Guest blogger Real Moms Have Curves: I am fed up with dumb comments and questions about my race. Here's why.
When it comes to blacks and whites talking about race, I understand the inevitable discomfort and struggle for words and opinions that are honest, yet politically correct. If I say this, will I sound racist? Insensitive? Ignorant? Will she take offense? are some thoughts that are bound to come up.
According to the NY Times however, Barack Obama's win has actually become an instant icebreaker, allowing blacks and whites to talk more freely. But before you eagerly hop into these conversations using Barack as a stepping stone, let me give you a few of the top dumbest things never to say to blacks (from my own experience). Trust me, your social life will thank me:
1. You only like that book because it has a strong black female character (from my college professor).
2. Is all that hair yours? Can I touch it?
3. You don't sound black (which sounds like ... ?)
4. Do people in Africa wear shoes?
5. Kwanzaa is a bullsh*t holiday
6. You don't like fried chicken?
7. Do you have the same mother and father?
Yes, you would think that the above statements would come from uneducated people who have never read a book. Surprisingly, I get these cracks from people who hold degrees from some of the best schools in the country.
So after all the inauguration hoopla is over, the last martini downed and the last cheese cube munched, we will have a "black" president. I hope that he, with his beautiful family, will usher in not only a new day of political and economic stability, but also a time of open dialogue between different races on a worldwide level.
At the bare minimum, I am looking forward to a day where I can speak properly without getting strange looks, have long hair without a weave and turn down fried chicken with relish. It may not be as deep as Martin Luther King's dream, but it's a beginning.