Guest blogger Karrine Steffans: So, maybe it's been a few days or weeks since you and your hubby enjoyed each other, sexually. Don't panic. Though your man probably loves sex just as much as the next guy, and loves you for that matter, many times he simply needs to know you find him sexually attractive, no matter how many pea-green diaper messes you've accidentally stuck your fingers in today.

Next time you pass him on your way to your cranky toddler, grab him and let him know you can't wait to have him again. Next time he takes out the trash, kiss him passionately, look him in the eyes and let him know how much you love and appreciate him. It's amazing what a simple wink or caress will do during hectic times.

Let him know you recognize the changes in your sex life, that you care, are eagerly awaiting your first opportunity to scratch that itch and, most importantly, before anything and after everything, love that man.

Foreplay begins weeks, days and hours before you get naked and there is no aphrodisiac as effective as true love and caring for your partner.

We work full-time in and/or out of our homes and we sometimes lose track of our men, thinking they can take care of themselves. But they're your babies, too, and need you just as much. So, tell that man just how much you can't live without him and, first chance you get, f***k him silly!

For more, read The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce and keep the Man You Want, July 2009. More info at Karrine.com.

Karrine Steffans is a stay-at-home mother of two. A New York Times best selling author, she is a pop culture figure who has injected her real life experiences and advice into a new generation of women and demographics commonly overlooked.