Guest blogger Leslie Adler: Dear Rona, You certainly are a winner in the battle of the bulge but as far as friendship goes, I would deem you both losers in "The Friendship Court."
True friendship is deeper than your appetites and greater than your waist sizes. You have to find a way to communicate with Cathy -- and you should consider an approach that does not imply that being overweight means one is "not in control of their life." You should tell her you love her regardless of what she looks like and you hope she can see it the same way. Tell her how losing the weight has improved your life but communicate that your diet success doesn't make you feel better than her and shouldn't make her feel worse than you. Explain that if and when she is ever ready you would love to be her coach and partner in a weight loss effort. ...and that no matter what weight either of you is at, you would like for the two of you to be great friends. Good luck and thanks for "Tellin' It To The Vuv!"