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One mom explains how porn can save your marriage.

man and woman in bed with tv on

Guest blogger Karrine Steffans: Last week, I told you how to make his fantasies come to life. Now it's time to kick it up a notch.

I know for some of you this will be the most difficult thing you've done since the first (and possibly last) time you tried a bikini wax. But hold tight, girlfriends, because what I'm about to tell you could possibly save your relationship.

First stop, porn!

Everyone has fantasies. Maybe yours is simply a day away from the children or tripping your mother-in-law down the steps. For men, however, fantasies most likely include sex. Men need variety and for you to use your imagination ... but when all you do is talk about the kids or how tired and stressed you always are, you sort of disqualify yourself from having the starring role in his fantasy. And your replacement? "Sluts with Butts #73."

I know. You want to vomit just thinking about it.

But the solution to this obstacle is simple. Associate yourself with the fantasy!

1. Slip into bed naked with your mate or in a highly provocative, slightly slutty get-up and pop in "Sluts with Butts #73."

2. As he turns on, get him off.

3. No need to try and compete with Miss Pussy Willow on the screen. He'll never meet her and even if he did, she wouldn't want him. Your only competition is yourself.

4. To really turn it up, record yourself in the act and make a new set of porn for your hubby to enjoy starring the both of you. If for no other reason, he'll watch just to see how he performed!

Don't quit on me now, girls! There's so much more to learn and do in the final and third part of our Strippers and Porn series. Stay tuned!

next: Wasted Youth: Freshmen Girls Beware
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Betty December 16, 2008, 3:54 PM

Are you serious? Do u know anything about men and porn ADDICTION! Your telling women to start this evil thing in thier relationship and then in a couple years it will ruin it! I came to this website to see if there was good info & I find this! I guess this website isnt for me.

anony December 16, 2008, 4:20 PM

I have to wonder if the author of this story has actually tried this. My dh and I had always had a GREAT sex life. Through good times and not so good. That is until we tried adding porn to it. In fact, our porno phase caused us to have less sex. The perfect bodies of the women in the films made me eventually feel self-conscious and it caused me to want sex less and less. I didn’t realize that that was why I was wanting less sex until we had grown out of our let’s try it for fun porno phase. I say you may want to try it for fun but be aware of the adverse effects it may ultimately have on your sex life.

Creme December 16, 2008, 6:03 PM

I have to agree with Karrine on this one ladies. She is right. Maybe not Porno tapes exactly, but what she is saying is:spice up your sex life. I just filmed a movie called “Why do men Cheat” and basically Women give up once they get the guy, or marry. WE have to stay sexy, keep him guessing. Change it up a little bit, like she said, get in the bed naked. or while the kids are sleep, walk around the house naked.(I do it and my man loves it) I have never been cheated on(not that i know off) and i believe it is because I challenge myself to stay current and abreast on what men want ( or my man). Every man is different, ask probing questions about his fantasies. Be sensual when touch him, even in the car on the way to work. From time to time be spontaneous and have sex somewhere other than the bed. Strip for him, or do a lap dance. Also, don’t bring your insecurities into the relationship. If you don’t have a big butt, work what you do have. Men and women alike love confidence. Be confident in your approach. Throw it on him, be aggressive sometimes. Get out of the norm, and try something new!

Kristyn December 16, 2008, 6:05 PM

Women…You have to know who this chic is…Karrine “Superhead” Steffans…known for her ability to perform fellatio for hours. She has slept with just about everyone in the industry. She was a video girl that slept with athletes, singers, rappers, actors, musicians from various genres and only she and God know who else, then this girl wrote a TELL ALL book about it exposing even the married men and their families. Oh she also did some porn with Mr.Marcus While I am not totally against porn…I dont need it in my marriage and i believe that too much of anything isnt good for you. But to take advice from her “Hell No!” She is writing another book on how to keep a man and she hasnt kept one yet. Google her or YOUTUBE her, you’ll find she is a total waste of time and hardly a REFORMED prostitute which is her claim to fame. The only demographic she is reaching is naive women with low self-esteem and some people that need to be overlooked. She’s a liar and a fraud. You may think I sound negative so YOUTUBE her and be youre own judge. ESPECIALLY HER INTERVIEW WITH MISS JONES!!!

