I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Guest Blogger Frazzled Mama: Sometimes I think accused mom Casey Anthony and I have something in common.

I'll let you in on a secret: When I see those pictures of Casey Anthony out partying the days after her child had gone missing, I empathize with her. That look on her face is that of a woman who -- in a fit of desperation -- may have chosen to sedate her own child for a couple hours of freedom. And then something went terribly wrong.

As a mom trying to balance work, family and sanity, there are times when I want nothing more than to go back to my free and single days with no responsibly to anyone but myself. I truly know how she feels. But unlike what Casey may have done, I would never harm my child to make that dream come true. I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible. But if any of us were to be honest with ourselves, can any mother say they are 100% happy being a mother 100% of the time?

There are days when we moms, especially those with young children, are so worn out, so tired, so frustrated that we wish our kids would just go away. That we could just snap our fingers and Poof! they'd disappear. Usually, for the most part, these feelings pass and we're yanked back into reality by a toddler hug or a smile or just a deep breath -- suddenly everything is worthwhile. Sadly, women like Casey Anthony don't snap back and they do the unthinkable. I know for myself there are times--rarely--when I think if I had it to do all over again maybe having children wasn't the best choice for me.

Of course we're never supposed to even admit anything like that. Mothers are supposed to be selfless creatures living only for their children. Sacrificing everything for family. With that lofty expectation of motherhood, no wonder mothers are prone to depression, self-doubt, huge amounts of crushing guilt and despite it all there are of course moments of incredible joy.

Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?

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I think what the author of this article wus tryin to say that she’s loser just like the rest of the selfish child killing mothers who just want there old lives bak…she sympathizes with her cus she is a loser…yah you and all the other child killing parents dont deserve the air you consume…let alone the space you take up…only a loser wuld say something like that let alone think it…I bet the author of that lays in bed at night just like Casey did wishing to be free of the tethors of motherhood and just wishes she could drug her kids so she could go out and party..I hate to tell you parenting isnt that hard or bad in the 8 yrs my children have been in my life I have never once wished to go back to the single woman life YOU ARE A LOSER FOR EVEN PRINTING SUCH FILTH AND HATRED TOWARDS CHILDREN..YOU SHULD BE INVESTIGATED BY YOUR LOCAL CHILD PROTEVTIVE SERVICES!! I AM ALWAYS 100% GLAD TO BE A MOTHER ..THOSE WHO ARENT ARE SELFISH MONSTERS NOT LOVING CREATURES COMPLETELY DEVOTED TO THERE CHILDREN…IT TAKES AN IMMATURE PERSON TO MAKE A STATEMENT LIKE YOU HAVE…YOUR A LOSER…NOTHING MORE…I HOPE YUR CHILDREN NEVER READ THAT….

- YOUR A LOSER

Posted 11/11/08 12:10 PM

Norml women who have childrn understand they have givn up all opportunity of alone time unless its at the end of the day when they go to bed…I just cant believe the crap I am readin ..I will never ever come on this bs blogger sight again..you all are poor excuses of parents…

- YOURSTILLALOSER

Posted 11/11/08 12:12 PM

first off..casey was NOT a working mother. Casey was a freeloader. Secondly, Casey was not living on her own, she lived with her parents. there is absolutely no comparison as much as You would wish there was. you have certain feelings..that come and go, Casey on the other hand..had feelings..that came..and never left..i feel sorry for you child(ren) if they ever see this post..it is amazing how your words are close to child abuse on the emotional level if this were to come out, and they find out who wrote it..how do you think they will feel about themselves then? You do seem selfish like casey, i will give you that.

- harmony

Posted 11/11/08 12:12 PM

The ability to empathize without condemning is a very noble gift.

- Karin

Posted 11/11/08 12:14 PM

Although there are times a mother may need some free time, these children didn’t ask to be brought into this world. Grow up, and keep your pants on your rear instead of on your ankles. No wonder we have so many abused and killed children. And as far as Casey, she will get what she deserves one day and her parents too, if they are up holding her.

- Sarah

Posted 11/11/08 12:15 PM

First Woman- Please seek counseling. You have not expressed yourself well and may need help sorting thru your emotions to ensure your family and yourself are safe.

- Ann

Posted 11/11/08 12:16 PM

“First Person”, since you can relate to wanting to go back to “free and single days”, can you relate and excuse Casey’s lack of honesty, countless lies, stealing of grandparents assisted living funds, stealing and forging her friends checks, wasting of equusearch funds when they could be directed towards searches where the parents and family actually participate, lack of cooperation with authorities and private organizations searching for her daughter, and wasting of taxpayers dollars and time? I agree with everyone else… this was in such bad taste.

- Emily

Posted 11/11/08 12:17 PM

If life is that stressful with children, you have other options. Get a babysitter for an hour so you can recharge. If you can’t afford a babysitter, trade childcare duties with another frazzled mom. Most of us moms have been there. I have been a stay-at-home mom for 15 years and it has never been easy. And not only that, now that I am looking for employment, nobody will give me the time of day since I have been out of the workforce for so long. Catch 22!

