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Why Not Having a Mom Sucks

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Momlogic's Julie: When I heard the news of Jennifer Hudson's mom's death today, I felt sick to my stomach ... because I know exactly how it feels to not have a mom.

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Jennifer Hudson's mom died today, and I'm sure it is the worst day of Jennifer's life. Jennifer is 27, the exact same age I was when my mom died. My life has never been the same.

Jennifer Hudson's mom will never see Jennifer walk down the aisle. That is a dream that every mother has for their daughter. It is heart-wrenching to think about how close her mother was to actually having that dream come true, since Jennifer just got engaged.

Jennifer Hudson's mom will never see Jennifer's kids. My mom never saw mine either. It's hard not to feel cheated when I hear my friends talk about how much their own moms love and dote on their babies. It kills me on the inside to know that my mom will never be able to kiss or hug my two beautiful children, because I can only imagine how much she would have loved them.

Jennifer Hudson's kids will never know their grandmother. I tell my kids about Grandma Freda but it's hard for them to really know how wonderful she was because they will never meet her. Pictures and stories can only convey so much, but they're all we've got.

Jennifer Hudson's mom will never see Jennifer as a mother. It saddens me so deeply to know that my mother never got to see me as a mother. She never got to see the woman that I grew up to be ... the person that she shaped and molded for 27 years.

Jennifer Hudson will never be able to call her mom again. That's what I miss most ... being able to pick up the phone and hear her voice. I never got to call her when my kids had a midnight fever to ask her advice. I never got to call her to share a funny story about preschool or kindergarten. I never got to call her to ask what I was like at three, at five, at seven.

Jennifer Hudson will never have a mother again. And no one will ever love you as deeply or be as proud of you as your mother is. I have an awesome husband, a great dad, a wonderful brother and two amazing kids, but tears are streaming down my cheeks right now as I write this ... nearly 10 years after her death ... because no one can ever replace your mother.

And that's an ache that never goes away.

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Anonymous October 28, 2008, 9:04 AM

God bless Jennifer and her sister Julia. Life will never be the same without their mother! I am also living motherless. I just pray that God gives them peace. They will NEVER get over this, but I pray they find peace.

Margaret Brown October 29, 2008, 2:57 PM

Good Day, Jamie Hernandez
I am truly Thankful for this article. I too understand clearly how it feels to lose a “MOTHER” I just recently lost mines 4mos ago. People like (Emily Tiden)who hasn’t lost a MOTHER, can’t and won’t understand how painful this lost is because she still has her MOM!

adwhitten November 20, 2008, 7:38 PM

My mother had a car accident in 03. She had a brian injury and almost died. Every night I would pray that God would make her herself again. But that never happened. My dad died in 04 then I lost my mom in 06. Know I hate myself for not just praising God for still having her. I am an only child and i don’t think it is possible for a mother and daughter to be as closer than I was with mine. She was the greatest mom in the world. She was my best friend! I find myself getting angry when i see kids with there grandchildren, I cant help it. My oldest son was 4 when my dad died and my youngest turned one, one week after my dad died. They were awesome grandparents. And no stories and photos will never do justice! Please if you still have your mother cherish her every day. And tell her so, even if she already knows it. People always think things like this dont happen to them. Well I thought the same thing. My life was perfect one day and the next it was turned upside down. I miss my parents more everyday, it does not get easier!

Tracy March 20, 2009, 12:48 PM

wow Tears are streaming down my face as I read this .Jennifer my prayer and thoughts are with you .My Mom passed away 11 years ago, and to me it seems like yesterday we were sitting together. I truely feel that our love ones that have gone on, will be with us again one day.

Levalittle June 1, 2009, 3:49 PM

Why would you talk about another person killing themselves? Especially about stuff like this!!! Are you perverted? Are you actually so insensitive?? What the hell is wrong with you? WTF???

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