I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

I Can Relate to Casey Anthony

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Guest Blogger Frazzled Mama: Sometimes I think accused mom Casey Anthony and I have something in common.

I'll let you in on a secret: When I see those pictures of Casey Anthony out partying the days after her child had gone missing, I empathize with her. That look on her face is that of a woman who -- in a fit of desperation -- may have chosen to sedate her own child for a couple hours of freedom. And then something went terribly wrong.

As a mom trying to balance work, family and sanity, there are times when I want nothing more than to go back to my free and single days with no responsibly to anyone but myself. I truly know how she feels. But unlike what Casey may have done, I would never harm my child to make that dream come true. I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible. But if any of us were to be honest with ourselves, can any mother say they are 100% happy being a mother 100% of the time?

There are days when we moms, especially those with young children, are so worn out, so tired, so frustrated that we wish our kids would just go away. That we could just snap our fingers and Poof! they'd disappear. Usually, for the most part, these feelings pass and we're yanked back into reality by a toddler hug or a smile or just a deep breath -- suddenly everything is worthwhile. Sadly, women like Casey Anthony don't snap back and they do the unthinkable. I know for myself there are times--rarely--when I think if I had it to do all over again maybe having children wasn't the best choice for me.

Of course we're never supposed to even admit anything like that. Mothers are supposed to be selfless creatures living only for their children. Sacrificing everything for family. With that lofty expectation of motherhood, no wonder mothers are prone to depression, self-doubt, huge amounts of crushing guilt and despite it all there are of course moments of incredible joy.

Are you ALWAYS glad to be a mother?

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I think this is a very honest and real post. Very good. People are unnerved by it because it is just a little too real. My husband once said, “Once you have kids, you can sort of understand why crazy people kill them.” It’s not always fun. Infact most of the time it’s a thankless, stressful, depressing situation. Especially when you are talking about toddlers. We have a three year old boy who just cries insessantly! It is unbelieveably hard on the nerves. Luckily my husband and I are not insane and can handle it. We know it will pass and just take it one day at a time. Something tells me Casey is not the type of person who can do that. Unfortunately Caylee paid the price in having a mother who just could not handle it, and instead of handing the responsibility off to her mother and being judged for it (her mother seems like the type who holds everything against her kids when they aren’t perfect) she choose murder. It’s very sad.

- Jess

Posted 11/11/08 07:32 PM

I think the look on her face says, “sociopath” and “murderer”

- Karen

Posted 11/11/08 08:21 PM

well ill tell you, i never regretted having my daughter, NOT for a second, Maybe you are dealing,but were not ready either. You sure made it sound that way.Dont lower yourself by comapring yourself to a murderer, and that just what she is,she is a sick person,she had no bussiness sedating her daughter for ANY reason, she is a cold hearted , sick girl

- sue

Posted 11/11/08 09:05 PM

I am a Single parent and have wonderful Friends & Family that allow me to have moments of freedom to do things for myself and my BEAUTIFUL Child (Amelia). I am sure this blog was posted only to get Happy Mothers like myself in a tizz, but you know what until you can explain yourself better in another blog I will only guess you are as sick as Casey Anthony and may need to seek professional help as Casey should have if you have thoughts like this. I am not mad at you but sad for you. Sounds like you should have used birth control to prevent yourself from having child or children. We all have weak moments as humans with or with out children, but I would say that I would never wish my life any different when it comes to Amelia she is my greatest accomplishment in life. Good Luck. LuLu

- LuLu

Posted 11/11/08 09:13 PM

I was a teenage mother and have been a mother for the past 11 years. I have 2 beautiful children, my 11 year old son and my 3 year old daughter. I can honestly say I cannot imagine ever wishing for my children to “poof—disappear.” A moment of quiet, yes, but never for my life to be different. I spent my 21st birthday celebrating with my 2 year old. I traded nights out with the girls for nights in with my little guy. There has never been one day in all of those years that I have ever wished that I could undo it for the life I had. Motherhood is a gift.

- Monica

Posted 11/11/08 09:28 PM

If you wish *poof* your children will disappear, why don’t you give (adopt them to) them to a family that is desperately wanting children and would savor all the stressful moments and would willingly give up everything, even me time, for them?

- Anonymous

Posted 11/11/08 09:40 PM

why does everyone cast blame on everyone else..casey is the one who did this, not her upbring. she grew up completely normal, a little spoiled but nor more spoiled than any other kid these day..casey is an adult! responsible for her actions, no one else..her parents loved caylee and would have taken he full time!! i am so sick of everyone blaming parents for kids screw ups…especially when the kid is an adult..grow up people and take responsilility…cowards

- elizabeth

Posted 11/11/08 10:16 PM

Jesus, you made those children…live with it and take responsability or give them up. Some people pay to be pregnant and get one chance to be a mother. Yes, not always easy but life is a challenge…thats all it is. I think Casey had bad parents, look at them today…they act like nothing is wrong and Caylee is alive when that freaking babysitter doesnt exist, hello!!!!! These parents where not even concerned after not havent seen that child after even a week? Hello, she was living there fulltime. Proof that Casey was on her own all along. I would love to think Caylee is alive for a moment, I cant stop thinking and crying about this…she looks almost exactly like my daughter…I cant imagine. I think the grandparents are just playing the game to avoid the death penalty for Casey…all it is.

