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Couple at strip club

Guest blogger Karrine Steffans says: Bring a stripper home with you! Now that I've gotten you all hot and bothered by suggesting you and your husband enjoy porn together (and even make some of your own), let's talk about your second favorite topic:


The premise is simple. If your man likes strippers, you may want to take the time to find out what he likes about them. Then, take it one step further and accompany him to your local Gentlemen's Club and take a gander for yourself.

Take a walk on the wild side and even get yourself a lap dance!

As prudes everywhere clutch their pearls, I expect the more adventurous women and couples to follow along.

Now, bring what you've seen and what he's told you he likes home with you. No, not in the form of another woman but by becoming your husband's very own live-in stripper!

Indulge in costumes and stilettos and even a pole-dancing class if you're serious about keeping your man at home and out of the nudie bar. Serve his dinner with a side of lap dance and never let a ball game go by without a little half-time entertainment.

Point blank: Keep him interested, keep him guessing and you will keep him at home!

This series has only dealt with the sexual portion of your relationship and, as we all know, there is so much more to a marriage. Question my knowledge if you will, but as a wife, an ex-wife and a past mistress, I have been both cheated with and cheated on. Finally, I found a formula that works for me and maybe, just maybe, could work for you.

All this and more can be found in "The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce and Keep the Man You Want," July 2009. Visit me at for more.

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Anonymous December 18, 2008, 12:56 PM

This makes me sick. I was all for the watching porn together, but from what I hear, men like strippers and hookers because they don’t require emotional attachment. You’re telling us all to objectify ourselves so our men won’t have a day without a lapdance, and if he does go a day without it, he’ll leave… does anyone else see what is WRONG with this?!

Samantha P. December 18, 2008, 10:44 PM

To Anonymous: How did you get THAT out of this piece????? LOL. Sounds to me like maybe you have some underlying issues and may want to vent to a counselor and not on Mom Logic! This is great advice for couples IF either one enjoys adult entertainment. With moderation and communication, it works well. My husband can testify to that! But good luck with your self consciousness!

Anonymous December 18, 2008, 10:57 PM

Tried. Didn’t work.

Anonymous December 18, 2008, 11:36 PM

I dont understand why ppl have sch a big prolem with strippers or with porn. If your mate is going to cheat they are not going to do it by watching porn, they are going out to get a real life, living breathing woman that they can touch. Watch a porn with your man, hes not thinking about no porn star, hes thinking about the two of you and how you could please each other. I watch porn with my man and I watch it without him.It does not mean Im not attracted to him so why should I think hes going to leave me for a stripper or porn star just because he looked. Thats nonsense. And why not give him a lapdance its double pleasure for him, he gets to see his woman act like she wants him, he gets to touch her and then some, plus he dont have to pay a cover charge! Have fun with your man and he wont have a reason to go checking outside the home for Besides ladies it works both ways, sex doesnt have to be a chore it can be fun for you too

ATwitter December 19, 2008, 12:14 AM

Well put I say KS! men are bored easily (period). I have a guy friend tell me this all the time! So KS is hitting the nail on the head! You have to keep their attention because their attention span is like a knat! So if you wanna keep him treat him! Or he treat himself to the strippers & the pornos!

KarrineUknowIknowUrbull December 19, 2008, 9:49 AM

Your are married to a young man(child really)BowWow who does nothing but goes to strip clubs & Next you was never married to Kool G Rap. So just say you are speaking from being a older wife to a young man who is still trying to enjoy his youth. But at any rate maybe your advise will help women who can’t get on their grown woman by themself and need advise but if that the case why doesn’t momlogic get Jenna Jamison or someone to speak she been married divorce and done every sexual thing. Because if your advise was so good you would have never got cheated on and far and behold your man would be content with your experience alone. Momlogic just bring a true porn star in not a low budget one and give advise to the needy. Quick tip be secure in yourself and stop feeling like you cant handle your man needs

CathrynMarie December 19, 2008, 3:40 PM

going to the titty bar w/ my dude rocks!! it gets him happy, gets me happy and we happy long time :)

Selene December 20, 2008, 11:19 AM

Karinne this is a great suggestion. Every man doesn’t go to the strip club. Guys that do either go for a fun evening or they are just into that kind of thing. But your average family man probably doesn’t frequent the strip club. Men like it when their wife thinks she’s sexy. If I think I’m sexy, he will think I’m sexy. There is nothing wrong with role playing and it will probably be really funny.

Women stop taking yourself so seriously and have fun :)

GtheGreat December 20, 2008, 11:18 PM

Good suggestion for the ladies. Our attention span is short and we fantasize alot! So what now be our fantasy…..sounds like a winner and it has stopped me from going out with the boyz plenty of times! lol

Anonymous December 21, 2008, 12:20 AM

Only one thing missing here…what is he doing for you? And “not leaving you for another woman or prostitute” is not a valid answer. I don’t mind giving my husband the bump n’ grind, but he knows he has to pay in kind somehow.

Nicole December 21, 2008, 9:52 AM

There is nothing wrong with letting your partner indulge in a fantasy or two. My wife and I go to strip clubs together and I never made it a big deal for her to go with her friends. I have no problem surprising her at home with a sexy outfit or a lap dance. Be a little more open minded ladies and you may be pleasantly surprised when you man starts paying you more attention than the strippers!