Julie December 16, 2008, 6:15 PM

This woman is not even married. How would she knows what works? maybe this stuff works when your the “other woman” but not when your the wife..which she wouldn’t know cause she has NEVER been one.

Carrie December 16, 2008, 6:18 PM

**HOW CAN U SAVE MY MARRIAGE IF YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED?** I would just like to know who summoned this woman for marital sex advice? Karrine has provided a link from her site directly to her fans so dont be surprised when you hear people supporting this nonsense. I agree a marriage should be spicy and I would suggest you and your husband find things that turn you on equally. Love and attraction have to be a common denominator. I have been married for 15 years without incident (nothing is perfect). My husband and I have watched porn together maybe 5-10 times in our marriage and honestly we do better without it. While it can spice up your sex life, its much like taking a pain killer for a toothache meaning its only a temporary fix. There are many things that can set the mood BESIDES porn. My husband and I have done sensual massage, music, candles, toys, and talking. YES talking, because once he tells me what he wants I make sure he gets it and vice versa. There is a difference between sex and making freaky love to your man. Women do have to be uninhibited at times but I would not be taking sexual advice from a woman who IS NOT and HAS NOT ever had a husband.

Julie December 16, 2008, 6:22 PM

MOM LOGIC maybe you should get Carrie to write this..not a glorified ho who made money off of outing those she had dalliances with.

Linda December 16, 2008, 6:31 PM

just write in to momlogic if you feel so strongly

Myra December 16, 2008, 6:38 PM

This is repulsive and part of the reason why women have low self esteem because they think its ok to settle for less than they deserve. Why are stripper and porn necessary in a real relationship? isnt that inviting infidelity even if its idealistic. That might work when youre the side-hoe but not for my relationship. NONE of us are perfect but this female is ridiculous. She claims people are hating on her because of her success but honestly she is taking women backwards. A lot of these women that are cheering and supporting her must not really know much about growth. She wrote a book about all of her affairs that only sold because of the nosey people who wanted to see who the men were (I was guilty lol). I skimmed through it while under the hair-dryer just to see what the hype was. Well first of all it was poorly written, no intensity whatsoever and had she not named celebrities no one would care what she had to say because she was unknown. I think she is a fraud and she continues to create drama to stretch her 15 minutes. And I agree that Carrie shouldve written this article because she couldnt advise me on anything. She’s a cute but nasty girl and if she were less attractive her following would disappear. Didnt someone dump her in a trash can? And the new rumor is she is faking the pregnancy thing for publicity and she is actually giving birth to her new book. But Im not one to gossip lol

Myra December 16, 2008, 6:45 PM



Vicki December 16, 2008, 7:29 PM

Karrine is correct. Most women don’t know what men REALLY want. Karrine does.

shawty December 16, 2008, 7:33 PM

I agree with you Karrine 150%!!! Its simple and personal experiences with your mate that keeps things interesting. Even if the relationship ends….he’ll NEVER get YOU completely out of his head….EVER!!!! Anyone on here that dont agree….maybe thats why they have NO man around, or is always being OVERLOOKED LOL…brush those haters off Karrine!!!

@college_gurl December 16, 2008, 7:34 PM

WTF? If u don’t like what she has to say..then don’t read it….y’all losers…

Loracle December 16, 2008, 7:36 PM

Back up off my girl with your mouths now…. People make mistakes and go about learning lifes lessons sometimes different others… But take it from a very divorced woman (by choice) what you aren’t willing to do with your husband they will go find a Karrine that will! You have to do things to keep your relationship spicy. And all your husband thinks about is sex… Get over it and get with the program!

