Are You An Insecure B*tch?

Are You An Insecure B*tch?

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Happy New Year to all -- and for those with resolutions of physical or emotional betterment, Happy New You!

Guest Blogger Karrine Steffans: After getting some of you riled up with my past series of posts about porn and strippers, I realized how many of us are riddled and overwrought with insecurities, hate and spite.

We make resolutions to change our bodies and habits this time of year because we find fault in them. And though it seems natural to yearn for better and more, some of us have unhealthy and unrealistically stagnant views about our lives and ourselves. Some of us are self-loathers who wallow in our lack of physical and emotional currency and project our insecurities and inadequacies onto others in order to feel better about ourselves. Sometimes, it's a complete stranger and other times, it's those closest to us, our men even.

If this is you, your husband has either checked out or is on the verge. Men love confident, secure women with a purposeful sense of self and a complimentary spirit -- a woman who is so secure in herself that she possesses no loathing and cannot speak an ill word toward others.

Remember, the words you speak are a clear reflection of your soul and of your own happiness.

Keep your relationship strong or help save a dwindling romance by being kind and nonjudgmental toward others, yourself and your mate. Take pride in your life and body, establish and accomplish your goals and practice being an all-around better woman this year.

Get right with yourself -- and your man will follow suit.

All this and more can be found in The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce and Keep the Man You Want, July 2009. Visit me at Karrine.com for more.

55 comments so far | Post a comment now >>

I agree 100%. Confidence is so sexy

- Michelle

Posted 01/06/09 12:15 PM

Yes Confidence is all it takes…..So you are beautiful.

- Amy

Posted 01/06/09 03:26 PM

U go girl

- Horse Hockey Mallow

Posted 01/06/09 04:18 PM

What about being confident and your man or husband continues to bring up one’s past that has nothing to do with him to try and bring that confident woman down? Is it time to give up the relationship? What about men and there insecurities? Does one continue to put up with his *!it to make him feel more of a man?

- Anonymous

Posted 01/06/09 08:05 PM

Karrine you are so on target with this article. Hate in ones words are a manifestation of ones heart…you were already shining but you got ‘09 sis… Dawn

- SEQ

Posted 01/06/09 08:10 PM

In addition to my comment at 8:05pm…I don’t understand why women put each other down when our men are spending so much time trying to also. Some men start off as if he is the kindest person on Earth but when you have your own and you really don’t need his “things”…that person can change on a woman quick. KSteff makes a lot of good points in her article.

- Anonymous

Posted 01/06/09 08:12 PM

This is SOOO true. Women “hate on” other women ALL the time. Its SO not sexy and further indicative of the way in which the “hater” feels about herself.. nicely written.

- The Comeback Girl

Posted 01/06/09 08:12 PM

K-rock is on the money again. Confidence is the key. My niece is very attractive but her friend who Is less attractive always gets the guy. Her friend has a lot of confidence & my niece is very shy & pointing her own flaws.

- Brooke

Posted 01/06/09 08:25 PM

- Brooke

Posted 01/06/09 08:27 PM

Exellent words! I blieve you got the key to alot of women feelings..

- symeerah

Posted 01/06/09 08:43 PM

i agree when u feel good about urself u will feel good about others

- Anonymous

Posted 01/06/09 08:45 PM

I like this article because it sums up any and all resolutions that we have. Now, anyone who has anything negative to say will only be confirming the fact that ugliness only begets ugliness.

- Nikki Wadley

Posted 01/06/09 08:47 PM

Self-worth is to love yourself; despite your flaws. Everyone is human and we are made different for mankind. If we were all the same, life WILL BE BORING. As far as a man, you don’t live for a man. You live for your success in life and know that you are a women, that’s when a man notice you. He’ll see how confident in the manner you are in business, social and as well as in family matters. Men hate drama queens, that’s tacky. You can create a spontaneous relationship because in which men can get bored easily. It can create in making it a mystery and interesting (positively speaking)So, always be yourself, even though some women will hate; that’s all the better.

- KLOVE

Posted 01/06/09 10:15 PM

Preach Karrine!!! Nothing but real talk right here

- shawty

Posted 01/06/09 10:31 PM

Now I maybe a male, but I absoultely agree with this. The way I see things going on with relationships is that they are beginning for all the wrong reasons. Just like a male, a female needs to have their success and reputation. If a man was a man, they will respect it. In a relationship, you are doing things not just for you, but for the other person as well.

- Zolra Caston

Posted 01/07/09 12:04 AM

This woman knows her stuff. I’m just glad she’s able to reach a wider audience now. It’s no wonder why so many men and even many of us women are so intrigued by her. Keep up the good work Karrine.

- Lady Q

Posted 01/07/09 10:41 AM

I THINK ITS FUNNY HOW NONE OF THE OPPOSING COMMENTS ARE BEING POSTED.

- Schae

Posted 01/07/09 10:51 AM

I POSTED A COMMENT YESTERDAY USING MY LAST NAME AND THE COMMENTS WERE NEVER POSTED. I THINK THAT OFFICIALLY MAKES THIS SITE ONE THAT I WILL NOT BE FREQUENTING AND I WILL DEFINITELY BE SPREADING THE WORD

- Schae

Posted 01/07/09 10:57 AM

Schae, I know right? Momlogic hasn’t posted any of mine.

- my say

Posted 01/07/09 11:01 AM

WHAT KIND OF MESSAGE BOARD ONLY POSTS THE MESSAGES THAT THEY CHOOSE. I DONT KNOW IF THEY ARE IN CONTROL OR KARRINE BUT EITHER WAY I DONT EXPECT THEM TO DO WELL.

- Schae

Posted 01/07/09 11:13 AM