- Nadine

Posted 11/11/08 10:20 PM

no one forces these tramp trailer trash girls to get pregnant as teenagers…there is enough education now..so i don’t feel sorry for anyone who has to sacrifice anything to have children..u have a choice…don’t get pregnant. And if u do, people r supposed to feel sorry for you??? women today are so weak!! How do they get through everyday life with out their meds!!!! Turn off the soap opera’s ladies, bring up ur children!! STOP MAKING EXCUSES!!!!

- Anonymous

Posted 11/11/08 10:22 PM

Well I got pregnant at the age of 16…finished high school and went to college without having family support of any kind. I was a single parent and gave up a lot for my son…he is now almost 13 and there has never been a moment when I “want nothing more than to go back to my free and single days with no responsibly to anyone but myself.” I don’t consider myself a supermom by any means but when I feel like I need a break….that is all that it is…. a break to relax but still know my responsiblities after my break is over. And for the comment “can any mother say they are 100% happy being a mother 100% of the time”…I can honestly say yes…I could have had an abortion or gave my son up for adoption since I was so young…but I didn’t….because I am proud to be the person I am now becuase of my son!

- Denise

Posted 11/11/08 10:46 PM

I am appalled at your insensitivity.Your attempt at trying to empathize with Casey is twisted.I am a single father of 4. A 20 yr old,7 yr old, 5 yr old and my little man is 3 years old. I feel your angst and we all have hard days. I have never sedated my children with cough medicine or any other drug. I do not go out to clubs or hang out at parties even if I got a break in the form of my mother watching my children. Why? Because I turned the page on that time in my life. My kids come first,2nd,3rd and so on… I come last, my feelings are real and I also have days that are harder than anyone could ever imagine. However, I know that the reward is coming and is worth the wait. My children are very well adjusted and have never been anything less than perfect. I get my reward by living my life along side of my children and taking pleasure from the daily challenges that I face. I had to adjust my priorities and form new ways to find happiness. It is a way of life, it is not for everyone and I totally understand that. However hard raising a child or children can be it is still not right to use them as an excuse to claim that life is hard or that you missed out on your freedom because of them. How any human being could harm a child much less their own flesh and blood is sick and twisted.so tonight count your blessings not your burdens and stop trying to justify your horrible thoughts and start being a decent person and a good parent.

- Nuff Said

Posted 11/11/08 11:09 PM

JEEZ…..This is still the U.S. and everyone is entitled to their opinion. If you cant read an opinion without demanding it be taken down if its not to your liking then you probably are taking things way too literaly. This is a mom who has a different outlook on things, shes not telling anyone they have to feel the same way or even asking you to agree. its an opinion- thats what blogs are for-chill out people. Just because people dont always say what what they think out loud, doesnt mean they dont think it. There a reason God didnt make us mindreaders.

- sisssy

Posted 11/11/08 11:49 PM

How can you relate to this monster . I am 21 and have a 2 year old daughter. If she was not ready to be a mother she should have not had that baby. Your children come before anyone and your children look up to their mother for protection regardless of how challeging the role can be. You should never sympathize with a killer. She is an evil person .What could that baby possibly have done to deserve this ? NOTHING . The mother did not want any resposibility and she decided to get rid of the “problem.” Even animals look after their own. She cant even be compared to one.

- BEEELI

Posted 11/11/08 11:50 PM

im wondering if frazzeled mom really isnt cindy anthony. just an observation. we love u caylee

- gina

Posted 11/12/08 12:09 AM

Dear Frazzled Mom, Yes, your life is totally changed once you have a child. But you don’t steal friend’s check books, or monies from gandma, brother , and even great grandparents money. (Cindy was in charge of handling her parents finances now that the old family was in assisted living. Casey, has made some bad choices, and that little baby deserves a respectable final resting place.

- Karen G

Posted 11/12/08 12:23 AM

Casey never wanted to have a baby when she found out she was pregnant. She wanted to abort it or give it up for adoption. It was her mother who told her to have the baby, that abortion/adoption wasn’t even an option. Cindy would help Casey raise the baby.

- dan

Posted 11/12/08 01:01 AM

I fear for your children. You should have kept your legs closed. How pathetic and selfish.

- Anonymous

Posted 11/12/08 02:03 AM

Wow, should of been an aunt instead of a mother! Ya there are times of frustration but, that’s why we have time outs, babysitters and with the grace of god family! I am a single mother of two amazing children. I love being a mother 24/7. My life is centered around them. I life to see them smile!!!!

- Anonymous

Posted 11/12/08 07:02 AM

The difference in you and this person..Casey Anthony..she had help..lots of help..her mother..in fact, Cindy was more of the “mother” to the little girl then Casey was…remember this woman didn’t have a job..I think she was jealous of Cindy giving to Caylee..so with Caylee gone..Casey can be the precious little girl for Cindy again !

- cathieb

Posted 11/12/08 08:00 AM

This post is as sick as Casey Anthony. Working Single Mother…she didn’t work…it was all lies. She lived at home with her parents, she had no responsibility. Her parents babysat, feed her, did her laundry, cooked, cleaned, cut the grass, did the shopping…they did everything…she did nothing…nothing, except what she wanted to do. What she wanted to do is lie, cheat, steal and murder her daughter. You are a sicko lady!!!!

- jane

Posted 11/12/08 08:23 AM