I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Guest Blogger Frazzled Mama: Sometimes I think accused mom Casey Anthony and I have something in common.

I'll let you in on a secret: When I see those pictures of Casey Anthony out partying the days after her child had gone missing, I empathize with her. That look on her face is that of a woman who -- in a fit of desperation -- may have chosen to sedate her own child for a couple hours of freedom. And then something went terribly wrong.

As a mom trying to balance work, family and sanity, there are times when I want nothing more than to go back to my free and single days with no responsibly to anyone but myself. I truly know how she feels. But unlike what Casey may have done, I would never harm my child to make that dream come true. I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible. But if any of us were to be honest with ourselves, can any mother say they are 100% happy being a mother 100% of the time?

There are days when we moms, especially those with young children, are so worn out, so tired, so frustrated that we wish our kids would just go away. That we could just snap our fingers and Poof! they'd disappear. Usually, for the most part, these feelings pass and we're yanked back into reality by a toddler hug or a smile or just a deep breath -- suddenly everything is worthwhile. Sadly, women like Casey Anthony don't snap back and they do the unthinkable. I know for myself there are times--rarely--when I think if I had it to do all over again maybe having children wasn't the best choice for me.

Of course we're never supposed to even admit anything like that. Mothers are supposed to be selfless creatures living only for their children. Sacrificing everything for family. With that lofty expectation of motherhood, no wonder mothers are prone to depression, self-doubt, huge amounts of crushing guilt and despite it all there are of course moments of incredible joy.

Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?

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Single Mom 2 Kids you said it BEST!

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 03:22 PM

You sound like Cindy Anthony….looking for excuses for that piece of trash Casey. This girl had it made, and NOTHING would ever have been enough for her. She spitefully killed that child.

- Linda from Jersey

Posted 11/11/08 03:25 PM

Um. You are WORKING and TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD. Casey was neither working nor taking the primary responsibility for childcare. I don’t understand the comparison.

- Anonymous

Posted 11/11/08 03:31 PM

OH PAHLEASE…if she didnt want her thoughts out there to be “judged”, she shouldnt have said a word. No, we shouldnt have to take it easy on her for saying she can relate to Casey, unless of course, frazzled mom has no job, and no ambitions on getting one, leaches off her parents, steals from them, lies to everyone, and “quiets” her daughter with meds, or worse. TO relate to someone that was a decent, hardworking mom, who just “snapped” and admitted to it, and felt remorse…MAYBE!! But, this blogger chose to relate to someone who is NONE of these things…so, sorry, no sympathy for Frazzled Momma here!

- Mom to one amazing boy

Posted 11/11/08 03:33 PM

That’s one secret that you should have kept to yourself. Casey and Cindy are poor examples of Motherhood. While both continue to lie and cover-up, Casey steals other people’s money to go out and entertain herself. As a father George is no better, as he watches and allows this all to happen just to keep peace. How you can relate to a dysfunctional family is besides me unless of course you are a part of one.

- ftknows

Posted 11/11/08 03:34 PM

I am a mother of a 6 yr old and a 4 yr old and I have never ever wished that either of my would dissappear. There are times I would like a little me time but I have that after they go to bed at night. My children are the most important people in my life and if I ever thought that one of them had been killed or stolen-I would have to be medicated or tied up. So many people cant even have kids and then we have people who wish their kids were gone. My 4 yr old was born at 25 weeks and had nec with a colostomy and it took up so much time and I was soo tired dealing with her and her oxygen and a 2 yr old but I never imagined what life would be without her. I thank God everyday that she is alive and healthy!!!!! If the person who posted the original message is burnt out -hire a babysitter once in awhile. Casey had no excuse her parents were basically raising Caylee and Casey didnt even have a job. Casey Anthony I hope you get locked away forever but I hope you have the guts to tell where your daughter is so she can be given a proper resting place and allow your Father and crazy Mother some closure!!!

- stacy

Posted 11/11/08 03:35 PM

Everyone mother gets stressed. But what was she stressed over? Casey did not have a job or from what I see even looking for one. The only reason she was stressed is because she didn’t have the freedom to go out and party like she wanted to. She had an easy option, let her parents take care of her! Please don’t make excuses for a inconsiderate, selfish person such as her.

- carol

Posted 11/11/08 03:36 PM

Is there anyway we can track down this person that wrote the original post. I fear for her childs life. I am a working mother of two and in college. I look forward to breaks and mini vaca’s, but never do I ever wish that they would just diappear. I would cut off my right arm before I would ever think that I did not want to be a mother. Please get yourself some help, what you are feeling is not the norm of society. But, I am glad that you are outwardly admiting it, a sociopath would never release their feelings. Please see if there is anyone you can talk too. I hate to see this turn bad.

- Kandra

Posted 11/11/08 03:40 PM

Over the years, I have read stories like these and I get the same feelings every time….”sickening” How can a mother put her own child in such danger…inexcusable, unspeakable crime. I am a stupefied!!

- Brenda

Posted 11/11/08 03:57 PM

- Brenda

Posted 11/11/08 03:58 PM

OK RELAXXX everyone! The person that wrote the original post did not say anything that harsh that her motherhood should be attacked. Everyone needs to get a grip..NO ONE is condoning what happened or should I say what they THINK happened. Everyone is quick to point fingers and judge but in reality you NEVER know what you will do until faced with a situation yourself. I think Casey is a selfish, imature, liar but do I think she set out to kill her daughter NO. Thats my opinion and you dont have to agree but you should respect mine and everyone elses.

