I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Guest Blogger Frazzled Mama: Sometimes I think accused mom Casey Anthony and I have something in common.

I'll let you in on a secret: When I see those pictures of Casey Anthony out partying the days after her child had gone missing, I empathize with her. That look on her face is that of a woman who -- in a fit of desperation -- may have chosen to sedate her own child for a couple hours of freedom. And then something went terribly wrong.

As a mom trying to balance work, family and sanity, there are times when I want nothing more than to go back to my free and single days with no responsibly to anyone but myself. I truly know how she feels. But unlike what Casey may have done, I would never harm my child to make that dream come true. I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible. But if any of us were to be honest with ourselves, can any mother say they are 100% happy being a mother 100% of the time?

There are days when we moms, especially those with young children, are so worn out, so tired, so frustrated that we wish our kids would just go away. That we could just snap our fingers and Poof! they'd disappear. Usually, for the most part, these feelings pass and we're yanked back into reality by a toddler hug or a smile or just a deep breath -- suddenly everything is worthwhile. Sadly, women like Casey Anthony don't snap back and they do the unthinkable. I know for myself there are times--rarely--when I think if I had it to do all over again maybe having children wasn't the best choice for me.

Of course we're never supposed to even admit anything like that. Mothers are supposed to be selfless creatures living only for their children. Sacrificing everything for family. With that lofty expectation of motherhood, no wonder mothers are prone to depression, self-doubt, huge amounts of crushing guilt and despite it all there are of course moments of incredible joy.

Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?

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Wow! I can NOT relate to Casey Anthony at all or to this blogger! I have never thought for one second that if I could go back I would not have my kids. I have infant twins and a toddler and I stay busy! Sure, who can’t use a break sometimes, but I never long for my single days without kids. I take my breaks when my kids are napping or when my mom graciously offers to keep the kids (not often will she keep all three..LOL!) Casey had help…her parents and had she not been so selfish as to keep the other grandparents in the dark, she may have had more. How can anyone say they can see where she came from? She KILLED her baby girl, rode around with her decomposing body in the trunk and partied it up! I think the post wolud not have been so offensive if she wasn’t basically defending Casey’s actions. And yes, she is in a way

- Anonymous

Posted 11/11/08 01:55 PM

To ANGELA - I GUESS YOU CAN JOIN THE CASEY ANTHONY FAN CLUB! Yes, I AM a mother who is wildly happy, privelidged and proud to be 100% mother to my children, all six of them, including two sets of twins, 100% of the times. Not only am I being honest with myself, but I am being honest with YOU! If I need a break from them I go to the bathroom!! I am far from perfect, but I am perfectly devoted to my children. Perhaps if you think the rest of us are lying about our devotion to our children, then maybe you should go see a shrink because our answers are honest, but unfortunately it sounds like yours are too. Don’t assume any of us are like you or your thoughts. And even if our thoughts differ from yours, they by no means make us liars!

- twinsx2plus2

Posted 11/11/08 02:04 PM

I’m beside myself with this blog. I had my daughter at the age of 17 and had my whole family walk away from me and never in the world do i wish to turn back the hands of time or “snap” my fingers and their gone, i agree please do your self a favor and remove this post. mom to a wonderful 9 yr old

- alb

Posted 11/11/08 02:05 PM

As a woman who has been unable to have children, and suffers sadness and depression from this everyday, I cannot possibly imagine the desire to get rid of your children. But let’s not limit ourselves to the case at hand. Someone who acts on their desire to get rid of a child could act on the desire to get rid of any person. It’s the same mentality, a lack of valuing human life, an arrogant belief that your enjoyment is more important than their right to live. However, a mother who does that to their trusting, innocent, dependent child is perhaps the worst of the worst. I and many other good people who can’t have their own children would have loved to adopt a child like Caylee. Perhaps not being able to have a child make you appreciate more just how fragile life is and how the things that make your life mean something in the end are not partying or shopping but the people you love.

- Elle

Posted 11/11/08 02:10 PM

Yes, we all need a break from time to time, but then that’s when you hire an ACTUAL BABYSITTER, not a phantom “nanny” and do something for yourself. It’s not like she never got the opportunity for time to do her own thing. I mean for pity sake look at all of the pictures of her partying and living it up. She had the love and support of her family as well, who adored her daughter. I have 4 children ages 2 to 19 and I can tell you that the older they get the more difficult the problems become, but through it all I would never wish them away. I might like to “poof” those of you away who have agreed with this poster, but never my kids.

- Connie

Posted 11/11/08 02:21 PM

to mom of one amazing boy—I aggree. I think they need to put Casey in population and let them do with her what they will. They don’t like baby killers in there!

