I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

 

As I have written before, a mother can wish that her children became non-existant only if she suffers from pre/post natal depression (such as baby blues) or any other mental illnesses or depressions. ‘Frazzled Mama’, I do not want to criticise you, but I think you are suffering from some kind of mental disturbances or depressions. I have read somewhere that those who have killed other people have thought or fantacised about killing at least once before the actual murders. All sins and crimes are first committed in the head before being committed by the hands. So,I am worried about you and your children, not only because you can relate to Casey Anthony, but also because you think this kind of feelings is normal (‘Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?’. I myself have suffered from depressions but after I recovered, I came to realise that nromal mothers are always glad for being mothers unless they are not suffering from mental illnesses. So I advise you, please please please, for the welfare of yourself and your children, seek medical treatment IMMEDIATELY.

- Proud mom

Posted 11/13/08 08:41 AM

 

 

I don’t think you have the whole picture. It has been reported that Casey had no job, so she was not a working mother also she did not take care of her child full time. So… she is not a working mother with responsibility of caring for her child. Her parents were raising her child. Casey was allowed to do as she pleased and still be called a mother. Thats the way I have seen it!!!!!!!!!!!

- cc

Posted 11/13/08 10:59 AM

 

 

i definately cannot relate! im a working single mother of a 3 yr old that i had when i was 18 yrs old; i worked nights at a restaurant at night to be able to support my child while i was in college. i was worn out too and while i did take the occasional “night out” with friends…. i would never wish my child would just “go away”!!!!!!!! speak for your own self!!!!!! how dare you! and yes, im happy 100% of the time being a mother! you need help!

- lacy

Posted 11/13/08 11:35 AM

 

 

It always amazes me that people discuss parenting with emphasis on how hard it is with younger children. As a long time parent I found dealing with the teen years the hardest. Worrying that your kid will engage in sexual activity leading unwanted pregnancy or STDs, worrying that they might drive too fast or their friends will drive too fast and get into a serious even fatal car accident, worrying they’ll get into drugs, worrying some sexual predator will try to seduce them or worse, etc., for me, was far more stressful than the terrible twos. No one has ever said children are angels 100% of the time. However, I consistently hear how hard young children are. Please. Teens are much harder. If you cannot handle a two year old give him/her up for adoption NOW because it only gets harder. That aside, regarding Casey, you can feel frustrated and helpless but taking action is what gets you into trouble. The first bad step is thinking it’s normal to feel the way this blog seems to portray Casey as feeling. Relating to someone who may have committed murder, especially the murder of a child, is scary to me. With safe haven laws (Florida has them) there is never an excuse to sedate your child. Drugging a person to get them to behave the way you want them to is abuse. It’s no different in my opinion than a man who uses GHB in order to get sex. It’s wrong. The fact that some are blithely discussing sedating a child to get them to “behave” bothers me. Reading a blog where a supposed mother relates to a potential child murderer is troubling. Parenting is difficult. What we should be discussing is how to develop coping skills for stressed parents. What we should be discussing is how parents can learn to identify what is normal and healthy parenting. What we should not discuss is how “normal” it is to end up sedating or even killing a child (by accident or otherwise). It’s not normal to want to drug someone. It’s not normal to end up killing a child. It’s the opposite of normal. If you are a parent and you feel overwhelmed and are even remotely tempted to drug or otherwise harm your child, YOU NEED HELP. And if you don’t have family to help you call 911 or something. If any

- Also concerned

Posted 11/13/08 11:45 AM

 

 

Sorry, post got cut off: If any of you remotely relate to Casey YOU NEED HELP. Contrary to what most of us believe, there are norms to human behavior. Just because YOU feel a certain way doesn’t mean everyone does, however, if you feel a certain way that is extremely negative on a consistent basis about a loved one, child or not, it’s not normal. I’m tired of reading blogs where people act like feeling hatred, or feelings of violence is acceptable and the norm. It’s not. That’s a sure sign something is wrong and needs to be fixed. So if you are having fantasies about getting a loved one out of your life GET HELP and GET IT FAST. It’s simply not normal. What leads to cases like Casey Anthony is society either ignoring all the warning signs or society telling them it’s “normal” to feel anger, hostility, even violent towards a loved one. Once you make feeling that way acceptable and seemingly normal, it’s only a hop, skip, and a jump to action like what is believed to have happened in the Anthony case.

