For 20 years, I've had more guy friends than girlfriends -- and I like it that way!
Momlogic's Jen: I learned at a pretty young age that a guy could be just as good and sometimes even better of a friend than most girls. And no, I wasn't a tomboy or boy crazy -- just a drama-free girl trying to enjoy life and have some fun with friends I could connect with.
I have to be honest when I tell you I never really had luck with "girlfriends" because they were always jealous of me and trying to compete with me. They always stabbed me in the back and didn't really understand me at all -- so I found the best group of guy friends a girl could ask for.
I know you're thinking about that "When Harry Met Sally" myth, that it's impossible for girls and guys to have a platonic friendship without sex getting in the way. Well, I did hook up with a couple of them way back in the day, but I also met my amazing, loving, smart and kind husband of nine years through these same guy friends!
Years later, I'm still friends with all of these guys who have become my psuedo-brothers, which is way better than friends with benefits. I consider myself pretty lucky to have 15 guys who are always concerned with my best interests, who make me laugh, who will tell me the honest-to-God truth -- and are my husband's closest friends, too!
My husband encourages me to stay friends with them, and we talk to them separately all the time. I talk to them on my way home from work. When something good or bad happens, I get excited to hear about their new love or a hot date. I'm proud of them when they start a new business or graduate from medical school. And -- guess what -- instead of them competing with me, they are also HAPPY for me when something goes my way! Oh, and the best part?? They never judge me! They know me better than my own siblings!
I know some married couples can't imagine having friendships with the opposite sex, and even frown upon it. I say you are missing out on some of the best friends in the world.Do you have guy friends? Does it bother your husband that you have friends of the opposite sex? Do you think it's OK?