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Hell No! I'm Not Changing My Name!

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Something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue. Some wedding traditions will never go out of style -- except maybe one. More and more men are taking their wives' last names.

couple at their wedding
When musician Todd Baechle married fellow musician Orenda Fink, his decision to take his wife's name caused major controversy among his friends and family. They were shocked he would consider something so -- well, weird. To Todd it made perfect sense, considering his wife had worked hard to establish her name in the music industry.

The county where he lived in Nebraska, however, was baffled. Todd had to hire a lawyer and embark on a lengthy court process. He was required to have his name change publicized for four consecutive weeks. He then appeared before a judge to testify he wasn't changing his name to evade creditors or a criminal history.

The ordeal of taking his wife's name cost him $500.

Todd isn't alone -- there's a slow-growing trend for men that take their wives' last names. And although no local, state or national agency records the instances, anecdotal evidence nationwide indicates it's more common.

So why the fuss? Given we have roots as a patriarchal society and several hundred years of history, experts say people often accept tradition without questioning it -- "That's just the way it is." What's more, families may have qualms if their child is the only male who could carry on the family name.  

Tell us -- would you ever have your husband take your name?

21 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anonymous October 7, 2008, 4:18 PM

My husband would never do it. I kept my name but he would never take mine. I am sure of it.

Anonymous October 7, 2008, 4:20 PM

Todd’s obviously a strong man — not only did he take his wife’s name… he became a Fink. He must really love her.

Alecia October 7, 2008, 5:24 PM

I took my husband’s name when I married him and I am proud to say it!! He would not take my name because it just isn’t the way things are most of the time in society. Our son has our last name and we are a unified family. We’ve worked hard to keep our marriage intact and it’s nice to be called one last name. I am sick and tired of people acting like it’s so horrific to choose to follow tradition. I have my right to that just as much as you have the right to hyphenate, keep your name or your husband to take yours. Who cares what people choose to do?

Someone October 7, 2008, 6:27 PM

I took the easy route and married someone with the same last name! Obviously that doesn’t work for most, but it sure worked for me!

me December 10, 2008, 1:14 AM

I didn’t change my name we had/have fights about it

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