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Guest blogger Karrine Steffans: Recently, I realized that many of my girlfriends are still having a difficult time coming to grips with the gift of oral sex ... that is, when they are not the ones on the receiving end of the gifting!

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Some men could care less and have no or little need for oral copulation -- and if this is your husband, congratulations, girl! However, more often than not, giving and receiving oral sex is a large part of a couple's sexual relationship and often times, for women, the most unpleasant.

If the slobbing of the knob is a big deal to your hubby, you owe it to him, yourself and to your marriage to at least give it an honest, wholehearted try.

After all, a man will either marry a woman who wants to have sex with him or cheat on his wife with one.

Pick a side, ladies, and if you are determined to give your husband what he wants and needs from you, prepare to prepare the penis and its surrounding areas.

The fact is, penises are not the prettiest or best-smelling things in the world, sometimes, and our men may need a little help with their manscaping, among other things ... like not gagging us half to death with the hair down there! Introduce him to the products and rituals that can help you be at ease down south and, soon, he'll like it too!

Trimming, waxing, wipes, powder and alcohol-free scented products are a great start. Let your mate know that there is nothing feminine about taking extra special care of his special place, but also, please let him know it's not so special right after he finishes playing ball with the boys! Ugh!

All this and more can be found in The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce and Keep the Man You Want, which hits stores July 13th. Preorder now and receive any time after June 24th.  Visit Karrine.com for more.


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bahamamama January 14, 2009, 9:38 PM

I agree with schae. We are taking advise from Karrine what seems to be lacking are the words of wisdom on how to be truly happy sex is a part of it no matter how much blow jobs you give a man if you are not happy it would not work it. why is it that she only gives one side to the stories, what are we to do if we do not want to give him oral sex? what is the advise on that?

Keashia WSilliams January 14, 2009, 10:42 PM

I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT THIS IS A LIE. MY BRITHER IS MARRIED AND ME AND HIS WIFE ARE GREAT FRIENDS. SHE DON’T CARE WHO KNOW THAT SHE GIVES HIM ORAL SEX AND HAVE BROUGHT IT UP WITH PEOPLE IN THE HOUSE AND HE WILL TELL YOU IN A HEART BEAT THAT SHE GIVES GOOD HEAD. ON TOP OF THIS SHE WORKS, HAS 4 KIDS AND THEY ARE A AND B STUDENTS. HE WORKS LIKE 12 HOURS, SO SHE DOES EVERYTHING AT HOME. GUESS WHAT HE HAVE CHEATED ON HER WITH AT LEAST 3 WOMEN THAT SHE KNOW OF AND HAVE 1 BABY SINCE THE MARRIGE. KNOW WYH DOESN’T HE KEEP IT AT HOME? THEN ON TOP OF THAT SHE WILL TELL YOU THAT SHE HAS TO MUCH RESPECT FOR HER AND HER KIDS TO SLEEP AROUND AND KNOW SHE IS LEAVING.

Pink Monkey January 15, 2009, 9:28 AM

Schae get a grip …u keep coming to the blogs for a reason. who cares what the main focus is sex or otherwise thats the whole point abt blogging writing about things that interest us as a writer and sharing with an audience

wow January 15, 2009, 11:17 AM

your crazy seriously

Anonymous January 15, 2009, 1:09 PM

The way I see it: what you won’t do, another woman is more than willing and able and ready to. I don’t know why some women are so afraid to look beyond the obvious when it comes to sexual gratification. I personally enjoy receiving as much as giving. We should embrace this new sexual revolution (in a cautious way of course) and explore.

iLLNiNi23 January 15, 2009, 1:29 PM

LOVE IT!!! kudos………..:)

cindy January 15, 2009, 2:27 PM

luckily my partner doesnt require all that much oral attention. though he did shock me once with some pubic hair dye product he read about in page six of the new york post. it was betty beauty i think. he dyed his down there blue! how cute ;)

butterflybetty January 15, 2009, 2:50 PM

Thank you Ebony Mystique for your eloquent and very true point of view.