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 04:00 PM

I think the only ones that can relate to Casey Anthony would have to be like Casey Anthony. Maybe thats what your saying and you should get some proffesional help A.S.A.P. I mean really, not only did Casey kill her child (accident or not) she knew the risks befor using cloraform on her daughter, so she didn’t mean to kill her BIG Deal!!! she did it. But more than that, she won’t even step up as a human being and take responsibility and at least give her own daughter a decent burial, instead she is still only concerned about herself and her feelings. Not anyone elses, not her mother, not her father, and least of all not Caylees. So if you can relate to all of that, I urge you to get some kind of mental help NOW…befor you relate to her at a closer level….

- colleen

Posted 11/11/08 04:03 PM

STRESS? THE ONLY STRESS THAT GIRL HAD WAS WONDERING WHO SHE WAS GOING TO STEAL THE NEXT BUCK FROM. SHE DIDN’T WORK, HER MOM TOOK CARE OF HER CHILD, SHE LIVED AT HOME ETC ETC..

- TONI

Posted 11/11/08 04:08 PM

Ok Nicole, do you understand what a blog is???? Stop defending the blogger, she put her distrubed thoughts out there, so people can insert their opinions. Her thoughts were too crazy, I would never drug a child so I could get some “me” time. And if you would be following the news, you would know the child is dead and her mother is out partying and celebrating the fact with her new boyfriend. Casey Anthony knew what she was doing and deserves to be punished. Her poor daughter never asked to be hurt. And if you really believe Caylee is just missing, ask yourself why a mother would wait 31 days until she was forced to report her missing, then lie over and over again to the police. Maybe she lied because she killed her and does not want to get in trouble. Good mothers do not wait 31 days to say their child has been kidnapped and go partying and acting like a tramp, while their daughter is being hurt. Please, get a clue.

- Crystal

Posted 11/11/08 04:08 PM

Colleen - I understand the points you bring out and again take it easy with the comments about relating to Casey and needing mental health. I never said I justify what she did I said I dont think what she did was her intent. Im disgusted by her in alot of ways and I dont defend her in the least…. but what i said was I DONT THINK she set out to kill her child. That does not mean I condone it.

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 04:10 PM

Nicole, This is what she said, that we are having an issue with, “There are days when we moms, especially those with young children, are so worn out, so tired, so frustrated that we wish our kids would just go away. That we could just snap our fingers and Poof! they’d disappear” I dont know why you think WERE harsh??? I think the opposite, I wish my child would NEVER GO AWAY!!! Yeah, sure, there are times that I wish, “dang it, arent you asleep yet?” when I just want to sit outside with a drink and relax..but, I want to know hes resting SAFELY and on his own, and not by the help of a bottle of benedryl or CHLOROFORM! So, I am attacking her motherhood, and her little “secrets” should be let out, as maybe normal people can question her to make sure all is ok, rather than sweeping it under the rug, and dismissing it as just a a simple frazzled mom, letting go of her emotions on a blog. You’re right—we DONT know what happened for sure, BUT, i DO think she set out to hurt her daughter or else she wouldnt have been looking up “missing child” websites…sorry, but I cant give her an inch of my sympathy, and while yes, this orginial blogger didnt kill her child, she fully states there are times she wish they would “disappear”…sounds like one day, we could (hopefully not) have yet another mom who claims she just had it, and snapped! So, people taking an interest/concern in her blog is FULLY warranted.

- mother of one amazing boy

Posted 11/11/08 04:14 PM

hmm, totally get what you’re saying but your title is really misleading. First of all, you don’t know why she killed Caylee so how can you relate? She may have doen it for any number of reasons. Second, she didn’t have any look on her face while she was partying so what do you mean? She didn’t look desperate or relieved or…anything. This post sounds like you wanted to vent about being a frustrated mom, totaly understandable, but it has nothing to do with Casey Anthony.

- Laura

Posted 11/11/08 04:14 PM

Crystal - I am well aware as to what a blog is and Im not defending the blogger I was defending my opinion that I seem to be getting told I need mental help for…is that what a blog is for??? Casey is disgusting ABSOLUTELY and she should be punished for her actions I totally agree what I was stating was that I dont think that when what happened first took place her intentions were to kill her daughter I think all of the after affects are from her attempting to cover it up. NO WAY do I feel she is to be defended I just think at this point she feels she has a better chance by keeping her mouth shut.

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 04:15 PM

Mother of one amazing boy - I totally get what you mean, The Poof they disappear statement yes.. a bit much. Good point..I see where your coming from absolutely. She definately seems more frustrated and in need a some alone time as opposed to being compared to Casey so maybe that wasnt the right comparison on her part. I have a toddler myself and yes we all have the moments where we need a break but at the same time we dont wish to rid of our children.

- Nicole

Posted 11/11/08 04:22 PM

I can’t believe someone had the guts to post this blog. I am a 24 year old, working mother of 2, 1 just turned 2 and the other is 9 months. It is EXTREMELY stressful most of the time, but not 1 day goes by that I ever think i need time away or that I want them to go away. Yes i do get the occasional night out, which helps alot, but since hearing about this case I have wondered how in the world someone could look at their own child and even consider harming them. It makes no sense to me. I just can’t imagine having a child and not wanting to take care of it and watch it grow to be an amazing adult.

- Mom of 2

Posted 11/11/08 04:28 PM