Just because I had a baby "late in life" doesn't mean it's any of your business.
Momlogic's Andrea: There's one thing I never lie about -- my age. I'm 43 and gave birth to my first and what will be my only child at 40. Why I decided to have a baby so late, I believe is a private matter.
But apparently my new dentist doesn't agree.
For some reason, she decided to get to know me while she had her hands in my mouth. Whatever. I guess when you scrape plaque off of people's teeth for a living, you have to pass the time somehow. Here's our brief conversation:
Dentist: How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
Me: I'm 43.
Dentist: Do you have kids?
Me: One daughter, she's almost 3.
Dentist: Ooooh, so was she unplanned?!
OK, hold the phone there sister. What are you saying to me? How dare you discuss my family planning -- or lack of planning -- techniques? The only thing you're supposed to asking me is if I need to spit.
What is it with people with their personal questions?! Would it ever be OK to ask someone who had kids young, "Oh, how sweet. Were you an unwed mommy?
She wasn't done with me.
Dentist: So where is she? With her nanny?
Me: Um, no, she's in preschool, I said, trying unsuccessfully to grit my teeth.
Dentist: Really? Isn't she a bit too young to be in pre-school?
At this point I felt like picking up her drill and using it on her head. But being a civilized woman of a "certain age," I refrained.
Look, I know dentists have a bad rep for being evil, but I thought it was because they inflict physical not mental pain. Shouldn't she have minded her own business?