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Will My Son Be OK If He's an Only Child?

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Guest blogger mom-on-the-edge: My clock was ticking. I heard it ticking. Seemed like the world heard it too. Freezing eggs, sperm donors, in vitro fertilization... These weren't everyday topics of conversation ten years ago, but now you turn on the TV and there are the ladies of "The View" with a super-sized vagina and a guest doctor.

woman and clock

I heard that ticking. I felt the panic. I dreaded each passing birthday. But the alarm never sounded. No drastic measures needed. I got married and I had a baby. The ticking stopped.

And, it was all better than I expected. Getting engaged felt great. The wedding was beautiful and I enjoyed my pregnancy more than I ever imagined. No morning sickness. Buying jeans became easy -- didn't think that was possible. I even miss my pull-on pants! And everyone at work embraced me and my growing belly, even though I nervously started the job at the beginning of my second trimester.

It was a wonderful experience. I did it. I was a wife AND a mother!

Tuesday, a friend whose son was born a day after mine, announced that she was pregnant again. Then, yesterday, an old co-worker with a four-month-old revealed that she and her husband are trying for a second.

tick. Tick. TICK. TICK!

I've been on the verge of divorce for the past six months. Having another child is not in my near future. And, I'm 40 so it may never happen.

I know I'm blessed to have my beautiful child, but I can't help but feel a little sad for him. Who's he going to complain to about his kooky parents? No one will understand his mom's strange love of pasta with ketchup and butter or his dad's funny habit of answering the phone like Lenny from Laverne & Shirley -- HellllOH! -- except a sibling. Those are things you laugh about with your brother or sister.

Is my son going to be okay if he's an only child? And, how long will I hear the ticking this time?

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Lesli October 28, 2010, 8:22 PM

My 6 yr old daughter is an only child. She is vibrant, awesome, smart, funny, not spoiled at all, shares with others. I have spent a lot of time socializing her and going out of my way to make sure she is with other kids playing. She is a wonderful happy kid. My plan is to socialize her and go out of my way to connect her with her cousins too.

Ally March 25, 2011, 11:39 AM

I have a 3 year old daughter. I am 40 years old and have decided not to have anymore. We have tried for the last 2.5 years to have another one and ended up miscarrying a child that had downs syndrome last Spring. I worry everyday about my daughter being an only child because of people like Anne. The one thing I do know is that consistently all the only children I know have very close relationships with their parents so that is what snaps me back to reality and makes me realize that I am very lucky to have one happy healthy child. Anne….my advice to you….think before you comment, what you say might really hurt someone else’s feelings. If that is what you are going for than you have succeeded.

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