Momlogic's Fiona: Today I stayed home, with my nose glued to the window, waiting for a check that was 28 years late!
You see, my mom and dad got divorced when I was five -- I stayed with my mom and my dad agreed to pay a certain amount of money each week that would pay for dance classes, school clothes, riding lessons or whatever I needed. Well, that didn't happen. Thank God my mom had a career and was able to give me all that on her own!
28 years went by before I would ever talk to my dad again. He moved to another state, got remarried and never had any more children (probably the best decision he ever made -- he's obviously not very paternal).
When I was 27, I was told that my dad was coming in town for the family charity event and I would have to see him. GULP -- I mean, I had already lived 27 years without his support -- he missed my dance recitals, my horse shows, my emergency appendectomy, my high school, undergrad and grad school graduations ... even my wedding!
So you can imagine that the thought of having to look into his eyes and say "Hi Dad" was a little awkward. He's lucky I'm forgiving and accepting. Seeing him again was fun -- and we still talk a few times a year and see each other every once in a while. He's still not paternal and forgets my birthday, which just so happens to be the day before his, but I guess no one's perfect!
In his old age he must really be feeling guilty, because about a month ago my mom got a phone call from the courts -- ALL the back child support had arrived! My mom laughed and had the check sent straight to me! Now, I get to pay off credit card debt, put it towards a down payment on a house and maybe even take a vacation! Should I call my dad to thank him? I thanked my MOM!What do you think of Fiona's story? Comment in the momlogic community.