One mom is less than thrilled about her hubby's new haircut. Here's why.
Momlogic's Molly: Before you say anything ... yes. I know I am a bitch. I know this is petty, inconsequential and superficial. I married him for who he is, not how he looks. Having said that, I am f&^%ing mad he shaved his f%$#ing head.
Here's a little background: When I first met my husband, his idea of a "haircut" was a #4 clipper and a beer. He was proud of his shaved head. One thing, though: It looked awful. He looks like Gomer Pyle reporting for his first day of PT.
As we were dating, I slowly got him to grow his hair out. With longer hair he looks terrific -- attractive, manly and sexy. Lately, for the past six months, he's been grumbling about his hair. He feels uncomfortable going to a "salon" and keeps muttering "I'm just gonna shave it." It's almost like he thinks that getting a proper haircut is waaay too metrosexual. I think it makes him an adult. (And for the record, he has a glorious head of hair and is not balding. So the shaving is not a necessity.)
At first, I ignored his shaving rumblings, but he kept bringing it up. I finally told him how I felt, and I asked -- well, BEGGED -- please don't shave your head. It wasn't a joke for me anymore ... it was a big deal. I was honest and clear with my feelings and I expressed that to him. I don't know why I feel like his hair is a reflection on me, but I do. I take a lot of care and pride in my appearance. When I recently chopped my long locks into a Posh-style bob, I specifically called my man from the salon to ask him. If he had said no, I would not have done it. He said go for it -- and I did. He, like me, loves my new 'do. I make sure I look good when I leave the house because I like to good for me -- and for him.
Cut to yesterday. He told me he was going to get a haircut. I didn't think anything of it as I had CLEARLY expressed my opinion to him repeatedly. I got home from a long day at work last night, walked through the door and saw him -- in all his shaved glory. I was so mad I didn't speak to him and went directly to bed. This morning as I was leaving, he asked if I was mad. I couldn't even respond. MAD?!? OF COURSE I AM MAD. YOU LOOK STUPID. Ugh. I feel like he's holding on to his college "I don't care what my appearance says about me" attitude. He has a professional job, he's a grown-up. With an 8-year-old crew cut. But saying so makes me look like the bad guy, and I hate that.
Am I overreacting? What do you think?