211,500 jobs have been lost this month ... but that's no reason to end it all.
Ervin Antonio Lupoe and his wife Ana lost their jobs two days ago, and today they're both dead, along with their five children. Yesterday morning, the LAPD walked into the the grizzly murder-suicide scene. Before Lupoe killed his whole family and took his own life, he called 911 to say he just got home and found the family dead and then faxed a letter to a local news station.
Ervin and Ana are former employees of Kaiser Permanente West Los Angeles Medical Center. In a letter Lupoe wrote to a local news agency, he said, "My wife felt it better to end our lives and why leave our children in someone else's hands."
How can a mom and dad be pushed to the point of killing their whole family? Rabbi Sherre Hirsch, author of "We Plan, God Laughs: Ten Steps to Finding Your Divine Path When Life is Not Turning Out Like You Wanted," says that sort of financial pressure and strain can sometimes feel like too much to bear.
"This is a wakeup call to how important it is to have those difficult conversations about finances," she says. "A lot of people have come to me for counseling who are greatly stressed by money. After all, money problems are the leading cause of divorce in this country. In an economic strain, people often lose perspective. They think something like foreclosure or losing a job is a life-or-death situation, when it doesn't have to be. That's why talking to someone else is crucial, to help you regain perspective."
If you can't bring yourself to talk to your spouse, Hirsch recommends starting out by talking to a counselor or clergy member, friend, or financial advisor. "This will help remind you that you're not alone," she says. "Millions of Americans are in the same boat you are. Even if you lose your house, you still have your family. Your husband and your kids -- that's home. In the end, that's all that really matters."
Why do you think these parents chose to end it all?