- Also Concerned (cont)

Posted 11/13/08 11:49 AM

 

 

I think the women who are responding to this article are responding to their horror at Casey, not at the idea that we don’t sometimes wish we could get away from it all. I don’t know a single mom who has not had the thought we would like to just leave all the worry and cares behind. Don’t let them beat you up. Toddlers are trying that’s why God made them cute or there would be a lot smelly trunks in the world.

- Wendy

Posted 11/13/08 12:22 PM

 

 

First off…she didn’t HAVE a job! She also had parents that were THERE for her, to watch her daughter if she needed them to. Casey had plenty of time for fun. My opinion…she was too busy sending text messages or being on the computer to watch her daughter. Something probably accidentally happened (the pool?) and Casey couldn’t own up. Perhaps the chloroform was used to cleanse the trunk after she stashed her there till she figured out what to do?

- christine

Posted 11/13/08 01:00 PM

 

 

This post is extremely disgusting! There is not one day that goes by that I take my child for granted! And YES I am ALWAYS, 100% of the time glad to be a mother. There is NOTHING that I would rather be doing than be with my child 100% of the time. I am not saying that parents do not need time away, but I am saying that there are responsible ways to get that time and your child’s well-being should be your number one concern 100% of the time no matter who you are or what you have been through. There are NO excuses for this kind of behavior so everybody needs to stop making them and spend their time more constructively. That little girl’s grandparents seem more than willing to provide for her while her mother went off and did what was REALLY important in her life. If you truly feel that you are not happy to be a mother 100% of the time, you need to give your kids to someone who does. This post is absolutely absurd and ridiculous. If you don’t want kids…DON’T HAVE THEM!!!!!!!!!!

- Keisha

Posted 11/13/08 01:19 PM

 

 

Wow, Father of 2, there posts are made of love? Could have fooled me. Maybe I missed in the midst of reading all the mothers insulting the blogger, suggesting that even writing these post was evidence that social services should be called - on the blogger! I kind of thought love went hand in understanding, empathy that kind of thing. Maybe not towards Casey, who may have committed a horrible crime, but to the blogger? Nope. Instead lets tell her that she needs to seek help, and we worry about her children. You all may be super parents, but keep your judgemental critical brood away from mine.

- Disgusted.

Posted 11/13/08 01:33 PM

 

 

Yes, I can honestly say that I am happy being a Mother all the time, 110% of the time. It takes a real low life to say they are not! People who still want freedom, and still want to be able to do whatever they want when they want should not have children. And whoever believes other wise is sadly mistaken. When you have children, that is all over. You still have fun but you take your children along. I take my son where ever I go, and if he can not go, then i do not go. Your child is your own responsibility until they are 18, and longer. You made the choice to have them, so you deal with it. I can not believe someone could have the nerve to take up for a person who would do wrong to their own child for a night of fun! Having a child is a blessing. There are some people who can not have children, that would of loved to be the mother of Caylee Anthony. You only live one life. Life is what you make it. Your children should be apart of everything you do.

- Amanda

Posted 11/13/08 01:54 PM

 

 

I have five kids. The oldest is fifteen and the two youngest are seven month old twins. I’m also employed outside of the home full time. Am I exhausted? Definitely! Would I like time to myself occasionally? Definitely! Would I kill or otherwise dispose of ANY of my children in order to get that time to myself? Absolutely not. I can’t relate to Casey Anthony OR to the author of this disturbing post. To the author — seriously. You can empathize with a woman who is out partying the night away while knowing her toddler is dead or missing? Did you give this post ANY thought before you typed it?

