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Chick Flicks Are Bad for Your Bond

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Read this before your next movie night.

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You may think snuggling up with the latest Cameron Diaz flick is the best way to spend a romantic evening, but not so fast -- new research says mushy movies are bad for your relationship.

How could "My Best Friend's Wedding" impact your bond? Well, according to relationship experts at Heriot Watt University in Edinburgh, romantic comedies give people unrealistic ideas about love and sex, and cause them to communicate poorly.

"Marriage counselors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it," says the university's Dr. Bjarne Holmes. "We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media plays a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds. The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realize."

So if you're secretly hoping your guy will declare his everlasting love a la John Cusak, take a mental "Cut!" and realize your bond is already perfect, warts and all.

Tell us -- do you subconsciously expect your marriage to mimic the movies?

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4 comments so far | Post a comment now
ashley December 22, 2008, 9:50 AM

My marriage is more like the relationship Jen and what’s his name had in the beginning of The Breakup!!

Rissa December 31, 2008, 2:44 PM

Ditto Ashley! I think more movies should portray couples so realistically.

Erin January 3, 2009, 10:07 PM

If chick flicks are bad for your relationship then so is porn. I’m cool with shutting off the chick flicks if guys could shut the porn off once in awhile and stop being such slaves to it and having expectations about wanting to try something “new” they saw 1000 times in some creepy porno movie. My man isn’t standing on the Empire State Building declaring his love for me on the wings of doves and I don’t have expectations that he should. Too many men have unrealistic expectations about sex though from porn.

Amelinda  January 5, 2009, 12:05 AM

i got a major light bulb over my head when my friend told me about this and totally was like wow i live my life like i want to live in a movie i write guys off as soon as i see them do something that i would not want my true love to do. wow what do i do now?!

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