- Tracey

Posted 11/11/08 02:26 PM

Taking a break or vacation from being with the kids is a whole lot different than wishing they were gone. This isn’t semantics, the guest blogger has some serious issues that can only make the rest of us pray for the well being of her children.

- Anon

Posted 11/11/08 02:30 PM

I’m sure you “empathize” with Andrea Yates too!!! Aren’t you just the most open-hearted, good-willed person!!!!

- StinkerBelle

Posted 11/11/08 02:33 PM

Tracey, you go, girl! :) In Casey’s case, i think the correct punishment should be no computers,no cell phone, no texting, no men, no shopping, no contact with any other human being, other than the mean woman jailer who takes her some FISH to eat each night (since she hates fish, I hear) Because the sad thing is the only loss she’ll ever cry or mourn over, would be the loss of the items I mentioned above. She is a shallow, selfish, poor excuse of a human being, that only gets joy from screwing people over, and well, screwing people period!

- Mom of one amazing boy

Posted 11/11/08 02:38 PM

Casey is a stinky-snatched freeloading ho who wanted to rub her putrid labia up and down stripper poles and pork endless men rather than take care of her sweet little girl. You empathize with that????

- StinkerBelle

Posted 11/11/08 02:39 PM

Get a babysitter. Get a job. Volunteer. Go on a date. Have lunch with a friend. Nobody ever said moms are supposed to be selfless creatures. In fact, experts urge mothers to take time for themselves. Being a mom is just part of who you are. You may also be an artist, musician, scientist, scholar. Casey Anthony seems to be suffering from more than just frazzled mom syndrome. Please, this post is ridiculous. A child is missing and most likely dead.

- mizslack

Posted 11/11/08 02:39 PM

CAYLEE, LITTLE ANGEL WHEREVER YOU ARE….KNOW THAT THERE ARE SO MANY MOTHERS OUT THERE THAT WOULD LOVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND SHOW YOU THE LOVE YOU DESERVE. GOD WILL DEFINATLEY SHOW YOU THE RIGHT WAY…WE LOVE YOU

- Tracey

Posted 11/11/08 02:47 PM

I think everyone misinterpeted this article. She did say she condoned Casey actions she was just stating that she can understand Casey’s wanting to be free but murder is not the answer. She did state: But unlike what Casey may have done, I would never harm my child to make that dream come true. I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible. But I guess people just read right through those parts and only read what they want. Give this woman a break I’m sure she is going to turn out like Casey. As a father I feel that way sometimes too but I love my kids and would never hurt them. Things can get overwhelming and sometimes your thoughts and feelings just come out. Some people can’t help the way they feel. Thats the way God made them. If every person in this world to have their child taken away for feeling that way there would be a lot of kids in foster care or DCF facilities.

- Dak

Posted 11/11/08 02:54 PM

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this post. Its honest and I think every mother can read it and say at one time or another they see where your getting at. There is a part of me that has been very sympathetic to Casey and trust me Im no pushover or easy manipulated person. But to be honest until she is convicted on the charges we cannot call her a murderer. I truly believe that whatever took place was NOT INTENTIONAL. Just because this young girl lied on numerous occassions (yes we know she’s a liar) that doesnt mean she set out to kill her daughther. One thing has nothing to do with the other.

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 03:02 PM

Dak, would you mind carefully rereading your post, please?

- D Jones

Posted 11/11/08 03:03 PM

Hi Dak - I read your post and Im sorry your totally confused me???

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 03:06 PM

Dak - I dont get your post at all????

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 03:07 PM

Goodness-gracious, For real, everyone should chill out on this lady, im a mother of 2 and i dont understand why some people think differently than others but they do, and who are we to judge this woman and scream at her about removing the post, when clearly she has her reasons for writing it, i dont think this woman would actually do anything to her children, but maybe just thinks differenlty than all of you. Some people try to see the good in things, and so shouild all of you, i have followed this case from day 1 and even helped search,it has all touched our hearts, im not saying everything she wrote is right, but jeez, she didnt do anything but empathize, it wanst even sympathy, so chill out and stop getting so heated.

- single mom 2 kids

Posted 11/11/08 03:17 PM

You sound like Cindy Anthony….lookir at piece of trash Casey. This girl had it made, and NOTHING would ever have been enough for her. She spitefully killed that child.

- Linda from Jersey

Posted 11/11/08 03:21 PM

I’ve been following this case since day one, and 1) you either wrote without knowing the facts, or 2) you need to speak to a professional to work out some of the hidden issues you unconsciously struggle with. To relate to this woman in any way is the same as saying you can relate to a Susan Smith, or an Andrea Yates. She had more freedom than she knew what to do with along with the responsibility level of a 12 year old. The bottom line is “She knows” ……and she’s got us all at her mercy.

- Natalie Vallone

Posted 11/11/08 03:22 PM