- Anna

Posted 11/13/08 02:10 PM

 

 

Me thinks many of the responders doth protest too much. Those who say they are 100% happy 100% of the time are FULL OF IT! You’re not fooling anyone reading your posts and I’m sure you’re not fooling yourselves either. Part of being human is to experience sadness, despair, pain, regret, doubt, fear, selfishness, hate, etc. There’s NOTHING at all wrong with these kinds of feelings in and of themselves. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to experience these feelings and emotions from time to time. In fact, it would be completely abnormal to NOT feel these things some times. What separates the ‘good’ people from the ‘bad’ people is how they react to these kinds of negative feelings. The ‘bad’ ones nuture and cultivate the negative feelings and eventually act on them. The ‘good’ ones find ways to cope or hopefully overcome the negative feelings, and they do not act on them. Anyone who claims they are unable to empathize with Casey is either lying or perhaps they may have some sociopathic qualities themselves. To empathize with someone does not mean you ‘support’ or ‘approve’ of what they are doing. It does NOT mean that you are capable of acting on them as Casey appears to have done. All it means is that you are honest enough to acknowledge you, like all humans, are capable of experiencing these negative emotions.

- Learn_to_Empathize_People

Posted 11/13/08 02:38 PM

 

 

To Learn: I don’t think most of the posts here are claiming they are 100% happy 100% of the time to be a mother. And I don’t think most of the posts here show a lack of empathy for people who experience negative emotions when being a mother. Where the lack of empathy kicks in is when the possible actions of Casey Anthony are considered here. Casey was not a working mother. Casey had supportive family members both financially and otherwise. Casey had no excuse to “give in” to her negative emotions. And what most people on this blog have a hard time accepting is that another person claiming to be a mother can “relate” to Casey, a mother who was not working and was receiving plenty of support from family may have done to her child in order to free up her sex life. Negative emotions are one thing. Having a high stress life is one thing. And having no support from family or community is one thing. But when you look at Casey’s life you do not see any of these problems. Hence the “lack of empathy” for her and the shock and disgust at this blog post. Casey was not a normal mother. So relating to her and her supposed “feelings” is confusing and alarming for those mothers who are “normal.” Perhaps YOU need to learn some empathy yourself.

- Heather

Posted 11/13/08 02:57 PM

 

 

I can totally agree with this, there are times when I just want to go back and it’s just me and I would NEVER hurt my child EVER. I cant imagine life without her but I like the person who wrote this am not exactly mother material. I can see where she is going with this and those who are criticizing her are just afraid to agree. No one is happy being a mother 24/7 365, there are days when you just want time to yourself and no responsiblity, the responsibility part is not going to go away BUT time alone you can get that, just get a babysitter I mean surely its not that hard to find a family member or friend to watch your little angel for a couple of hours. Casey should burn for what she did to little Caylee and I am truly disgusted at what she did but please if you do not want your child or are afraid you are going to harm them then find a responisble adult or family memeber that can take them so they can grow up and live their lives like children should, dont kill them or beat them they are just innocent little angels that did not choose to come into this world. And if you know you dont want them then take the precautions not to get pregnant!!!

- JB

Posted 11/13/08 03:00 PM

 

 

What a mental mother and post. Someone should call the authorities, show them her post and then take her children from her.

- Peter Ehrlich

Posted 11/13/08 03:14 PM

 

 

Heather says ‘Negative emotions are one thing. Having a high stress life is one thing. And having no support from family or community is one thing. But when you look at Casey’s life you do not see any of these problems.’ Take off the blinders deary. When Casey was pregnant she did NOT want to have the baby; she wanted to abort or put the child up for adoption but her domineering mother Cindy would not allow it. That doesn’t sound like a supportive and healthy environment to me. If her life is so stress free and easy and she had all the support in the world - why did she not put the child up for adoption - wouldn’t that have been the best way to ensure that her party-life isn’t negatively impacted? The answer seems to be that Cindy would not allow adoption. So Casey was pressured into motherhood when clearly she doesn’t want to be a mother and clearly she is not capable of being a mother. I’m not saying that’s any excuse for harming her child, mind you. But I do think you are not looking deep enough if you think Casey’s life was so great and she’s just a cold evil monster who purposely murdered her child.