Chantelle December 16, 2008, 7:40 PM

How the heck could a woman whose claim to fame is being able to give “SuperHead” and run and tell her business to the world… think for one minute that women will listen to her? Clearly she’s a physcho who is in imaginary relationship’s with “Bow Wow” and Lil Wayne, because neither of them will claim her publicly?????? Chick need to SAT DOWN SOMEWHERE and go raise her child!

Nikki December 16, 2008, 7:41 PM

Momlogic…are you serious? This woman had her child taken away from her in 2006. How can this site have such a person write for them?? I am floored…

Anoyn December 16, 2008, 7:42 PM

hate on Karrine all you want. The chica knows her stuff. Keep a man or not when it comes to sex she is the one you want to ask. I DID pull up her tape on Frostwire a few weeks ago with Mr. Marcus and I was seriously “stuck on stupid”. I watched it and took mental notes and my husband has fallen in love all over again. I get “i love you texts” all day, flowers again, taken to dinner, cuddle sessions…and more love than I can stand right now…if that is what good head does then so be it. Try it instead of might just like it.

shawty December 16, 2008, 7:53 PM

Real Talk @ Anoyn, because her and Mr. Marcus taught me a thing or two also!!! I saw a man’s eyes cross for the first time in my life!!! And I was Proud…a few weeks later I had that fool sittin on my porch WAITING for ME to come HOME!!! These women need to quit sleepin on Karrine for real

Kim December 16, 2008, 7:58 PM

This trick Karrine kills me. How the hell you gonna give advice to any woman when all you’ve done is allowed yourself to be used as a sex tool for the majority of your adult life. She gets on twitter acts like she is better than people because she making some money now. Girl you deserve the money with all that sucking and screwing you did. My dignity and pride is worth more than any money you could ever make honey. You may have more money that some of the people but they didn’t have to do what you did to get that money, which means more. Now she is supposedly married, which is a lie… and she is so in love and so happy. Girl please…when people are as happy as she tries to portray, then they do go around talking about it all the time…people just know and sense the happiness. She is STILL screwing celebs… all of which don’t want to have anything to do with her. Anytime a man can’t publicly say you are his girl/wife…then that should tell you something.. She gets mad when someone asks her something about her life, but she put out a book telling all her business. Does she not understand that people could care less about the reformed (whatever) Karrine, all they want to know is about the people you screwed and how you got played… She has her little twitter followers who worship her like she is worthy of it…and then treats them like they are her kids.. I’m using this post to SPOTLIGHT her (as she does to others) and clear the air about this fronting, lying, pitiful lady, who lives this imaginery life… It has nothing to do with hating on her either. She feels like she can call people out so to her I’m doing the same.. I’m well off financially (which I attained the right way), I’m sitting pretty, I look better and I’m totally married (which she pretends to be)… So with all this being said, how in the hell should anyone listen to this chic, when she is still working on her own issues. She should take her own advice…Twitter about this!!

Kim, I speak the truth!!

Mommy Gone Crazy December 16, 2008, 7:58 PM

Funny how people are so quick to judge. Could it be that you are not confident with you own self. I would say a woman who has earned the title…and not self-proclaimed I might add as “Superhead” knows better that I - a stay at home mother of 4, going through the same routine day to day who simply needs to add some spice to our marriage. I think if you clicked on the article, you are interested in what would make it better or are you simply, being nosey and judging what you do not know. Knowledge is power, what you chose to do with it is your own issue. I’d be curious to know what makes Lil’ Wayne, Jay Z, Bow-Wow and the likes continue to come back for more even though they know they may be doomed to a public scrutiny by possible being a page in a book instead of picking some groupie would could easily disappear. That’s some serious p-power and I”m all about trying to make my husband happy! When he’s happy in the bedroom, I can do no wrong in the house! Believe THAT!

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