN THE FUTURE BAD CHOICES. I think we should pray for this family all they need right now is prayer who cares who did what when or how. I am shocked that there are people that are so evil that in such a time in these people live you could waste time posting negative and hurtful comments.
What if some of your negative comments drove this girl or a family member to do something harmful to them selves because it is too much pressure.
To every effect there is a cause.
Don’t be the cause of bringing more stress and depression on to these people. I don’t know the Hudson family and maybe things could have been done better to prevent this outcome. But at this point who really cares 3 lives were lost over some senseless mess and that is all that matters.
This family needs our prayers. I realize not everyone is mature enough to know that now is not the time. And while certain people are being so busy pointing the finger at julia for the mistakes she has made . Direct that finger right back to your self for making the greatest mistake of show IGNORANCE posting negative comments that do not really matter when you should be showing concern and compassion.
If you don’t know better you don’t do better hopefully people will read my post and decide to post something encouraging instead of something negative.
Ask your self would her mother, brother and 7 year old baby approve of all this hate people are dishing out in such a time. I don’t think so. And be careful what you do and say because we have all been victims of making poor choices they just haven’t caught up with us yet. Let’s just pray to GOD if they ever do people will not be as mean and nasty to us as some of you are to this girl and her family. Again I will be Praying for the entire HUDSON family and JUILA 10 times over because she is caring a heavy load right now and she will need the grace and mercy of God to get her through this trying time.
TO the Hudson family focus on the Positive and block out all negative statements people are making. They talked about Jesus and he made it through and so will you and your family. I will continue to keep this family in my prayers.

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