I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Guest Blogger Frazzled Mama: Sometimes I think accused mom Casey Anthony and I have something in common.

I'll let you in on a secret: When I see those pictures of Casey Anthony out partying the days after her child had gone missing, I empathize with her. That look on her face is that of a woman who -- in a fit of desperation -- may have chosen to sedate her own child for a couple hours of freedom. And then something went terribly wrong.

As a mom trying to balance work, family and sanity, there are times when I want nothing more than to go back to my free and single days with no responsibly to anyone but myself. I truly know how she feels. But unlike what Casey may have done, I would never harm my child to make that dream come true. I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible. But if any of us were to be honest with ourselves, can any mother say they are 100% happy being a mother 100% of the time?

There are days when we moms, especially those with young children, are so worn out, so tired, so frustrated that we wish our kids would just go away. That we could just snap our fingers and Poof! they'd disappear. Usually, for the most part, these feelings pass and we're yanked back into reality by a toddler hug or a smile or just a deep breath -- suddenly everything is worthwhile. Sadly, women like Casey Anthony don't snap back and they do the unthinkable. I know for myself there are times--rarely--when I think if I had it to do all over again maybe having children wasn't the best choice for me.

Of course we're never supposed to even admit anything like that. Mothers are supposed to be selfless creatures living only for their children. Sacrificing everything for family. With that lofty expectation of motherhood, no wonder mothers are prone to depression, self-doubt, huge amounts of crushing guilt and despite it all there are of course moments of incredible joy.

Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?

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You’ve got to be out of your freakin mind!!! My guess is that you have “other things” you need to be honest about. Just what have you slipped your kids when no one was looking, and were lucky enough not to overdose them? Give your poor kids up before your nanny kidnaps them!!!

- connie

Posted 11/11/08 01:10 PM

The person that wrote this needs help. Anyone that would compare themselves to Casey Anthony is sick and doesn’t deserve the pleasure of the precious smile first thing in the morning or the mommy mommy with a big hug like you are the best thing in the world when you only left for 10 minutes to go to the corner store. And of course the first days home and they fall asleep on your chest and you just sit there not moving, NOT because you don’t want to wake them and they may cry you sit there just to look at them and smell them and just hold them the sweetest precious little being you created so so perfect. Casey Anthony had plenty of down/free time geez she lived with her parents didnt work did what she wanted had plenty of men so what was so bad in her life for her to want her free life back? Nothing she is just a selfish little s*** that was jealious of her own dauther. she said “all they want is Caylee back thats all they are worried about right now is getting Caylee back” WHAT A B**** and this poster is just as selfish as Casey.

- lnm

Posted 11/11/08 01:10 PM

I am still laughing at the comments Grandma is making on national tv. Ohhhh, Casey is an excellent mother, blah, blah, blah, yeah, that is why they fought all the time, and she and Grandpa took care of her child. She is a GREAT mother. The defense team has coached them well. Pitiful that these people believe the nation trusts them. Thou speakest with a “forked-tongue”. Like Mother, like daughter and father in this case. Very sad. I am glad Caylee is out of their clutches, she would end up being a psycho too.

- JoAnn

Posted 11/11/08 01:14 PM

We all have moments when we need a break, and most of us have family that love our children, it is clear that many people loved this little child. I would never even think about doing what she did, there are so many people who would have loved to take care of that baby while she got drunk and pole danced at parties. Even if there was never anyone suitable available to babysit, such as in my situation, I would tote my kids anywhere I had to go (and I do) because having them safe with me is the best option for them, they deserve that much love, and to leave an child unsupervised or worse (sedate them) is the most selfish horrible thing i can think of, If someone in my family were to do this to there child I would call the authoriies. Even if it was my own sister or someone I loved. I am only a couple of years older that casey and I have two children, so I don’t feel any sympathy or understanding for what she did, a mother is supposed to rather be with her children that to party. She obviously cared more about herself than her baby and that in itself is reason enough that she should have given the responsibility to someone else, and then she could have been free, but instead she did the unthinkable. If in any way it could have possibly been an accident, which i don’t think it was, she would not have covered it up the way she did unless it was an accident that was the direct consequence of her negligence, and in that case I don’t think it can be called an accident.

- molly

Posted 11/11/08 01:15 PM

YOU NEED TO BE INVESTIGATED AND CLOSELY WATCHED AND SUPERVISED BY DCFS!

- Concerned

Posted 11/11/08 01:16 PM

I am having a hard time understand why you women feel that the way Casey lived her life has anything to do with a mother working hard, stressing out over bills, home and what a good mother has done for years. 1. Casey did not have a job! 2. Cindy took care of Caylee! It is ok to feel sorry for someone who had a hard job or 2 jobs. Has a child to raise, and is stress worrying about all of the above. It is very hard to be a single parent. Casey thinks of me, me, me. Casey was not being a mother to the child if she had been a good mother, Cindy would have never gone and got her, Cindy would have never called the police, and they would have Caylee right now, and this crazy soap opera would be on TV as a life time movie. This poor child is dead, and someone needs to go to jail, or death row for doing this. The reporter should tell Cindy to go home and leave normal, hard working people alone, if you daughter was mother of the year, little Caylee would still be at your house. Praying for someone to jump in and stop the Cindy and Casey review, they need help! This family is sick, and out of their minds, Stop letting them on TV.

