Homeschool Mom: Having my kids participate in Make-A-Wish is not such a wish come true.
I think the idea for Make-A-Wish is a wonderful one, but if being eligible for it means my children need to confront a reality that they aren't ready for, then I'm not sure it is such a wonderful thing. I have two kids with cystic fibrosis, which is a life-threatening disease, and so they are eligible to request a wish. Unfortunately I don't think that they have really grasped the idea that their life is actually threatened.
My son is 13, and my daughter is 10. They have six medications they take everyday, a couple of which take a good hour being aerosolized into their lungs by a machine. They take pancreatic enzymes every time they eat, and twice a day they have to do some kind of airway clearance, which is either by a vest that shakes and squeezes them for 15 minutes or by blowing into a plastic contraption. They are glucose intolerant and although they don't have to take insulin yet, they do have to monitor their blood sugar with sticks several times a week. You'd think they might be concerned, but amazingly enough, they just take their meds and do their treatments and carry on like normal kids.
I know lots of parents of children with CF who have had wonderful wishes granted and I can even guess the kind of wishes each of my children would desire. Yet, neither my husband nor I can bring ourselves to consider filling out the form because we both fear that suddenly the kids will think "I am going to die."
Denial you say? Perhaps, but I like to think of it as my Make-A-Wish, that they can enjoy their childhood and young adult life without fear. My husband and I can carry the burden of worry and the pain of what the future could hold until they are confronted by it, by either illness or adulthood. In the meantime, I guess, I believe peace of mind and everyday happiness is better that a blowout wish come true. Maybe, just maybe they will stay healthy long enough to make their own wishes come true.