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Radical Mommy: Here's why I think there should be weight restrictions on people adopting a kid.

A fat man sitting on a bench

I recently read a story about a British couple, Damien and Charlotte Hall, who applied to adopt a child but were denied because the husband is 6-foot-1 and weighs a whopping 343 pounds with a body mass index (BMI) of more than 42. Basically, the adoption authority told him he is too fat to adopt.

At first I couldn't believe my eyes, and then it finally sunk in. Finally! Someone with some sense had stopped the needless spread of obesity by denying their request and not letting this man (and his chubby wife) get his hands on a child and doing the same thing to him or her that he's done to himself.

In case you're thinking to yourself, "He's not THAT big," let me fill you in on a few body fat facts. According to the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute, Hall's BMI was not "just" above 42 ... it was a whopping 45.2.

So you know, a normal BMI is between 18.5 and 24.9 (144-188 lbs), an overweight BMI is 25-29.9 (189-227 lbs), and an obese BMI is anything above 30 (227 lbs). So, to me, the fact that Hill, 37, is a gargantuan 15.2 points, and 100+ pounds ABOVE an obese BMI is shocking.

Now I know all you (fat) bleeding hearts out there are cursing the ground I walk on (again) but before you go any further, I want to ask a question. Would you let someone with terminal cancer adopt a child? NO. Why? Because, should the person (who I'm sure is a loving and deserving parent) die, then that child will be left alone AGAIN! And it is not in the best interest of any child to be knowingly placed into a home where a parent might die at an early age.

In case that didn't convince you, then let me ask you another question. Would you let someone with a drug or alcohol addiction adopt a child? NO. Why? Because living with someone who has an addiction, any addiction, is not healthy.

Once again, I know you're saying to yourself, "This woman is crazy -- how can she liken obesity to drug addiction?" Well, let me tell you how, people. People who are obese are so because they eat too damn much -- no other reason. I don't want to hear, "Oh it's genetic, oh I have a slow thyroid" or any other such bullsh**t. The fact is that only about 2% of all obesity is a result of genetics or illness -- the rest is a result of purely and simply stuffing too much food in your face. END OF STORY!!!

No one on this earth can tell me that they are actually happy being overweight. Yeah, you might accept it and tell yourself, "Oh, I love myself, I'm fine the way I am." Well, I think that is nonsense. How can you love yourself when all you see in the mirror is double chins, rolls of fat, and quite literally the picture of unhealthiness? If you do, you're in denial.

Also, there's the fact that parents with serious weight issues (and I'm not just talking about being 20-30 pounds overweight here) more often than not pass unhealthy eating habits AND obesity on to their kids. That to me is abusive -- and you would never let a family knowingly adopt a child if they were going to be abused. Would you?

Don't worry, though. In a letter, the adoption authority told the couple that Damien's BMI must be below 40 before the couple could even be considered as potential parents because of the risk that he could get sick -- or even die due to his weight. Basically that means that all he has to do is drop 30 pounds and then they will be eligible to adopt. This is something I don't particularly agree with since he will still be VERY obese.

Now, I'm not saying that this man and woman are bad people, and I'm not saying that I don't think that they wouldn't make amazing parents, because they probably will. All I'm saying is that there should be rules about how fat you can be when it comes to adopting (and maybe even having) kids.

Who agrees with me? Comment in the momlogic community.

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K April 26, 2011, 8:14 PM

I would rather have a fat person raising a child than someone like you who is judgmental, mean, and a jerk. What do you think your attitude teaches? I bet you were that kid in school who picked on others because of their hair color, clothes, height, weight, etc. weren’t you? My gosh, I feel sorry for your family.

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