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A new study says dreaming of a cheating hubby isn't cause to worry.

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Have you ever dreamed that your guy was unfaithful -- and woke up fuming?

You may feel guilty for blaming your nocturnal suspicions on him, but a new study says cheating dreams are more normal than you think.

In fact, more than 75% of women dream their partner is cheating and wake up angry, according to an online survey of 5,000 people conducted by The Dream Zone.

"There are lots of people who get slapped in the face first thing in the morning because of this dream!" says lead study author Lauri Quinn Loewenberg.

But why would you dream that your sweet guy is a philandering jerk?

"The reason is very simple,' says Loewenberg. 'The cheating dream happens when we are feeling cheated out of our time with our mate. The dreams are no fun because the feelings we experience in the dream are very real. These dreams hurt! But they are good for us because they are waking us up to the fact that something has been on the receiving end of our mate's time and attention rather than us."

And get this: The "other woman" is rarely Heidi Klum or your hubby's hot secretary.

"In my thirteen years of research, I've found that when a woman gets the cheating dream, 'the mistress' is usually hubby's work, it's less often about football or golf. No one seems to work just 9 - 5 anymore.  When a man gets this dream, the culprit is usually his own kids! Once children come along, hubby is no longer babied. The kids get all the attention he used to get. And when it comes time for 'sexy times', she's bushed!"

According to Loewenberg, women have cheating dreams to call attention to a lackluster love life. And the dreams are a wake-up call that it's time to re-ignite the flame that time, work and children have dimmed.

"The fact that these dreams are so common should be a warning to all of us that we need to be careful that we don't let life get in the way of the most important relationship of all."

But could the 'cheating dream' actually be a warning sign that your man is unfaithful?

"There is always that possibility,' says Loewenberg. 'But before you start snooping through drawers and checking the call log on the cell phone, be sure there are other signs pointing to a possible infidelity than just a dream!"

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Anonymous October 11, 2008, 1:34 PM

I barly have dreams of him cheating on me..Its a couple times a week that he has the dreams about him cheating on me..Whats that about??????????????:/

Anonymous October 12, 2008, 2:34 AM


ashley October 12, 2008, 9:24 AM

Ya want to know something crazy. My uncle’s first wife had a dream that he was cheating on her and so she woke up and hit him while he was sleeping. Well, his first reaction was to hit back. She divorced him over it. Crazy lady. My husband dreams all the time that I cheat on him. I did once, four years ago, it was the worst mistake I ever made. We got past it but he still has nightmares about it all the time and he will stay mad at me most of the day after having one. It sucks, but it’s my fault.

Anonymous October 14, 2008, 10:49 PM

Wow Ashley your uncle’s first wife was crazy! If someone hit you in your sleep you would hit them back without even thinking of it. It isn’t like he was a wife beater!

question October 16, 2008, 9:11 PM

My DH works 12-14 hour days, sometimes 6 or 7 days a week and travels a lot. I’ve had dreams that he was cheating. I always tell him about them and tell him that it means we need a date night. That usually makes the dreams stop. But a few nights ago I had a dream that I was hot and heavy, very sexual, with someone and when I saw the persons face it was me… I mean it was really me … like looking in a mirror… freaky! so freaky that I woke up instantly and I was all weirded out for most of the day.
So someone tell me what that’s all about.

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