- Mary

Posted 11/11/08 01:18 PM

This post is so disturbing in so many ways. Can you imagine someone posting a similar item that “empathizes” with Scott Peterson because all men can somehow relate to the stress of pending fatherhood? And as someone earlier mentioned, how does Casey Anthony have ANY stress in her life? She didn’t work, she didn’t go to school, she dumped Caylee off on the grandparents whenever she could. Seriously, what is her stress from? Deciding what hoodie and bra to buy with money stolen from a friend? There is a HUGE difference between identifying being worn out and needing a break and just wanting my kids to “just poof! disappear.”

- Anon

Posted 11/11/08 01:18 PM

As a woman in her mid 30’s who just had her first child after trying for many years and whio is over joyed that I was able to conceive, carry and give birth to this amazing life….I am more than a little stunned to read this. It’s a despicable post. It comes down to this: Casey Anthony had choices. She chose to be a single mom She chose not to give Caylee up for adoption She chose not to let her parents adopt Caylee. She chose not to find a babysitter for Caylee If Caylee was inhibiting this new lifestyle that she wanted so desperately or the care free days that you reference then it seems to me there was a pretty obvious choice for her – an “out” if you will: HER PARENTS. Whether it was for a night, a weekend, or permanently, she had the option of leaving Caylee with Cindy and George. Not many people have this option – a wonderful support system of family who would have done anything for both Casey and Caylee, however SHE did. Maybe you should find a neighbor or sitter to give you your couple hours of freedom that you find yourself reminiscing about. It is shocking to me that you would long for days of zero responsibility and that you would want to snap your fingers and have your child disappear! As a grown up, I look back at those days of no accountability/partying and cringe. Do I miss it? Absolutely not. Do I miss being able to run out and get a pedicure or go booze it up with friends whenever I feel like it? Not at all – my priorities are different. I knew my life would change once I had a child. I made that choice. Want to talk about tired and frustrated? And sanity? My little one is sick so I’ve had about 8 hours sleep total in the past 4 days and not once have I wished for anything other than my baby’s comfort. Even at 3 in the morning I am thanking God for her - I cannot imagine my world without her in it. Oh, yeah – I work 8 hours a day too and feed my husband dinner when he gets home. And no, I’m not super human – I’m a grown up. The point is this: the choice I made was

- ACS

Posted 11/11/08 01:20 PM

NEVER—EVER have I longed for (supposedly) carefree, childless days. If you are not fully capable of wanting to be a mother,100% of the time, fully engaged with your children—well, maybe you should have thought about this BEFORE getting pregnant! Every mother has had frustrating days-days when you feel every molecule in your body is stretched beyond capacity-but wishing your children away? A different life? Haven’t those children taught you ANYTHING? So selfish. And frightening— to put yourself in the same class as a monster like Casey Anthony—frightens me for kids out there.

- Deborah McReady

Posted 11/11/08 01:21 PM

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? If you can understand anything about Casey Anthony you are as sick as she is! I am a Mother of six beautiful children, including two sets of twins, and I would never, even in my deepest darkest thoughts, would I ever want to go “poof” and make them all go away! How dare you humanize this monster and suggest for one minute that “we mothers” are not happy to be Moms 100% of the time. She is sick, and you are sick for sharing her thoughts. I hope your child never has the opportunity to read your post.

- twinsx2plus2

Posted 11/11/08 01:23 PM

I am a single mom of two little girls and I cannot relate to you or to Casey!!! You have got to be joking. Not for one moment in my life since I have had my daughters have I ever felt like that. You have got to be kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!

- sandi

Posted 11/11/08 01:24 PM

i am 47 have 3 children 6 grandchildren, never once have i ever made, looked up how to make chloriform, gave my child seditaves, or put any of them in the trunk, or thought in any way how to get rid of them, i look foward to my youngest comming home from school or my young grandchildren comming over i wouldnt give it up for a few hrs to party, i never even knew you could make chloriform you are nuts!!!!casey is nuts!!!!! the anthony family is nuts!!!!

- annna bailey

Posted 11/11/08 01:25 PM

someone linked to Casey must have posted something so freakin ridiculous!!!