Anonymous January 15, 2009, 3:22 PM

My take on this is that old school line, dont hate the player, hate the game. Like someone mentioned before, this is the love and sex tab on the site. Everyone have there different views on this topic, some females aint with the oral sex for your man thing and some are. Im one of those types who enjoy recieving as well as giving. Karrine may have done what she did in the past, but she knows why most of the men cheated on there significant others and wives with her, and she sharing this information to give other women something to think about. Because whether u want to believe it or not there is someone always out there trying to get your man, so once u get him u gotta work harder to keep him

PS where is that dye stuff yall talkin about lol

sinister mrs. January 15, 2009, 4:40 PM

Although I’m a fan of momlogic,I have to ask what makes you an authority? Please this is momlogic not one of your zero-blogs!!!!

Anonymous January 15, 2009, 7:57 PM

I DONT THINK GIVING HEAD WILL KEEP A MAN BECAUSE A MAN WILL CHEAT JUST TO HAVE SOMETHING NEW.

elisabethshane January 15, 2009, 7:58 PM

All i have to say is ..it’s about time ! tell truth girl, i’ve been the wife and then the other woman and what i learned is.. if you won’t do it for him someone else will ! Teach sista! do your thing!

anon January 15, 2009, 9:49 PM

Keashia WSilliams…you have horrible grammar. I had to say that. Sorry for getting off topic.

Anonymous January 15, 2009, 9:55 PM

Not all men cheat. Wow, some of you are so sad.

Also, if you know what you are doing and you do it well…no matter what it is half of the men will not stray. I will not say all cause there are some idiots out there that will. Believe it or not there are also women that cheat as well. Lets not forget that.

bonniet January 16, 2009, 8:53 AM

I think you hav a valid point with your statement regarding men keeping it clean down there but I will say that some men do not require that so much. Also, didn’t karrine just lose her man? How she gone be writing a “How To” manual? It is entertaining however!

Nicole January 16, 2009, 1:03 PM

At least she is writing about something that she actually knows about this time! She did name herself SUPAHEAD…even though she NOW claims that it was a name used in a personal relationship. She is such a fraud!

An open letter to Karrine:
http://www.defsounds.com/editorials/An_open_letter_to_karrine_steffans_aka_superhead

DaShaun January 16, 2009, 1:13 PM

Supahead, you are hilarious. Your writing is poor at best. And here you are giving young black women advice on relationships…shame on you! What makes you such an expert..the fact that you slept with every other rapper in the industry? You can’t even keep a man and yet you give advice on it!Every man you have dated has dumped you and then you run to the press to tell the PUBLIC how they mistreated you. No honey they just realized how low class you are and decided not to put a ring on it. But then you tell people your personal life is your business. You are a hyporcite at BEST.

Married? A joke. What self respecting man would marry you? You went as far as to give advice to a woman telling her that 3 years was not enough time to marry someone..yet you were sleeping around with any celeb that looked at you in the past 2 years and NOW you’re married. You’re a joke!

DeShaun January 16, 2009, 1:14 PM

Supahead, you are hilarious. Your writing is poor at best. And here you are giving young black women advice on relationships…shame on you! What makes you such an expert..the fact that you slept with every other rapper in the industry. You can’t even keep a man and yet you give advice on it? Every man you have dated has dumped you and then you run to the press to tell the PUBLIC how they mistreated you. No honey they just realized how low class you are and decided not to put a ring on it. But then you tell people your personal life is your business. You are a hyporcite at BEST.

Married? A joke. What self respecting man would marry you? You went as far as to give advice to a woman telling her that 3 years was not enough time to marry someone..yet you were sleeping around with any celeb that looked at you in the past 2 years and NOW you’re married. You’re a joke!

tiffany January 16, 2009, 2:57 PM

Very good excerpt about oral, i have never done it before and everyone looks orund me looks down on it hmm makes me wonder

alexus January 17, 2009, 2:25 PM

sorry, I know I’m young but ‘we owe it to the guy if he wants it’? Should the same be said about intercourse? What about what we feel and maybe there’s a reason we hesitate.


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