If you'd rather relax with your vibrator than your husband, you'll love this.
So your sex life sizzles, and your guy is eager to please you. Yet sometimes -- OK, lots of times -- you'd rather masturbate than sleep with your guy. Or you may have the opposite problem -- occasionally your guy would rather get off solo, than have sex.
And you're left wondering: is this normal?
Here's the good news: Masturbating has nothing -- we repeat, nothing -- to do with how satisfied you are in bed. Experts say it's just a healthy way to channel your sexual energy. What's more, by experimenting with what feels good, you can better teach your guy how to please you. Plus, it provides quick relief to those sexual itches when you're home alone.
And the same goes for men, who in general experience more sexual urges than women (blame all that testosterone coursing through his body). In fact, according to a recent online survey, men pleasure themselves 4.9 times per week on average, compared to 2.8 times for women.
But if you're worried that your guy would rather fly solo than make love, know this: There are times when men swear off sex. If he's tired, stressed, or freaking out about money, he's more likely to crave low maintenance pleasure than worry about satisfying another person. In other words, he can avoid performance pressure.
Sure, you could always offer him a helping hand, but as long as playing solitaire doesn't replace the bond you have with your guy, just consider self-love another healthy aspect to your sexuality.