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Dear Mad Mommy Blogger -- Get Over It!

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Guest blogger Naila: I hate cheaters. Male, female, rich, poor ... cheating to me is a cowardly act. But lately, following the latest celebrity scandal, I am finding myself more disgusted with the crazy and uptight blogger moms. RELAX!!!!

Reading through replies and columns, I can't help but wonder if part of the rage is underlying guilt of their own. How often do you and the hubby have sex Mrs. Mad Blogger? Outside of your bedroom? Did you bury your sultry look with your wedding album? Maybe all of those split ends, butterfly clips, fanny packs and burp cloths leave hubby a lil' less enthusiastic about you and more interested in the girl ... any girl.

angry woman on computer

Now if he cheats? IT'S STILL HIS FAULT. But the term accessory comes to mind. Phrases like "basically a whore" recall Puritans of old. For God's sake, when did everyone get so uptight? Here are some facts ... that apparently have gone unnoticed by the verbal tar and feather machine commonly known as mom bloggers.

1. Men love sex: bad sex, good sex, anytime anywhere...if you think your husband is the exception, go to rule number two.

2. If you withhold sex from your man, he will eventually get it somewhere else. Period. There are no exceptions to this rule.

3. Just because men like X-rated videos, rough sex or anything else doesn't mean they are not family men or want you to walk on Sunset soliciting in-between diaper changes. It means channel your inner vamp and explore something other than the playground with your kids!

4. Men can love you and still cheat -- men are visual. Even if your man lost sight of his waistline a decade ago, he still wants to see your waistline doing the rumpshaker, in that nurse's outfit or in your birthday suit ... with the lights on!

5. Look your best! Throw out the grandma undies, lose the college hairstyle and the Stride Rite shoes! Growing up doesn't equal growing frumpy!

6. Cheating shouldn't cost you your livelihood, unless you are a priest or a nun..

I don't turn on "Kitchen Nightmares" because Gordon Ramsay is a great husband. Zip it and let the man go back to screaming at wannabe chefs.

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18 comments so far | Post a comment now
megan December 2, 2008, 7:19 PM

she’s right. if you don’t satisfy your husband he’s going to get it somewhere else.

kitrona December 2, 2008, 8:52 PM

Ok, I read the first part and was about to go ballistic, but you addressed my concern so I didn’t have to risk making a fool of myself. :) Good points. Guys want sex. Obviously if they married you, they PREFER to have it with you, but if they can’t, it’ll be porn or another girl. (This isn’t to say that they don’t or can’t look at porn even if they’re perfectly satisfied with you. My husband does; it’s an easy way to be somewhat satisfied without worrying if /I’M/ satisfied. Sometimes he’s just not up for the energetic romp, y’know?)

But I do agree that it seems some women let themselves go after a certain amount of time, which can vary with each couple. And the latent Puritanism still present in society today is not helping ANYONE.

That said, I encourage anyone reading this to talk to their partner about things they like that you two haven’t explored together. It could be that you both would like to try the same thing, or that something one of you wants to try turns out to be really great for you both!

Men cheating just doesn’t seem as serious to them, I think. Women cheat (from my experience) because they’re not getting emotional needs fulfilled. Men cheat because they’re not getting sex, which is a legitimate need but I think for some guys it’s the same as an emotional need to women.

I dunno, I think I’m just rambling, but I encourage people to experiment a little, push your boundaries, and most of all COMMUNICATE with your partner about the things that matter. It’s hard, sometimes VERY hard, but if you work together you’ll end up with an even stronger relationship in most cases. :)

thordora December 2, 2008, 10:22 PM

Wow. There’s nothing like woman bashing by women to really warm the cockles of my heart.

End of the day-you’ve committed to someone. If you can’t TALK to that person instead of screwing someone else, the blame IS all yours.

It’s not about being uptight in my eyes-it’s about respect and valuing your partner beyond sex, and enough to TALK through issues.

Perhaps the venom is better directed at the individuals who can’t keep it in their pants and need excuses/reasons why they “must” cheat.

Removing from my twitter feed now. THis is the third time today I’ve felt like I was reading playground discussions.

Anonymous December 3, 2008, 12:11 AM

Well said Thordora!

