My Baby Prefers My Hubby and I Hate It!

 

Just don’t let it get to you. Even though it can be sort of vexing. Just go with the flow an the next time, silly as this sounds, when you feel upset…. take out a deck of cards from your pocket an just play a game. Your childs attention will be absorbed into the idea of playing cards with you, releaving that tention. Sounds silly but a cheap deck of cards works everytime. Eventually, “Daddy’s Girl” will be Mommies hard playin’ poker buddy. Good luck an just remember with time all good things eventually pass. Children grow so fast so enjoy while you can. Take this affection she spends on Dad as time for you to do a load of laundry, wash dishes or do something for yourself. Start a garden or a small hobby an when you feel perplexed about the “Daddy, daddy…. syndrom. Go do something instead an don’t have negative feelings cause it will hurt future relationship between all three of you. Just learn to smile an go on. IT will all turn out okay.

- PaleAnt

Posted 01/06/09 04:53 PM

 

 

my son is almost 2 and he wakes asking for daddy, goes to sleep asking for daddy, only will let daddy dress him , feed him, change his diaper, brush his teeth…he comes to me when he wants me…throws fits for me etc….i take advantage of the time he does want with me , and take advantage of the free time to clean and be with the older children..sometimes it hurts my feelins but overall i feel very confident when i have to go somewhere or anytime i’m not home that my son is very happy and content with daddy

- JENNY

Posted 01/06/09 05:02 PM

 

 

My situation is the complete opposite. I am a stay at home mom and my 2 year old daughter clings to me every waking minute. She calls for me when I put her down to go do laundry, fix a meal or even go to the bathroom. Don’t get me wrong, she loves her daddy too, but it gets hard when only my kisses will fix the boo-boos. The hardest is at night, after shes been read her bedtime story and were ready to give hugs and kisses goodnight, she gives them to me first then when daddy leans down to get his she refuses to give them and reaches for me, whining and welling up tears. I say “Now it’s time for daddys hugs and kisses sweetheart.” But no matter what she refuses and by this time she’s crying for me. I know this is hard for her dad, it’s hard for me to watch. And I don’t want him to resent me for it either. He works all the time and whenever he has a free second he’s always spending it with her, but nothing changed. So I know where your coming from, but from the other point of view. And just to let you know, i’ts hard on us too.

- Evas Mom

Posted 01/06/09 05:24 PM

 

 

You don’t say if either of you stay home with your daughter but it is my observance, as a school teacher turned stay at home mom turned day care owner return to stay at home mom that my kids prefer the person who they are with the most. For instance, I had major back surgery and spent a good 4 months in my own bedroom, not always in bed, but certainly not with my family where my then 2 year old could jump on me and such. In the beginning my husband complained because my son would cry for me. Before it was over, he preferred my husband over me. Now with boys that are 4 and 6, things are different again because I’m home all day with a 4 year old and the 6 year old goes to school. The 4 year old prefers me far and away and the 6 year old doesn’t care. But both of my kids refer to our bedroom as “momma’s room” and our bed as “mamma’s bed” and if they ever want to sleep with “us”, they always want to know, “can I get in Mamma’s bed?” It is just what becomes familiar. I was out a few times before Christmas after dark and way before it even got dark my 4 year old would start asking “where is mommy”, “is mommy coming home?” “why is mommy not here, it is dark?” My husband is already dreading me going to Blissdom 09 in February because he knows how the 4 year old will handle it. My husband often has to go back into work because he is on call and neither of my kids mention that he is not here and it is dark outside. I say often, more like once every 3 months or so but still, they don’t seem to notice when he isn’t here if he works late but even if I am just at my mom’s and it starts getting dark, they start asking questions. So, I have to agree with the folks who say, it will change, it will come with time that her preference will change. Now, that said, I’m not too much of a believer in such a thing as a “daddy’s girl” at that age. Honestly, I was a daddy’s girl. My mom and I have two total opposite personalities with mine being much like

- Jerri Ann

Posted 01/06/09 07:16 PM

 

 

We have gone through the same sort of cycles with our 3 year old. First she likes mommy and not me and then then vice versa. What has worked for us is to make sure that she spent enough alone quality time with each of us. For instance, my daughter and I would go alone on a special shopping outing, water country, or canobie lake park etc.. This sort of thing made great memories and helped too since most of the days during the week are spent with my wife. Additionally, having a regular dinner and having both parents reinforce the fact that she likes both of us and we like her both too helps. Good Luck! - Wildman

- Wildman

Posted 01/06/09 08:02 PM

 

 

Canobie Lake Park? Woohoo! Count me in, Wildman. That will turn a kid into a daddy’s girl, at least for the afternoon. But I love the idea of playing cards; that was a special thing I shared with my grandfather. I will need this tip, since my girlie calls for daddy all the time. But since he stays home with her and I had “full custody” while she was nursing, I can’t really complain. And she’s only 14 months, and extremely good-natured and equanimous, so her tantrums so far are really mild and brief. Good luck to all of us…

- Karen S

Posted 01/07/09 03:13 AM

 

 

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