- hannah

Posted 11/11/08 12:18 PM

Are you SERIOUS???? ‘Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?” What a distasteful comment. You should read up on your fact before comparing single mom’s to Casey Anthony. Casey Anthony choose to have a baby at a young age and while single. She was fortunate to have the support of her family, not all single moms have that support. And she DID NOT have a job, but rather lied to everyone about having a job, so she should not be tired or stressed out enough to kill her baby. She has and had support and options and she choose to be a poor parent as well as a poor human being! Hopefully you will seek help and do not decide to get arid of your children because you are “not always glad to be a mother”. There are millions of loving people who would gladly be good parents when people like you don’t give a damn. You make me sick. REMOVE THIS POST.

- Use Commen Sense

Posted 11/11/08 12:19 PM

Oh, for christs sake. Listen, guest blogger: I don’t know where you were trying to go with this article of yours, but my guess is you missed your objective at each point. Grow up. Get hospitalized. Give your kids to someone who will love and care for them even on a Saturday night. And stop writing on the internet. You have nothing of worth to say.

- PARK4

Posted 11/11/08 12:33 PM

oh, shut up. She never once had any real responsibility for anything in her life, including her own child. Her parents did everything. How dare you feel for this wack job. She doesn’t have 1/1000th of the responsibilites you have, so why would she tire of dressing her daughter up like a little doll, that’s all she did, play with her like a doll. Shut up. Again. Shut up.

- nina

Posted 11/11/08 12:36 PM

Hogwash! Sure all mothers have their bad days and months where they figure it will never end. But RELATING to a person like Casey Anthony?????Wow, you need serious therapy. She was unstable before she had the baby, way way before, Mommie Dearest(Cindy, face in the news) made the decision FOR her to have the child. Are you kidding me? HOGWASH!

- Anonymous

Posted 11/11/08 12:39 PM

I’ve waited 38 yrs to become a mommy. My daughter now 18 months old is my heart and soul. Even when I do feel a little overwhelmed, I could never imagine being away from her for a second. I have to admit that if something were to happen to her (god forbid), they would have to put me in a straight jacket and lock me up and drug me because I would go door to door with a shot gun looking for her. I have never felt the way I do about my daughter or anyone else. It is strange the bond between a mother and a child. I look at little Caylee, and I think “who would want to hurt this child” so beautiful and innocent. I would never put my baby asside for anything else or anyone else, EVER! If you would , you are nuts!

- Tracey

Posted 11/11/08 12:39 PM

I would suggest, First Person, that you see your optometrist…and soon…as your vision must be failing you. I fail to see where Casey’s face emits a “fit of desperation”, but rather a face that displays complete happiness and elation to be out partying without responsibilities. Sure, something went terribly wrong…Casey killed Caylee, whether it was an accident or not. A chemical such as chloroform is not to be played with. For that matter, over-the-counter Benadryl is not to be played with either. Casey is not stupid and knew full well the risk she was taking when she chose to sedate her child, no matter what method she chose to consider. As for empathizing with Casey…forget it. I’ve been a single parent for years, and although I’ve gotten to the end of my rope on more than one occasion, it has never crossed my mind to sedate my child for the sake of going out to party. IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD A BABY SITTER, STAY THE HELL HOME! If you don’t want the responsibility of raising a child, either don’t have one to begin with or give them up to someone who DOES wants the responsibility.

- Lorretta

Posted 11/11/08 12:44 PM

you must of drank the kasey kool-aid….

- CAYLEE~ANGEL

Posted 11/11/08 12:48 PM

Tracey, My sentiments EXACTLY…my boy is almost 6 and I waited til I was 32 to have him. If I even THINK about losing him, I tell my family to be prepared, b/c I couldnt go on without him, so sad to say, but its true. My life without him would be NOTHING, as I have now felt the joy of having him, loving him, and loving him…seriously, never in my life could I have imagined I could feel this way about someone. To even think that a child would die at their mother’s hands, is unthinkable and soooo horrendous….makes me sick! I meant what I said, she (Casey) needs to be locked away in a SMALL cell, with no windows, no nothing, lights out…left alone to think about what she did, and how she covered it up, and tossed that poor baby away like trash. CASEY is the trash!

- Mom of one amazing boy

Posted 11/11/08 12:50 PM

I am a single mother with 2 children. My children have no grandparents, only 2 busy Uncles No freetime for me. I NEVER ever think like you, how did you say “poof” and they would be gone. I think the writer of this post is trying to rationalize her thoughts as “normal” feelings, however she is comparing herself to a murderer. I am 100% HAPPY being a very tied down, always busy and very blessed mother:)

- JcinFL

Posted 11/11/08 12:53 PM

There is always someone you can turn to when you need free time. That is why there are care takers out there when you need them. If you can’t have your parents watch your kids, hire a babysitter(a real one, not Zanny) which really stood for Xanax. When she couldn’t get Xanax - she made Chloroform! I am sure a lot of her friends did the same thing.

- EIlen

Posted 11/11/08 12:59 PM

Casey has no remorse for the loss of her child. she only called police 31 days after she ”disapeared” because her mom Cindy showed up to find Caylee and her. If Cindy wouldnt have come Casey would have continued partying and stealing she would have never picked up the phone and asked for help. And as a 23 year old mom of two kids, i get my breaks when i go grocery shopping or run errands its a sacrifice u have to make when u have kids, you give up your freedom to come and go as u please . i love my kids and i would choose a night in with them anyday over partying. if she wanted freedom she should have used a condom and this woud never have happend.

- mom of 2

Posted 11/11/08 01:03 PM

All moms get tired and want some freedom; that being said, this is a grotesque commentary and probably should not have been posted.

- D Jones

Posted 11/11/08 01:06 PM