Natalie December 3, 2008, 5:59 AM

Thank you! I’ve been reading and replying to a bunch of the uptight moms blog on Gordon Ramsay, and it’s just rediculous how upset they get about things that have nothing to do with them!!! These moms really REALLY neet to chillax. Goodness.

Connie December 3, 2008, 8:44 AM

Numbers 4 and 5 are absolutely the worst attitude that any wife can take. That’s like saying all men are so shallow they can’t appreciate their wives beyond their looks.

Number 2, well… stereotyping males in that manner means you don’t really understand them. Understandable how that led to numbers 4 and 5.

Jordan December 3, 2008, 10:32 AM

If you don’t think how you look matters to your husband, you are plain stupid.
Guess the truth hurts. and Connie,
you are clueless…ask a man with a heartbeat about #2…
I don’t agree with everything the lady said, but I get the point.

just sayin' December 3, 2008, 12:00 PM

Wow, this is so lame. I thought the point of putting up articles (like the one that the bloggers got so “uptight” about) was to get a strong response. And then since Momlogic can’t find anything else to get shock value or strong responses, they put up an article that is negative about some of the bloggers themselves. Sure enough, this to will get a large response. And is it just me, or is everyone here getting tired about the same subjects they post? ( You have to do ((you fill in the blank)) to please your man, if you don’t he might cheat on you). Please, every woman knows this because you have put up so many articles about this. ( MILF mommy) BTW, I think her stuff is funny, but that and other related articles get so old! Mommy wars, women bashing other women and cheating men, can momlogic find something new? Maybe as a christmas present to us? lol, my 2 cents.

Jessica December 3, 2008, 1:04 PM

Ah yes, but women — they NEVER cheat. Never heard of a single one that would. This list applies both ways in many aspects.

The whole celebrity fascination I don’t get. I think Ben Affleck is eye candy, but I certainly don’t care what he’s up to.

Nikki December 3, 2008, 1:57 PM

So, who is it that needs to chill out again? What exactly are you so angry about? When I read this I pictured a sad, lonely woman who is still clinging to the hope that her lover really is going to leave his wife. In your mind a husband is turned off by a burp cloth? Seriously? Do you even know what marriage is?

Isn’t this website called Mom Logic? So why let someone with the mentality of a 12 year old be a guest blogger? I mean, come on - Rumpshaker?

CharmingBitch December 5, 2008, 10:59 AM

It’s so refreshing to find a site for moms, by moms, dedicated to keeping women, mothers in particular, in our place and reminding us gently that no matter the progress we THINK has been made at the end of the day we are just and only receptacles. I mean, what a service you provide in keeping women petrified that if they wear the wrong shoes, get the wrong haircut or don’t perfect their blow-job technique, there are women, like you, just lined up to replace us.

Ah, I do love the smell of self-loathing misogyny in the morning.

The Aitch December 5, 2008, 12:15 PM

This is a pretty disgusting article. How you can lump all men into misogynistic cheating perverts whose only turn ons are visual? Leads me to believe your relationship (if you have one) is in sad need of a conversation.

I’ve been in the same relationship for 18 years, married for 9 of them, and I have two kids. Sure we don’t always look our best and most days we’re frumped out, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have frequent passionate sex. At the end of the day it’s our communication, laughs and love for each other that gets us hot. Not whether or not I’m wearing sweatpants or a cheerleading outfit.

This will be my first and LAST visit to this piece of shite website. By the way, it loads way too slow and all the blinky ads are obnoxious.

lalasha December 9, 2008, 4:44 PM

impulse control something men lack which is why they are like the big child that is never moving out I’m a hot sahm with a husband that deploys plenty of men hit on me and most are really good looking yet I don’t take them up on it I have impulse control so I feel that men should get over it be adults look at things from their wives point of veiw and not be such babies about no sex for a week there is more to life than sex and it doesn’t make you happy either it just masks your unhappyness for a short time
oh and my husband like my granny panies too

Joyce March 28, 2009, 12:09 PM

I agree with thordora.

Joyce March 28, 2009, 12:11 PM

CharmingBitch your my hero!

Joyce March 28, 2009, 12:19 PM

The only thing i learned form this article is that MEN are pathetic, shallow, mindless, sex-crazed freaks. {to put it midly}

Fashion Design October 12, 2010, 3:26 PM

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Merchant December 23, 2010, 3:33 PM

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