Guest blogger Homeschooling Mom, says: Teaching my son to respect girls would be easier if the girls had any for themselves.
My 13-year-old son has barely glanced at girls. Yet, while we were driving the other day he said, "Everybody thinks Wendy is hot." "Hot," from my son's mouth sounded quite rude to me. I had never really thought about it until he uttered it, calling a girl "hot" is reducing her to a primarily sexual being. I didn't want my son to view girls as mere play things, here to ogle and make lascivious comments about.
So, I told him. I went into a long mom lecture. "It is one thing to admire beauty and be attracted to a girl, but show them respect. Would you want someone discussing your little sisters like that when they are older? How about saying something like that about me, your own mom? All females are daughters or sisters or mothers..." And my lecture went on.
He took it to heart because he is an earnest young man and said he would do his best to treat women as people of equal worth and respect as men. I dropped him off at swim team feeling like I had done something good for society and my son, and went about my business until it was time to pick him up.
When he got back into the car he preceded to tell me how the older girls in the lane next to him were asking if any of the boys had made out with a girl before. They also wanted to know which girls the boys thought were hot.
AHHHHHH! So much for upholding standards to protect the dignity of women -- it appears a lot of young women don't have any anyway.