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The Meanest Mom: Like most mothers of multiples, I get approached by lots of curious people when I'm out on the town. Most people just want to state the obvious --"Oh! You have twins!"-- but a growing minority also want the answer to a strange question:

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"Are your twins real?"

After checking my sons' vital signs and poking them with sticks, I put forward my best guess.

"I don't know for sure," I say, "But it appears that they are."

Although I pretend to play stupid, I know exactly what people want to know when they ask me this question: were my twins conceived "naturally" or through fertility treatments? Besides being none of their business, this question implies that babies produced in test tubes and Petri dishes are somehow less human or authentic than children produced without reproductive assistance.

My four children came into my family through dramatically different avenues: one through adoption, two through in-vitro fertilization, and one the old-fashioned way. Though their paths to my home may be unconventional, I assure you that all of my children are REAL.

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5 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anonymous January 5, 2009, 12:07 PM

No one ever asked me if my twins were real but I have had several ask if they natural or if I took drugs to get them. Strangers have asked. I think it is really rude and no business of anyones!

evonne January 5, 2009, 9:05 PM

I’m 15 and an in-vitro child
I hateee getting asked if im “real” or a “science experiment” it hurts my feelings.
I think its cool

maeby January 6, 2009, 1:39 PM

What a rude question to ask someone.
I also hate the question about if i had my children “naturally” or with “drugs”. What the heck does anyone care?? Well if you must know: both. i took the drugs but they didnt work (EVERYTIME) so i did it naturally and painfully the way you wanna hear it.

favoritegirl January 8, 2009, 3:33 PM

Wow, I’m totally shocked! I never realized that people were that rude. I mean, no matter how the baby was conceived, it’s still a precious baby, so who cares?

Ju February 24, 2009, 9:34 PM

WHAAAT??? Are people really that shallow? Damn right it’s no-one’s business! Babies are babies! I got lucky and didn’t need any help through IV, though I’m glad that option is open. It’s probably the same people that ask “Are you pregnant?” when a woman starts looking a little round.

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