- sandi

Posted 11/11/08 01:29 PM

Everyone including Mommies need me time, however when you make the choice to become a mom, whether or not it was planned, your focus should no longer be on the Self but on this little individual you helped to create. Your JOB my dear is to ensure you keep your child safe, teach them to become a great person, friend and member of society, provide for them in all ways needed to help them to develop and be nurtured and to love them unconditionally. After becoming a mom i can not even recount for you what my life was like prior, I don’t know what I did, what did I really care about?, what really meant anything, because you know what when he came along, everything made sense, life made sense for me, I live for my child, I protect my child, teach him, love him and I do NOTHING in my life that would jeopardize my ability to give my all to him and be there for him. I LOVE BEING A MOM 100% of the time and can’t imagine not being a mom, that is part of who I have become, yes I have a career and other “positive” interests but he is more of what makes me who I am than anything. I have NEVER wished my child would “just go away” as you have so frivilously stated. Casey needs to grow up, think more of other people and you know what I believe that you do too. Apparently you should not have become a mother, I feel badly for your children because they will never know a mother who lives to make them the best possible person - you are inadvertently teaching your children that you would much rather be left alone, children pick up on the subtlest differences. you have no idea. As to your last sentence pretty much yea.. if your not up for the job, there are plenty of wonderful people who would be more than happy to take that chance and do a great job for you through adoption. Even a mother who is somewhat selfish would not murder their child to go out partying - even it if was accidental.. .what kind of person are you. Unbelievable that any mother would agree with this sick little 22 year old narcistic monster.

- Heather

Posted 11/11/08 01:29 PM

my daughter and grandaughter were missing for 1/2 hr one 4 july, the sheer panic i felt was overwhelming, i called 911 immediatly i did not conduct my own investigation for 31 min much less 31 days before calling, casey had no responsibilitys except to wach her child for a few hrs a day she obviously didnt work and she couldnt even handle that!!! come on my child is 12 and can handle more responsability than her she babysits all the x no problem the only x casey has shown any emotion in all of this is when she is on her way to jail or not being bonded out, well she is free of her burden now isnt she, she can sit in jail with her poptarts and enjoy being withoutthe stress of her child. and i hope she rots in there!!!!

- anna

Posted 11/11/08 01:35 PM

who is ever 100% happy,being single,married,wit kids,without kids, but to go and kill ur own baby!!! anyone whom has any sympathy,for that monster casey anthony,GOD HELP YOUR KIDS!!!! CAYLEE..WE ALL LOVE YOU ANGEL,JUSTICE WILL BE SERVED..

- minnie

Posted 11/11/08 01:36 PM

the only desperation i have ever seen on caseys face is when she cant get out of jail!!!

- anna

Posted 11/11/08 01:39 PM

After reading everyone’s comments I can’t help but think everyone is dishonest to themselves if they actually feel that every second of ever day they are completely happy being a mom and never have any “man i wish i could just sleep…take a break… whatever” and IF this article made no mention of comparing anything to Casey Anthony then everyone would agree. It doesn’t make a mom bad for wanting a damn break- when of course they couldn’t love their children more! Stop looking into things so much.

- Angela

Posted 11/11/08 01:46 PM

I definitely never wish my kids would just go away. I think that is a strange thing to say. I am a 24 year old mother of twin 18 month old boys and an almost 3 year old boy. I went from being a full time college student, partying and having all the time in the world for myself to being a stay at home mother of 3 wonderful children. Every mom needs a break once in a while that is why we plan our nights out alone or dates with our husbands or girls nights out. Sometimes it’s even nice to go out to the grocery store or even a drive around the block ALONE a couple times listening to music or just to the quiet :) But we don’t google chloroform recipes and research how to get our kids out of our hair. As somebody who has been following this case I wouldn’t dream in a million years of ever comparing myself to this evil disgrace of a mother and of a woman. There are hardworking single mothers everywhere who are devoting their lives to their kids and don’t ever think of their lives as having the potential to be better without them. This is because if you are passionate about being a mother you know without thought that your life would never be better if you didn’t have your children. Easier? yes.. But never better. Being a mom is the most selfless job in the world. And the benefits of being a good one are endless. Keep this in mind next time you think the “poof” thing.

- Anonymous

Posted 11/11/08 01:46 PM

I can’t imagine anyone identifying with Casey Anthony. I could not have children after a miscarriage and a still birth. I was in pain for many years before I met a widower with four children to love and take care of. I now have eight grandchildren. I would never wish any of them away, even for one second. Casey Anthony was fortunate enough to be able to give birth to a precious child and chose to snuff out her child’s life and dispose of her child’s decomposing body like yesterday’s garbage and go on with her life. Casey was drinking, dancing, having sex, stealing money from friends and family and smiling and laughing as her daughter’s body lie decomposing. Even now that her freedom has been taken away, Casey is content to live her life thinking only of herself and not even giving a thought to bringing her child home for a proper burial and bringing closure to her family and those of us who care. I would never identify with Casey Anthony. I identify with George Anthony, a grieving grandparent who knows the truth but is protecting his wife. I can’t imagine the pain I’d feel if I lost any of my stepchildren or grandchildren.

- Sally

Posted 11/11/08 01:48 PM