Neek December 21, 2008, 4:52 PM

I mean I don’t get why people come here just to get upset at her advice. It is just that, “ADVICE”. You can take it or leave it. What may work for some may not work for others, so you just have to take the article and apply it to your situation. If it works for you, great, if it doesn’t look for other advice elsewhere. Some of you are acting like she hired strippers, sent them to your house, and broke up your marriage. Calm down and lighten up. Your oversensitivity may be the real reason your man is never home.

James December 21, 2008, 6:23 PM

Neek is karrine. lol

Superman December 22, 2008, 12:18 AM

I agree with Selene. Women should stop taking themselves so seriously and just enjoy something with their man. My two dollars…Women, be happy and be whole. No man can give you what you dont already have. And someone mentioned what is he doing for you…if your man is not trying to pay you any attention, love him but do what you gotta do to be happy.

Angelique December 23, 2008, 1:52 AM

Aretha Franklin said it best, RESPECT, if you have to stoop to using strippers or porn as an inspiration for your sex life; there is no RESPECT. If you and your man have something special; you don’t need seedy outside influences of any kind. You need to focus on each other. If you are not enough for him to focus on; then he doesn’t deserve you. :)

bambina December 27, 2008, 8:28 AM

i think there is nothing wrong with spicing up a relationship at home, as long as the spice stays with the couple. i think the women up here are not ‘scared’ of strippers or porn, but do not want to condone their men INTENTIONALLY going to a place to be sexually stimulated by another woman. what woman in their RIGHT MIND would? keeping him “interested and guessing” does not keep a man at home, if what he desires is variety. THAT is what a strip club provides. “KS” can argue her ‘current marriage (or lack thereof), previous failed marriage, and jumpoff status gives credibility, but it doesn’t. A woman that has a successful marriage or marriage history does. OF COURSE a woman who was the “flavor of the week” for a married man will THINK they were providing something that the wife wasn’t (common misconception of the “other woman” as she wants to think of herself as being in some way special to that man or relationship for validity of her self worth), but men are not that deep. they just wanted someone else, variety. the wife could’ve done a split on his head after sliding down a pole in the skimpiest of outfits and he still would be tipping out to the strip club. Karrine, you know you are not qualified, stop trying to act like you are. How about this, have a successful marriage (if you are married you are in the honeymoon phase so using this marriage to say “this is what is working this time” is absolutely ludicrous), talk to several women and couples (instead of flirting with their men and thinking other women are jealous or stupid because they don’t think like men and can’t keep them like you THINK you can), gain some insight, take some classes, then blog…

to you women that are accompanying your men to the strip club, tell me what your experience was when your MAN accompanied YOU to a MALE strip club?? since it’s all about fun and spice….

jd January 6, 2009, 5:14 PM

completely disagree. why is it there are ALWAYS articles on what women have to do to please men…they even stoop to the level of allowing and condoning him going to strip clubs?!!!!

how many guys do you think would go to a male strip club with their wives to “learn.” Of course a man wrote this article…

this is immoral. and your’re right it’s not reflection that he doesn’t love you….it’s a greater reflection of the fact that he doesn’t have respect for women….is this the man you want to father your daughter some day. one who claims to love you…..but it engaging in sexual behavior with a third party.

to add insults to injury if you have class your called a “prude.”…..that’s like a terrorist saying i’m not a terrorist i have a phd in chemical engineering. yeah okay……it’s so pathetic how ppl don’t have any moral restraints these days….

they’ve taken something that was once supposed to be intimate between ONE MAN AND WOMAN and have turning in into a business/service…..and one that encourages married men to think about other women instead of their wives. yeah that’s just totally morally right.

devi January 6, 2009, 5:18 PM

it’s degrading. just because you don’t do it doesn’t make you a “prude” or “self-conscious.” I hate it when ppl do something wrong and they have the nerve to act like its you.

what’s right with paying a woman to take her clothes of. that’s cheapens the intimacy of sex. if you are in a relationship you commit to ONE person in all ways. this means you DO NOT include other parties.

it’s been my experience ppl that love each other aren’t as easily aroused by every other person of the opposite sex.

yes, these men are fantasizing about strippers and hookers and you know why? cheap sex is all they are about and they don’t respect women. is that the type of man you want.

and if you ask all of these so called “sexually liberated” ppl if they’d allow their daughters to be strippers guess what they would say. ….exactly because it’s wrong.

johng January 8, 2009, 6:15 PM

Ive noticed one recurring theme with the girls responding here…its always an “expectation” a quid pro qo..”whats he gonna do for me if I do this?” or as one of ya put it..”I don’t mind giving my husband the bump n’ grind, but he knows he has to pay in kind somehow.”

Has it ever occurred to you ladies that we men see that atitude and find it very selfish and a turn-off? Many women dont get the attention they need or want because of “atitudes” they display or expectations that a man is supposed to “read your mind” or “know what I want without me having to tell him” if you arent pleased during sex, a man knows and feels that, and he is lesss likely to want to subject himself to “failure” again. NOW before you girls rip my head off and shred it to deep redblood pieces of meat and toss it into the wind….I want to say that there are a lot of guys who are just jerks and to them it is about power and control..but to the “average” “thinking” guy..we feel that as much as you girls “like to communicate”, you fail us in the same manner we fail you.

Irene January 8, 2009, 10:27 PM

your that worried your husband is going to get bored and cheat on you? Your solution is to pay woman to parade naked in front of him? Maybe your should spice up your own sex life before investing in his own. Or maybe a man not a boy? Good Luck with that! Maybe if yo hire him a prostitute on your anniversary you’ll get flowers?

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