Guest blogger Jana Mathews: Think it's hard finding a gift for that person who has everything? Try coming up with something to give the person who gave you everything.
In my case, that person is my daughter's birth mother. It's been almost six years since that amazing young woman placed her beautiful newborn daughter into my arms, and my feelings of love and gratitude for this young woman and her family only grow deeper as time goes on.
It is because my feelings are so strong for my daughter's birth mother that I simultaneously look forward to and dread the holiday season. I love Christmas because it is the only time of year when I am allowed to send a gift to my daughter's birth mother (our adoption is closed). I dread the month of December because each time that it rolls around, I ask myself the same question: What do I get the person who gave me the greatest gift of all? A fruit basket? Diamond earrings? Strangely, the more costly the gift, the more inappropriate and "wrong" it feels to give.
This year, like years past, shopping for my daughter's birth mother has humbled me into remembering the true spirit of the holidays. What my daughter's birth mother wants most does not cost any money, yet has more value than anything that I could buy at the store.
This Christmas, I'm sending my daughter's birth mother a thick stack of recent photographs and a letter telling her how much I love her baby ... and how much I respect and admire her.