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I Refuse to Let My Kid Believe in Santa

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Guest Blogger Grinchmommy: Do you let your children believe in Santa Claus? If so, SHAME ON YOU!

girl telling a secret about santa

One of parents' primary responsibilities is to teach their children to be honest and truthful individuals, something that is a little hard to enforce when you insist on the existence of a mythical creature with pet reindeer.

Allowing your kids believe in someone that doesn't exist not only sets them up for disappointment when they learn the truth, but it also sets you up to look like an untrustworthy liar. What sane, rational parent wants that? Not me! That's why I unveiled Santa's identity to my then two year-old daughter the first time she cast a curious eye toward the throned snow beast sitting inside the candy cane cottage at the local mall.

Now, at age six, my daughter is the only child in her kindergarten class who knows the truth about Santa. This didn't pose any problems ... until my daughter started enlightening her classmates. When reports trickled home that some of my daughter's classmates had taken the revelation particularly hard -- they cried -- I'm not ashamed to say that I didn't feel an ounce of guilt or regret. It's not my fault that some parents foster preposterous fantasies and it is definitely not my responsibility to protect them.

Another reason why Santa's identity should be unveiled once and for all has nothing to do with the poor rich kids whose dreams of flying reindeer and friendly elves are prematurely quashed, and everything to do with all of the unfortunate children in the world whom Santa routinely "forgets." It is simply cruel to coddle belief in a figure who purports to know every child by name, yet is discriminate in his gift-giving, showering some children's homes while skipping over others. While no one likes to be the source of his/her child's disappointment, it is far better in this case for the parent to take the blame for the absence of gifts on Christmas morning than St. Nick. As humans, we are subject to weaknesses, inadequacies, and failings that our child will eventually understand and overcome. Such understanding and acceptance may not be as easily earned from a figure who falls short of his promise to deliver a special gift to EVERY good girl and boy.

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Santa December 21, 2009, 1:20 PM

Hope this Christmas you are not disappointed with Coal.

Pamala December 21, 2009, 4:21 PM

I’m a little late to the game but haven’t you thought that Santa, the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, etc.. are all ways to teach a child to use their imagination and how great imaginative play is?

a dad December 22, 2009, 7:38 AM

What about Jesus and his miracles, and his father, creator of the universe? Are you honest about this as well? This falsehood along with the Allah one is actually dangerous. Santa is cute and kind and fosters desired behaviors whereas the other imaginary people are hypocritical, wrathful, bigoted, narcissistic, and the root of most modern evil. Santa? He is not a religious figure, despite the repeated attempts at Christianization. That’s why he is so widely accepted.

Camilee December 22, 2009, 2:17 PM

Personally I knew there was no Santa as soon as I learned to read and realized Santa and my Aunt had the same handwriting. My cousin further proved the point by talking to one of her friends about being Santa all night and wrapping presents. It didn’t bother me though. I just pretended I still believed because I knew that the grown ups loved having someone around who believed in Santa and I loved getting the extra gifts from Santa that no one else seemed to get. Plus I liked being able to tell the story of Santa to my little brother and seeing him believe it.

Are you Serious? July 5, 2010, 10:43 AM

Okay, well this whole article is nonsense. If your reasoning for not instilling the Santa belief in your children, is that you want to teach your child to be honest and truthful individuals, and not to believe in someone that doesn’t exist, then you can’t teach them about God either. Because a child doesn’t believe in the concept of faith. To them, God is just like Santa, someone who doesn’t exist. AND this is coming from a person who doesn’t believe in God. So what do you think of that?

Adam July 6, 2010, 10:11 AM

Most of you aren’t meant to be parents if you’re willing to lie to your children.

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Some time before, I did need to buy a good house for my business but I did not have enough cash and could not purchase anything. Thank heaven my father suggested to try to take the loan at reliable bank. So, I did that and used to be satisfied with my small business loan.

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100% Truth November 26, 2010, 11:31 AM

One neighbor suggested she would enlighten the neighborhood children about Santa last Christmas, in turn I offered to enlighten her children about the affair she was having with another neighbor.

Neither happened.

Happy Santa November 29, 2010, 7:16 AM

OMG!! LET THEM BE CHILDREN!!! Why do we make children grow up so fast! Let them dream, fantasize and enjoy being a kid. They grow up SO fast! They will be dealing with harsh realities, bullies, mean people soon enough! There are many cartoon characters,movie characters, book characters & fairy tales that are not real either. No child was ever ruined for having an imagination. Let them enjoy it! I just want to know, who licked all the red off your sucker as a child and made you so bitter? -

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