- Learn_to_Empathize_People

Posted 11/13/08 03:34 PM

 

 

I like the post by Learn_to_Empathize_People. Couldn’t have said it better myself.

- Anonymous

Posted 11/13/08 03:48 PM

 

 

Peter Ehrlich says ‘Someone should call the authorities, show them her post and then take her children from her.’ Someone should turn YOU in for suggesting that someone else KIDNAP the blogger’s kids… Maybe your post and your name should be sent to the FBI for investigation?

- Judge Not Lest...

Posted 11/13/08 03:59 PM

 

 

OH MY GOD. I am a single mother of 2. I work full time and I go to school. I take care of my kids by myself with no help from anyone. It makes me soo SICK to my stomach that she was that “tired” that she that badly needed time off. She did NOT work, She WAS out all the time partying, so why is she that pressed for some free time. She just did not want that little girl. She wanted to party and live her life. I know how it it to be so tired, stressed out, overworked, and if your kids are not listening, not doing what they should be, mothers could get to the point where all they want is some free time. I felt like I needed my time, So I asked my mom to watch my kids for few hours so I can go away and relax. There are times where noone can watch them, so I put something on tv for my kids to watch or get them to play and I go to a different room for few min to calm down. NEVER did I ever think to do anything like sudating my kids so I could go out. That is beyond selfish. A loving mother would NEVER do that, and Cindy actually now says her daughter was a great mom. That is not what she was saying when the little girl first was reported missing. She was the one telling police to arrest her daughter Casey because she knew her daughter was gone for over a month and did not report it. Why is her mother defending her now. That whole family is messed up.

- ANELA

Posted 11/13/08 04:10 PM

 

 

Actions are the clearest indicator as to what lurks in the minds and hearts of an individual. Not words. Actions. It is not normal to sedate a child in order to party. Regardless of the circumstances of a child’s birth. Only about 200 children are killed every year by their mothers in this country. I say “only” even though that still seems too high. However, it’s a relatively small number considering how many children there are in this country. Most parents don’t bring their children to harm. And yet many children are born into circumstances that are less than ideal. It’s not the norm to harm a child. Normal people do not harm other people, especially those that are innocent. To normalize what Casey is suspected of doing is dangerous. To empathize with her and feel sorry for her is in a sense, giving a green light to her actions. Casey was an adult. If her parents were so domineering and overbearing she had other choices. It’s not like she was a minor with no options. It’s not like this is the 19th century when spouses or parents literally controlled a woman’s destiny. Again, her actions were not a normal response to the situation. Her actions clearly indicate someone who is at the very least, remorseless and at best mentally unstable (best being a somewhat sympathetic mitigating factor). As for her parents being so awful I don’t buy that. Kids don’t steal from parents they live in fear of. In case you all have forgotten, she stole left and right from family and friends. That’s not someone who seems to care much for others. Again, her actions are what we are judging. Normal, nice people don’t steal from people they care about. Normal, nice people don’t neglect or abuse or murder (if she did in fact commit murder) their kids. People who feel negative things either make things better the best they can or they walk away. They don’t put those they love in danger. There is no way to relate to a person who acts criminally since their “emotions” and way of thinking is so dissimilar to those who do not act criminally. And that’s why a post claiming to relate to a possible criminal is causing such an outcry. It is impossible to ACCURATELY empathize with an individual who in no way feels or thinks the way the

- Heather

Posted 11/13/08 04:18 PM

 

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